Hi Everyone. I'm having a dilemma regarding my kids. My nine year old twins have been friends with this girl, Sarah, for a couple of years now. I have been on every field trip, every party, and I have gotten to know this child. She is very manipulative. I don't mean to sound harsh, but this child is a complusive liar. She tells the most outrageous stories, and will go to any length to get what she wants. My girls are naive about things like this. They come home and say things like, "Sarah and her Mom are living in a cardboard box in the alley, because a bad man came in and stole their stuff and all of their money." or, "Sarah's mom's car blew up and killed a bunch of people". I know this isn't true, because they live a few streets over from us. I've also asked the teacher. Now, they are at the age where they want to have sleepovers and go places. Well, first of all, I would never let my girls spend the night with anyone, unless I knew the parents personally. Then, they start begging me to let this girl come to our house. I really don't want my kids around her. How do you protect your kids from things like this?
Thanks,
DeNae
Hi Denae..When I was faced with stuff like this with my kids, I put my foot down and said..NO. Sometimes we have to be the parent and trust our instincts.
I feel sorry for her but she's not your problem. You've got your hands full enough with your own kids. You can't stop them from seeing her at school but if you feel that strongly about her, don't have her in your home.
Just my opinion...
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Lisa
I feel sorry for her but she's not your problem. You've got your hands full enough with your own kids. You can't stop them from seeing her at school but if you feel that strongly about her, don't have her in your home.
Just my opinion...
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Lisa
I agree with you 100%, but how do I explain this to my kids? I don't want to come out and say, "No, she tells lies"... and believe me, when I tell them, No, they want to know why. This girl has even asked me, in front of her own mother, why can't she come over to our house? Talk about an uncomfortable situation. Its so hard to be diplomatic.
Ah that sucks. I don't know how to do that diplomatically. Do you just be mean or give in because you don't want to hurt feelings..I don't know.
I guess you could just tell your kids that you don't care for her or you can keep making excuses and hopefully they'll give up and move on to a new friend.
We can't protect them forever but when they're little like this, you bet we can.
Good luck hon, I don't envy you at all...
Cowgirl
I guess you could just tell your kids that you don't care for her or you can keep making excuses and hopefully they'll give up and move on to a new friend.
We can't protect them forever but when they're little like this, you bet we can.
Good luck hon, I don't envy you at all...
Cowgirl
