I need some opinions...advice....from people who are not in the sitution.
Since detoxing from methadone, bf took naltronxe for 3 months, during which time was using cocaine, the frequency of using was getting less but using the whole time (for example, once a week to maybe once every 2 or 3 weeks) then in sept he stopped taking naltronxne because he didnt like the side effects. since then he used cocaine and heroin one month ago, cocaine last week and both yesterday.
His parents reaction to him using yesterday is to not give us the apartment to move into. They think that the only solution now is to go into a long term treatment centre (for about 3 years). They think the situation is getting worse, bf doesn't. I dont know.
Bf has already spent 1 and half years in a long term treatment centre that unfortunetly wasnt very good, and this means he wont even accept the idea of going to a long term centre.
The methadone clinic where he went b4, they always want him to go to a long term treatment centre and dont offer other treatments for him.
he wants to do it himself.and in one way i think he has been doing a lot better. he is using but he has cut down and isn't using like he was last year.
But am I kidding myself over this, wanting to believe him but when in reality, he is not on the way to recovery?
The part about the house.....should we still look to move out, or speak to his parents about the flat. Living with his parents is difficult at times, not only because living with parents, but having our own space and lives is important....spending all our time in one room can be suffocating and stressful at times. all the doctors and psychologists have said that he needs to move out of his parents house (along with lot's of other things....like psycological treatment)
his parents are really worried about us living alone, as bf doesnt have job at the moment and they worry that he will relaspe badly. as here they think things are more under control. bf says it makes no difference.
I dont think i am explaining this all very well, but from your outside point of view what do you see?
ok--so what is going through my head may not be what you want to hear--i am onhis parents side--he needs help--fpr an addict ANY using is bad--like they say in NA one is too many and a thousand is never enough with drugs. he doesnt seem to be getting the clue and im sure he feels that thye are being horrible and unfair-but compared tomy parent and what i would see fit they are being generouse to let y'all live there with them jobless and all--if i was his parents i would be worried his own partment would turn into a free for all at my expense--sure i think 3 years is a long time--he needs to maybe find options on his own instead of being angry they arent giving them--go after what you want and he needs to prove that he can handle the resposibility of his own place and his own life--as for you--i think you should look really deep into your wants and needs in life and ask yourself if he is willing to be apart of your dreams and goals, he has a long road ahead of him if he continues using--even if its less now than it has been-it wont stay that way. you seem very caring and i know you will mostlikely keep this up as long as you can--i did, just please --NO BABIES and DONT TRY DRUGS FOR YOURSELF!!!! you have enought o worry about--let him know abou this sitew and keep coming back here--we have a lot of experience and ideas when it comes to these things--as painfull as my words may be--please dont think i think bad of him or you--i am was and still am just the same
Hi Sasha,
How's my favorite Italian living, loving dear one?
Sasha, Amity she's right so many times and her post made much sense.
Well, honestly Sasha...........I'm thinking no too.........on him just kicking and quitting on his own..............BUT maybe the move would force some things........give him a different view............I truly feel for him........and you know I care for you.
I hate saying yeah his parents are right.............help is needed big time.
Hope you are alright............you've been through so much.
How's my favorite Italian living, loving dear one?
Sasha, Amity she's right so many times and her post made much sense.
Well, honestly Sasha...........I'm thinking no too.........on him just kicking and quitting on his own..............BUT maybe the move would force some things........give him a different view............I truly feel for him........and you know I care for you.
I hate saying yeah his parents are right.............help is needed big time.
Hope you are alright............you've been through so much.
