As I sit here on side of my daughter, in the ICU unit at the hospital because she overdosed ...again, I wonder to myself, have I lost her? This time it was Meth, Weed and Spice plus liquor. She was found under her bed, naked, totally knocked out. Once the ambulance got to the house and finally found her, she started having seizures. Her boyfriend was layed out on the floor also from an overdose for the same reason. I don't know what to do....I'm loosing my mind. She has overdosed approximately 10 times. She's been on life support twice due to overdosing. I've begged her to go into rehab voluntarily, but she wont. The morning that she overdosed, the police officer gave me a card to bring the judge to have her picked up by law enforcement due to her being a danger to herself. He told me that they will pick her up and personally bring her to an inpatient rehab. I feel like I've lost not only her but myself as well. I can't sit and watch my daughter destroy herself or end up killing herself. She seems to be getting worse and worse. Dear LORD what can I do? I'm crying out for help in order to help my daughter to survive. To get away from this black hole she is in,....to get away from the devil that has his claws so tight inside her. She has stolen from everyone. She lies, she's manipulative, she cries to get her way. She has lost both her children. She needs a very long term inpatient rehab center. I'm just praying my heart out that the judge will have her picked up and put in rehab. Please, any suggestions or advice....I desperately am in need of it. Thank you so much for reading my post. I'm so scared, I'm beyond myself, I'm absolutely terrified!
Please look up the local Nar-Anon and Al-Anon groups in your area.
They are meetings for family and friends of alcoholics & addicts.
They are rooms full of folks just like you. They can help you.
Click on "find a meeting"
http://www.al-anon.org/
http://www.nar-anon.org/
All the best.
Bob R
They are meetings for family and friends of alcoholics & addicts.
They are rooms full of folks just like you. They can help you.
Click on "find a meeting"
http://www.al-anon.org/
http://www.nar-anon.org/
All the best.
Bob R
Terrified Mom,
There's very little one can say to inspire hope in times like these, but hope is all we truly ever have. First thing is to hope she gets beyond the bed she's in & in better environment. Preferably somewhere where she can detox & see beyond the darkness she's living in. Darkness is where these kids are ....We have to try to be as strong as we can be & pray they'll see the light before it's too late.
Sadly, I know you're heartbroken, terrified, to say the very least. It's all so sad to see your child suffer in any form. It's hard to take. A mother's love knows no boundaries. No matter what they do, they're still our babies, always will be.
Finding her & her bf, was lucky. How did the ambulance people know to go there, if I may ask? It's a blessing they got there when they did.
My daughter (20yr-heroin) OD'd on Mother's Day. You however, have had the very bad luck of having it happen to your daughter repeatedly. I cannot begin to imagine how you feel sitting there at her bedside, as you do. If I could I'd hold your hand, but I can only hope knowing others care, comforts you in some degree.
I remember sitting at my daughter's bedside while she thankfully passed out, asleep. That was when she wasn't screaming at me. I remember all the thoughts I had in my head. The fear was fierce. I felt like someone hit me as hard as they could, and I sobbed & sobbed. I sobbed like that when I lost a baby years ago. It is the worst feeling imaginable & I'm so sorry you are there with those same fears.
Do you have family to support & comfort you? I'm so sorry she lost her kids. Are you able to see them? I hope so.
There's always someone here to post to & get feedback from. It helps if only to vent & air out your mind a little. Just a little break. I hope you let yourself cry. I've thanked God for the ability to do that. If not for tears, I would have exploded long ago. You deserve to cry, no one can be strong all the time.
How awful drug addiction is. I miss my daughter terribly. She says she's not using, but I think she is. Haven't seen her in 6 weeks. She's not working, kicked out of school, no friends, but the boyfriend. It all sounds all too familiar. To hear you say she lies, steals from everyone, manipulates, cries to get her way, etc...For a minute there, I thought you were talking about my daughter. You're not alone. You've just had FAR more than your share.
Maybe you should hold onto that card the cop gave you, just in case. It would be good to have it in your back pocket. Who knows what will happen down the road, ya know?
In the meantime, you are stronger than you think. Please keep posting. There's a reason we're all here. We need each other & it helps.
post again... please~....
Love & God bless,
Dee
There's very little one can say to inspire hope in times like these, but hope is all we truly ever have. First thing is to hope she gets beyond the bed she's in & in better environment. Preferably somewhere where she can detox & see beyond the darkness she's living in. Darkness is where these kids are ....We have to try to be as strong as we can be & pray they'll see the light before it's too late.
Sadly, I know you're heartbroken, terrified, to say the very least. It's all so sad to see your child suffer in any form. It's hard to take. A mother's love knows no boundaries. No matter what they do, they're still our babies, always will be.
Finding her & her bf, was lucky. How did the ambulance people know to go there, if I may ask? It's a blessing they got there when they did.
My daughter (20yr-heroin) OD'd on Mother's Day. You however, have had the very bad luck of having it happen to your daughter repeatedly. I cannot begin to imagine how you feel sitting there at her bedside, as you do. If I could I'd hold your hand, but I can only hope knowing others care, comforts you in some degree.
I remember sitting at my daughter's bedside while she thankfully passed out, asleep. That was when she wasn't screaming at me. I remember all the thoughts I had in my head. The fear was fierce. I felt like someone hit me as hard as they could, and I sobbed & sobbed. I sobbed like that when I lost a baby years ago. It is the worst feeling imaginable & I'm so sorry you are there with those same fears.
Do you have family to support & comfort you? I'm so sorry she lost her kids. Are you able to see them? I hope so.
There's always someone here to post to & get feedback from. It helps if only to vent & air out your mind a little. Just a little break. I hope you let yourself cry. I've thanked God for the ability to do that. If not for tears, I would have exploded long ago. You deserve to cry, no one can be strong all the time.
How awful drug addiction is. I miss my daughter terribly. She says she's not using, but I think she is. Haven't seen her in 6 weeks. She's not working, kicked out of school, no friends, but the boyfriend. It all sounds all too familiar. To hear you say she lies, steals from everyone, manipulates, cries to get her way, etc...For a minute there, I thought you were talking about my daughter. You're not alone. You've just had FAR more than your share.
Maybe you should hold onto that card the cop gave you, just in case. It would be good to have it in your back pocket. Who knows what will happen down the road, ya know?
In the meantime, you are stronger than you think. Please keep posting. There's a reason we're all here. We need each other & it helps.
post again... please~....
Love & God bless,
Dee
Hi, If I was you I'd use the card the policeman gave you and have her put into rehab. It will keep her safe and time away from the boyfriend will be good too. Once in rehab she will get a chance to see what it's like to be sober and maybe want to continue on this path. Read under "Success Stories" there are people on there that have blogs and it will let you see that she can get clean and away from drugs.i just recently found these blogs myself. Reading them give you hope. Mary.
I deeply thank each of you for the much needed support.... the GOOD LORD know I need it. My daughter and her boyfriend were living with my Aunt. My Aunt heard a loud noise coming from the bathroom. She tried to open the door and couldn't get in. And she couldn't find my daughter anywhere, even though her car was there. My Aunt called me and told me what was going on and I told her to admittedly call the ambulance. I knew in my heart what was going on. When I arrived at my Aunts house, the ambulance fire trucks and officers we're already there working on them. I, as before, didn't know what to do but stand and watch while the medics were trying to get both of them to breathing again. My daughter started having severe seizures her eyes rolling back in her head and foam coming from her mouth. I'm standing there thinking, I'm her mother, I should be able to do something, but there was nothing....nothing but stand back and pray to GOD that she survives. She's out of the hospital now, but is still extremely confused. She, of course, doesn't remember a thing. I'm going straight to see the judge first thing in the morning to have her picked up. At least I will know she will be safe, while she's there anyway. And I pray that this wakes her up for good.
I hope so too Mama! Good luck to you and your daughter. Mary
Good luck with getting her admitted. You're doing the right thing.
She most likely, will be furious. Mine was. But stay strong. Maybe it will work out this time.
It won't be easy, but something has to break this downward spiral that is completely out of her control. You've already suffered so much, as has she. I hope she finally sees things as they are, and admit to (hopefully) being tired of having to find new ways to get or stay high.
I will pray for you both.
Please keep us posted.
Love & God bless you bth,
Dee
She most likely, will be furious. Mine was. But stay strong. Maybe it will work out this time.
It won't be easy, but something has to break this downward spiral that is completely out of her control. You've already suffered so much, as has she. I hope she finally sees things as they are, and admit to (hopefully) being tired of having to find new ways to get or stay high.
I will pray for you both.
Please keep us posted.
Love & God bless you bth,
Dee
My baby girl ended up back in the er today. She took or did something that totally wiped her mind out. I finally got an order through the courts to have her picked up. I dont know what is going to stop her...is it gonna be the death of her? If that happens, I will die right along side of her.
TerrifiedMama
I am SO TERRIBLY SORRY for what you're going through. It is a cross much too heavy for one person to bear. The pain is no doubt, completely unbearable. You've suffered with this far too many times.
I think you did the right thing, getting that order. Your daughter is a danger to herself. No doubt about that. You had no alternative.
Please keep us posted. I will pray for you both, and that God gives you the graces you need to get through this.
My sincerest heartfelt thoughts go out to you.
love & God bless you,
Dee
I am SO TERRIBLY SORRY for what you're going through. It is a cross much too heavy for one person to bear. The pain is no doubt, completely unbearable. You've suffered with this far too many times.
I think you did the right thing, getting that order. Your daughter is a danger to herself. No doubt about that. You had no alternative.
Please keep us posted. I will pray for you both, and that God gives you the graces you need to get through this.
My sincerest heartfelt thoughts go out to you.
love & God bless you,
Dee
Hi Again Mama, You have done all you or any of us could have done to help her. When she knows what you've done be ready for the backlash because it might come. She will throw every insult that she can think of at you. She will also try to give you guilt trips and how it's all your fault etc etc, don't listen to it all. It's the desperation for drugs that's talking. So remember this if she starts and don't let it get to you. Stay strong! Because when she gets clean in rehab she will thank you for doing what you've done. I truly wish you well. This is a hard time your going through but your doing good. I would seriously wonder about this boyfriend and what is he all about. Where is he staying while your daughter is in rehab? Where do they get the money for drugs? Hope they aren't robbing the aunt blind? I'd watch out for that too.Good luck Mama. I hope all goes well. Mary.
I've decided to do an Intervention. To get her in a rehab a plane flight away from here! So she won't be distracted by anyone and she can focus on herself and her recovery. I just pray that the rest of the family will comply and help me with this. I don't think they understand addiction. That is a disease such as cancer, Etc. If they have any heart in them, they will help me with supporting her and help her get to where she needs to be so she will be safe and hopefully take recovery seriously.
TerrifiedMom,
Wishing you all the best & hoping your family support system is strong.
Love & God bless you & your daughter.
Dee
Wishing you all the best & hoping your family support system is strong.
Love & God bless you & your daughter.
Dee
Mamma
Best of luck to you, my son also has OD so many times that I've lost count. Life support three times, nothing will change him.
Keeping you in my prayers that you can reach her. I am sad to say my son is now missing and I've no idea where or if he is alive.
XX God Bless
Best of luck to you, my son also has OD so many times that I've lost count. Life support three times, nothing will change him.
Keeping you in my prayers that you can reach her. I am sad to say my son is now missing and I've no idea where or if he is alive.
XX God Bless
