I was already hurting from watching Kenny...
I got a call to do a price opinion job on a house about 30 miles away...it had a lockbox on it, and I had the code, but for some stinkin reason I couldn't get it to open....no amount of WD40, pressure or screwdriver would open the dang thing...So I called the bank to make sure that I had the right number...sure enough I did, they said they would email the other bank and tell them I couldn't get in....well smart ol' me...wasn't going to drive all the way up there for no pay, so I told them I would see if I could get in another way....
Yippee...I found an open window and crawled inside...it was the most disgusting house I've ever been in...alot of people get trashy when the bank is taking the house over, but these people gave trashy a new name...there was dog poop and pee all over, food and trash spread all over the floors, the smell was horrible...there was an abandoned trailer in the back, and a five foot pile of trash at the back door...I can't believe that another Realtor valued this house at $33,000!!! It's going to cost about $7,000 just to clean the lot and the house...
Anyway, now I'm sore as heck from climbing in the window, and tromping around taking pictures....
Geez, and I only get paid about $55 once my boss is done taking his cut...this one was above and beyond the call of duty, but I am glad that I got in, otherwise I would have wasted almost half a tank of gas...
Some people put me in awe of how nasty they can be...
PS I'm glad I went in an old sweatsuit....and can hardly wait to wash the nasty off of me!
In hindsight I posted this and have read some posts where some people are going through genuine crap (Medusa, Jean and others) I feel lucky just to have Fibromyalgia sometimes
Dear Janet:
I promise I don't mean this in a hostile way but how do you find the time to post on more than one site? I only do some work at home, no small children at home and have to tear myself away from the Pain Pill recovery board.I have done no housework as of yet. This board can be addicting, I have said thatfor me, too but how do you take care of more than one board?
I don't know how you find the hours in the day.
I guess you do catch a lot of people doing this kind of thing but we are not private investigators, we are addicts, I guess I just don't know your story. You don't have to tell me re: your addictions. That's your business.
You may have all of these problems - I just don' t see how you have the time - I have taken so much time today just trying to get help for Deirdre. She needs help, I just don't know what kind and if I can do it - but I don't have the time that you do.
I have got to stop now, I want to get something done in the house.
Love, Jean
I promise I don't mean this in a hostile way but how do you find the time to post on more than one site? I only do some work at home, no small children at home and have to tear myself away from the Pain Pill recovery board.I have done no housework as of yet. This board can be addicting, I have said thatfor me, too but how do you take care of more than one board?
I don't know how you find the hours in the day.
I guess you do catch a lot of people doing this kind of thing but we are not private investigators, we are addicts, I guess I just don't know your story. You don't have to tell me re: your addictions. That's your business.
You may have all of these problems - I just don' t see how you have the time - I have taken so much time today just trying to get help for Deirdre. She needs help, I just don't know what kind and if I can do it - but I don't have the time that you do.
I have got to stop now, I want to get something done in the house.
Love, Jean
Jean, when I look at the topics I go to "view all topics" that way I can welcome newcomers and keep up with some of the families that i've gotten to know...
Time...well, i've been up since 3...folded 3 loads of clothes and got dishes done...
and you are completely correct when you say that Dierdre needs help...she does, but she doesn't seem to want to try any of the suggestions people give her and comes off as insincere...JMO
Time...well, i've been up since 3...folded 3 loads of clothes and got dishes done...
and you are completely correct when you say that Dierdre needs help...she does, but she doesn't seem to want to try any of the suggestions people give her and comes off as insincere...JMO
I did look at the Meth site and saw where she posted about her Ovarian cancer but didn't see the brain tumor - I guess I just missed it. I believe you if you saw it but didn't want to take the time to search for it.
She still needs help. Aren't you here for that - and for all?
I will leave it at that - I did post to her that she was welcome to post anywhere. All she said to them was that the people on this site didn't believe that she had cancer. We knew that.
Going to do housework.
I will just keep up w/Deirdre through email unless she post to this site. I just don't have time to go to all boards.
Love,
Jean
She still needs help. Aren't you here for that - and for all?
I will leave it at that - I did post to her that she was welcome to post anywhere. All she said to them was that the people on this site didn't believe that she had cancer. We knew that.
Going to do housework.
I will just keep up w/Deirdre through email unless she post to this site. I just don't have time to go to all boards.
Love,
Jean
no, i didn't see the brain tumor comment, it was Wendy, i believe that brought that up....
I would like to help her, but she is not open to suggestions at this time...i guess she hasn't hit her rock bottom....she still is trying to find an "easier, gentler way"...
If she truly has cancer, i am sad for her, I've seen what it does...
and she is welcome to post wherever she wants, I never said that...
I would like to help her, but she is not open to suggestions at this time...i guess she hasn't hit her rock bottom....she still is trying to find an "easier, gentler way"...
If she truly has cancer, i am sad for her, I've seen what it does...
and she is welcome to post wherever she wants, I never said that...
Dear Janet:
I hope I didn't seem mean today. I was cleaning the house and decided that we have done all we can to help and people do have to start by helping themselves. We have all been there. I wanted to come and post to you.
I have this thing about pulling for the underdog. She didn't tell me in the email anything about cancer and she wrote it right before she posted on the board. She has problems but I really don't think we can help her.
If she comes back, I'll be happy to talk with her.
It's not your fault - that she has all kinds of problems, we all do. She just seemed so alone but she's gonna have to work some of it out and then she needs to ask for help like we all did. That's all you need to do on this board is ask for help and you really get it.
Please forgive me - I hope I didn't say anything mean. I know you have everyone's best interest at heart.
Sorry,
Love, Jean
I hope I didn't seem mean today. I was cleaning the house and decided that we have done all we can to help and people do have to start by helping themselves. We have all been there. I wanted to come and post to you.
I have this thing about pulling for the underdog. She didn't tell me in the email anything about cancer and she wrote it right before she posted on the board. She has problems but I really don't think we can help her.
If she comes back, I'll be happy to talk with her.
It's not your fault - that she has all kinds of problems, we all do. She just seemed so alone but she's gonna have to work some of it out and then she needs to ask for help like we all did. That's all you need to do on this board is ask for help and you really get it.
Please forgive me - I hope I didn't say anything mean. I know you have everyone's best interest at heart.
Sorry,
Love, Jean
Jean, don't be sorry, I normally pull for the underdog myself, I have tried to be nice and offer up what advice I could to the person in question. We have to want very badly to pull for ourselves though, and no amount of feedback can give that to a person. We all know that this is a fact.
I will continue to keep her in my prayers and I think really that's all we can do for her at this time.
ps...i am a little grumpy myself from lack of sleep
I will continue to keep her in my prayers and I think really that's all we can do for her at this time.
ps...i am a little grumpy myself from lack of sleep
Hi Janet, that sounds a fun day, how interesting. What job do you do, do you value properties? Anyway glad you ok at least you can laugh and moan about it. Speak soon, off to bed was just reading few more posts. This forum is addictive, however I am happy with my new addictionxxxxxxx
I am a Realtor, or I will be till the end of the year....because of my addiction and recovery I wasn't able to devote the time needed to Real Estate, so I do these jobs for the repo companies....
I am looking for a full time (or almost full time) job as either a cashier, waitress or secretary...eventually I want to get an Appraiser's license and work doing Bank Appraisals...at least then I don't have to sneak around...the repo companies do not want you to talk to the owners.
I just talked to the woman from the repo company and told her about the disgusting condition of this house, so they are going to give me some leeway on what I can find as comparable properties.
I am looking for a full time (or almost full time) job as either a cashier, waitress or secretary...eventually I want to get an Appraiser's license and work doing Bank Appraisals...at least then I don't have to sneak around...the repo companies do not want you to talk to the owners.
I just talked to the woman from the repo company and told her about the disgusting condition of this house, so they are going to give me some leeway on what I can find as comparable properties.
Cool, sounds interesting, I work in finance advising people on consolidating their debts, in other words putting them deeper, but making their life style now easier through reducing outgoings. Bit boring.bye , keep popping up xg nite
There has been a lot of talk going on about Madusa lately. I just want to say that I find it very sad people are giving up on her because of her so called history. Some mean things have been said. Just remember that the loving God/HP that has helped you and alot us is a big enough God to deal with somebody that is crying out for attention. God is a God of second, third and forever chances. He never gives up on us and I think we should never give up on others. We are giving up when we presume she is not be honest and not taking our advice. So what if she doesn't seem to be taking advice. I know I have gone through periods where I don't always listen to God but he is still there waiting for me. Who are we to be judging her intentions or motives. She deserves to be here just like anyone else. It may test our patients but maybe that is something we need to work on in our own personal growth. Not everyone gets it right away.
I just want to say to Jean that you have demonstrated great patients and compassion and I agree with what you are trying to do.
I just want to say to Jean that you have demonstrated great patients and compassion and I agree with what you are trying to do.
I'm glad you're not and I won't give up on her either. She just emailed me and it makes her happy that some believe her. She said that she has lied about drugs she has taken and then told us but she's never lied about her health.
She really needs some friends - my opinion.
I just didn't want Janet to feel as though I thought she should feel exactly as I felt about teh situation - no 2 people handle things the same way.
Deirdre sounds good but still thinks she's not wanted here.
Love,
Jean
She really needs some friends - my opinion.
I just didn't want Janet to feel as though I thought she should feel exactly as I felt about teh situation - no 2 people handle things the same way.
Deirdre sounds good but still thinks she's not wanted here.
Love,
Jean
I just want to add here, that I had a problem with Andr1 when she first got here...she was in denial and was looking in all the wrong places for help...well, i got over it and I am so proud of her now...
I do believe that Diedre is still worthy of attention, I have not given up on her, I have seen too many addicts that were in denial, finally come around...
I am praying for her...and I'm sorry that she feels that way.
I believe that she CAN do this, she just needs to be more honest with herself and the people here...
I do believe that Diedre is still worthy of attention, I have not given up on her, I have seen too many addicts that were in denial, finally come around...
I am praying for her...and I'm sorry that she feels that way.
I believe that she CAN do this, she just needs to be more honest with herself and the people here...
