And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. ~ from dr. paul o.'s story, doctor, alcoholic, addict
Sammy,
I absolutely love that! That is my favorite story in the BB to. How are you tonite? I hope doing good. Thanks for posting that...my head was spinning alittle today..lol....
love ya,
gi
I absolutely love that! That is my favorite story in the BB to. How are you tonite? I hope doing good. Thanks for posting that...my head was spinning alittle today..lol....
love ya,
gi
Acceptance is the answer and a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness...
Rachel
Rachel
dearest gi ~
i am doing simply grand! we drove to charlottesville today for a little get together in celebration of my nieces engagement. it was absolutely stunning and the air was a bit crisper and colder because of the elevation, than what i am use too. have you ever visited virginia, gi? it is chocked full of history - much like pennsylvania. monticello, the home of thomas jefferson, is in charlottesville, along with university of virginia (he designed that too!) and there are some innovations that jefferson created that would blow your mind! the man was light years beyond his time.
i'm in richmond which is deep seeded in civil war history. if you and bob ever get a chance to head south, you have a place to stay. i would love to take you for a tour of our city.
today i can visit with family and celebrate their spirits...something i couldn't/wouldn't do while i was addicted. family get togethers usually ended with me making a big bafoon of myself because i would drink to oblivion and swallow handful of pills while doing so. i can't tell you how free i feel today since embracing recovery. there's another few paragraphs that i so adore. they are from the chapter into action pages 87 and 88 and go like this:
"As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient.
We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.
It works -- it really does.
We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action. "Faith without works is dead." The next chapter is entirely devoted to Step Twelve."
back to you gi ~ how are you doing? you getting ready for christmas?
hugs and love ~
sammy
i am doing simply grand! we drove to charlottesville today for a little get together in celebration of my nieces engagement. it was absolutely stunning and the air was a bit crisper and colder because of the elevation, than what i am use too. have you ever visited virginia, gi? it is chocked full of history - much like pennsylvania. monticello, the home of thomas jefferson, is in charlottesville, along with university of virginia (he designed that too!) and there are some innovations that jefferson created that would blow your mind! the man was light years beyond his time.
i'm in richmond which is deep seeded in civil war history. if you and bob ever get a chance to head south, you have a place to stay. i would love to take you for a tour of our city.
today i can visit with family and celebrate their spirits...something i couldn't/wouldn't do while i was addicted. family get togethers usually ended with me making a big bafoon of myself because i would drink to oblivion and swallow handful of pills while doing so. i can't tell you how free i feel today since embracing recovery. there's another few paragraphs that i so adore. they are from the chapter into action pages 87 and 88 and go like this:
"As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done." We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient.
We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves.
It works -- it really does.
We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action. "Faith without works is dead." The next chapter is entirely devoted to Step Twelve."
back to you gi ~ how are you doing? you getting ready for christmas?
hugs and love ~
sammy
Hey Sammy,
I am from Richmond, my sister is buried in Charlottesville VA, my grandparents lived there. Family plot.
Born in GA, moved to Va when we were kids.
Moved to Northern VA, when my job brought me here and at the same time I met my now husband.
Virginia is beautiful as is West Virginia, husband races there..
Our best friends live in Charlottesville so we are there quite a bit.
Love the post by they way..
I am from Richmond, my sister is buried in Charlottesville VA, my grandparents lived there. Family plot.
Born in GA, moved to Va when we were kids.
Moved to Northern VA, when my job brought me here and at the same time I met my now husband.
Virginia is beautiful as is West Virginia, husband races there..
Our best friends live in Charlottesville so we are there quite a bit.
Love the post by they way..
oh wow brook - not such a huge world afterall - eh?
too cool to read this! i use to go to west virginia frequently when i lived in nova (fairfax) for the horse races. what kind of races does your husband do?
hugs to you ~
sammy
too cool to read this! i use to go to west virginia frequently when i lived in nova (fairfax) for the horse races. what kind of races does your husband do?
hugs to you ~
sammy
Sammy,
ah bah humbug for xmas!! lol I havent decorated a thing yet. Not in the spirit yet. Will get there though. I was in Virginia once with my ex husband. I forget the name of the place but it was near what used to be called Kings Dominion, the amusement park. It was nice there, would of been nicer if my memories didnt include him..lol oh well. Im doing good except I am sick and I hate being sick. I hope Im not getting the flu. Anyway its always good to see you post. Makes my day.
love ya,
gi
ah bah humbug for xmas!! lol I havent decorated a thing yet. Not in the spirit yet. Will get there though. I was in Virginia once with my ex husband. I forget the name of the place but it was near what used to be called Kings Dominion, the amusement park. It was nice there, would of been nicer if my memories didnt include him..lol oh well. Im doing good except I am sick and I hate being sick. I hope Im not getting the flu. Anyway its always good to see you post. Makes my day.
love ya,
gi
Hey Sammy.. Summit Point, West VA, car racing. Next to Charles Town, West VA.
kings dominion is still there, gi! i have to admit that i have never been there with exception of when it was under construction some 25 years ago. that place stays jammed in the summer and people from all over the states visit there.
my baby brother - well not so baby anymore - the one who lives next to you, started his first band, a big swing band, and their first gig was out of kings dominion. although their name was not too original "the kings of swing" they certainly were a hit and continued to play there for quite a few years.
i'm sorry to hear you feel so crummy. let's hope it's just a 24-48 hour virus thing. here - here's some chicken soup to soothe your tummy.
hope you feel better soon, gi.
love ~
sammy
my baby brother - well not so baby anymore - the one who lives next to you, started his first band, a big swing band, and their first gig was out of kings dominion. although their name was not too original "the kings of swing" they certainly were a hit and continued to play there for quite a few years.
i'm sorry to hear you feel so crummy. let's hope it's just a 24-48 hour virus thing. here - here's some chicken soup to soothe your tummy.
hope you feel better soon, gi.
love ~
sammy
aweee thanks for the soup sammy. I just remembered the name..it was williamstown. lolol. My brain works..sometimes that is...
love ya,
gi
love ya,
gi
ah yeah brook - you are bringing back some special memories. although i'm not familiar with summit point, i spent quite a bit of time at the races in charles town. i had a good friend who owned several horses that raced there. one night we drove from fairfax over to charles town, watched the races (at night) and then drove back to fairfax and into georgetown. danced the rest of the night away 'til 4 a.m. my gosh, i haven't thought of this stuff in years.
my friend, the horse owner, died of leukemia several years ago. everytime i think of him a sweet smile caresses my face... .
thanks for allowing me that trip down memory lane.
love ya ~
sammy
my friend, the horse owner, died of leukemia several years ago. everytime i think of him a sweet smile caresses my face... .
thanks for allowing me that trip down memory lane.
love ya ~
sammy
Sammy,
Hey doll, send me some of that my way. I am in much need of finding some acceptance. If I could just accept that there are mean people in the world, and would quit trying to find that "good" in everyone, then I would not be so darned disappointed when I can't find it.
There needs to be more people in the world like you Sammy. You always find the right words, or the right thing to say at the right time. You have become such an invaluable friend to me, and I love you. I would still like to spend some time catching up with you.
I am blessed to have friends like you, Gina, Bob, August, Amy, Pam, Janet, Lisa, Marie, Rachel, ut oh, there are too many to list. Anyway, the more friends, the more blessed we are. It certainly makes up for the people who want to cause you harm.
I think I need to work on Serenity more so right now than acceptance. One step at a time, baby steps. I learned that I can only do so much, and the rest either has to wait, or I have to give it to God. I have been doing much praying tonight, and I always feel a bit better for it. When I am in pain, I know I can be a witch, so if I seem a bit snippy, ignore me. Is there ever a time when people can just simply love instead of hate? I know I have yet to find it myself, but I won't give up my search.
I would also love to see VA. I hear it is soooooooo pretty there. One day I will make it out there, and I hope you would give me a tour. I gotta run.
Huggles
Carrie
Hey doll, send me some of that my way. I am in much need of finding some acceptance. If I could just accept that there are mean people in the world, and would quit trying to find that "good" in everyone, then I would not be so darned disappointed when I can't find it.
There needs to be more people in the world like you Sammy. You always find the right words, or the right thing to say at the right time. You have become such an invaluable friend to me, and I love you. I would still like to spend some time catching up with you.
I am blessed to have friends like you, Gina, Bob, August, Amy, Pam, Janet, Lisa, Marie, Rachel, ut oh, there are too many to list. Anyway, the more friends, the more blessed we are. It certainly makes up for the people who want to cause you harm.
I think I need to work on Serenity more so right now than acceptance. One step at a time, baby steps. I learned that I can only do so much, and the rest either has to wait, or I have to give it to God. I have been doing much praying tonight, and I always feel a bit better for it. When I am in pain, I know I can be a witch, so if I seem a bit snippy, ignore me. Is there ever a time when people can just simply love instead of hate? I know I have yet to find it myself, but I won't give up my search.
I would also love to see VA. I hear it is soooooooo pretty there. One day I will make it out there, and I hope you would give me a tour. I gotta run.
Huggles
Carrie
Sammy:
I spent Christmas in Roanoke three years ago. My aunt (who is just a few years older than me) lives there. It is beautiful:-)
Rachel
Acceptance,
I love that from the Big Book. Also, someone told me once the answers to all my problems are answered in the first three words on page 112 in the Big Book.
When I opened it to page 112 and read those three words, I said to myself, "well, better stop using it for a coaster!" lol
Take care.........Bob
I love that from the Big Book. Also, someone told me once the answers to all my problems are answered in the first three words on page 112 in the Big Book.
When I opened it to page 112 and read those three words, I said to myself, "well, better stop using it for a coaster!" lol
Take care.........Bob
Do you EVER stop cooking Denise? I wish you were my mom! Lucky kids you got. My Mom never bakes, She only gets baked.
Ben
Ben
"Read this book..." lol.
Rachel
i would love to be your hostess here carrie. i sincerely hope that one day you can make here to the east coast and if you do, my home is yours. you were such a vital support to my secretary when she was diagnosed with breast cancer and to me when i was diagnosed with kidney cancer, it would be an honor to have you here.
it is my belief carrie that each day, God shines new wisdom, energy and light upon the path before me. all i have to do is allow it - a little willingness - and remember that i surrender the old habits, opinions and blessings from yesterday. i embrace the possibilities that will transform my thinking, perceiving and living and am open to God's guidance that directs me in higher ways. this is what i received when i got serious about my recovery and finally sat down with my sponsor and worked the steps. this is the gift i bring to anyone here who wants it.
you and i have been trudging for a few years now carrie - and i understand you are in pain - boy do i understand it. at least when you get casted some of that pain will abate. remember that little acronymn HALT - we don't want to let ourselves get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. i corresponded very little after my surgery and when i had that clunky old cast on my arm. it gave me an opportunity to connect with a dear, dear old friend who came here to help me. it gave me the opportunity to re-connect with family members whom i took a little too much for granted. it gave me a chance to re-connect with the spirit within myself and prioritize what is really important in my life.
and speaking of important things - don't forget to laugh carrie. now listen up - this is very, very important. i betcha i watched the waterboy 38 times while i was laid up recovering from my recent injury/illness. remember - rule 62 - let's not take ourselves too seriously.
i love you to pieces doll!
sammy
it is my belief carrie that each day, God shines new wisdom, energy and light upon the path before me. all i have to do is allow it - a little willingness - and remember that i surrender the old habits, opinions and blessings from yesterday. i embrace the possibilities that will transform my thinking, perceiving and living and am open to God's guidance that directs me in higher ways. this is what i received when i got serious about my recovery and finally sat down with my sponsor and worked the steps. this is the gift i bring to anyone here who wants it.
you and i have been trudging for a few years now carrie - and i understand you are in pain - boy do i understand it. at least when you get casted some of that pain will abate. remember that little acronymn HALT - we don't want to let ourselves get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. i corresponded very little after my surgery and when i had that clunky old cast on my arm. it gave me an opportunity to connect with a dear, dear old friend who came here to help me. it gave me the opportunity to re-connect with family members whom i took a little too much for granted. it gave me a chance to re-connect with the spirit within myself and prioritize what is really important in my life.
and speaking of important things - don't forget to laugh carrie. now listen up - this is very, very important. i betcha i watched the waterboy 38 times while i was laid up recovering from my recent injury/illness. remember - rule 62 - let's not take ourselves too seriously.
i love you to pieces doll!
sammy
Rachel,
lol, Yes, you have won a free ride to 2-3 weeks of meetings with us!! lol
Bob
lol, Yes, you have won a free ride to 2-3 weeks of meetings with us!! lol
Bob
You know it was so funny. I was at that meeting where the speaker said...read the first 3 words and you wil find your answers. I thought to myself, I know she isnt gonna say what they are and Ill be damned to look..lol. Well my sponsor tells me to read how it works right. I didnt feel like reading it. Threw the book down and said oh screw this I dont feel like reading crap. Then I remembered what that woman said. So I thought oh well 3 words are the answer..I can read 3 words...well I LMAO when I saw what they said.....then I went and read how it works!!!!!!
gi
gi
rach - roanoke is growing in leaps and bounds. that's way over on the western part of the state. it's been a long time since i've been there but remember it well.
bob - lmao "read this book" - isn't that the truth! for so long i stood on the periphery of AA, tap dancing my way around and never interested in what that book had to suggest. it just took what it took until i became willing and wanted what i saw.
ben - you sweetheart you! have you changed those shades yet? i really lucked out today as i didn't have to lift a finger to cook or clean. my brother did this wingding and it was 'swellegant. the only thing that was bothersome ben was the drive home. i'm a city girl and we were up in the country where you could actually hear rifles being shot, it's hunting season. i have a fear of deer jumping out in front of the car!
this happened to me one night many years ago and although the deer lived (i think because he got up and ran back into the woods) i was so traumatized that i could have hurt him or vice versa that i carry it with me to this day.
so there you have it! my one fear in life - deer jumping out at me on country roads at night. i found myself becoming somewhat panicky this evening when we were driving home, so i did the next best thing; laid down in the back seat, closed my eyes, and breathed deep. of course we made home ok, yet that's what i had to do!
hugs all around ~
sammy
bob - lmao "read this book" - isn't that the truth! for so long i stood on the periphery of AA, tap dancing my way around and never interested in what that book had to suggest. it just took what it took until i became willing and wanted what i saw.
ben - you sweetheart you! have you changed those shades yet? i really lucked out today as i didn't have to lift a finger to cook or clean. my brother did this wingding and it was 'swellegant. the only thing that was bothersome ben was the drive home. i'm a city girl and we were up in the country where you could actually hear rifles being shot, it's hunting season. i have a fear of deer jumping out in front of the car!
this happened to me one night many years ago and although the deer lived (i think because he got up and ran back into the woods) i was so traumatized that i could have hurt him or vice versa that i carry it with me to this day.
so there you have it! my one fear in life - deer jumping out at me on country roads at night. i found myself becoming somewhat panicky this evening when we were driving home, so i did the next best thing; laid down in the back seat, closed my eyes, and breathed deep. of course we made home ok, yet that's what i had to do!
hugs all around ~
sammy
