Okay here goes.
Met my partner approx 1.5years ago. I knew at that time he was dabbling in drugs but not to the extent he is now.
The hardest thing for me is the constant victim routine, the blaming, the name calling, threats and manipulation.
He blames me (well my body) on his increased use of drugs. He is now injecting meth and heroin on almost a daily basis. Has been going hard out for 9 days straight now.
No amount of talking, trying to get him help, or being there is helping. I've taken him previously to detox and counsellors but to no avail.
He spends his whole pay check $800-$900 dollars in 2 days. He mixes heroin and ice and on top smokes cannabis quite heavily.
I'm reaching out to anyone in a similar situation who can give me guidance. I have currently walked away for now because he'd rather chase drugs than spend any time with me.
Is he beyond help and should I cut my losses??
Please help!
Brutal answer; cut your losses..Blames it on your body? I don't get it. Either way you are no way responsible for his actions or his addiction. A relationship with an addict is a rollercoaster ride. Leaving a relationship is hard anyway, but really being treated like sh!t is a good enough reason to run like he!!. No matter what you do you can't help him. He has to realize he has a problem and make the initiative to correct it or continue on this path of destruction. DON'T feel bad you are responsible for your happiness please go live your life you will regret it down the road if you stay.
Beingme
Well he met me when I was carrying weight. I have lost some since but he always uses this as an excuse for his spiralling out of control drug use. Says he's in love with me but not my body. Funny though how it all changed considering I have lost weight, he is earning more money, and is hanging with deads***s who say I'm no good because I'm no size 8. Either way im not worried because I know he has to use something to enable his activity. He is heavily influenced by what his mates think, even though only the one has the issue with me cause I was taking my partner away from him. Since he managed to wrangle him back the ex has started hanging with him everyday including while they work, smoke pot, every now and again will give him ice (ex chases it elsewhere), gambles and is a generally uncontrollable.
Well he met me when I was carrying weight. I have lost some since but he always uses this as an excuse for his spiralling out of control drug use. Says he's in love with me but not my body. Funny though how it all changed considering I have lost weight, he is earning more money, and is hanging with deads***s who say I'm no good because I'm no size 8. Either way im not worried because I know he has to use something to enable his activity. He is heavily influenced by what his mates think, even though only the one has the issue with me cause I was taking my partner away from him. Since he managed to wrangle him back the ex has started hanging with him everyday including while they work, smoke pot, every now and again will give him ice (ex chases it elsewhere), gambles and is a generally uncontrollable.
Eve79,
Get rid of him quick!! He obviously has No respect for you. If he admitted he has a problem and wanted help from you he would of told you. He belongs with his derelict friends and x. Sorry to be so blunt. If he wants to kill himself so be it. Dont let him take you down with him. In other circumstances I would suggest you try a program of your own. Like Naranon. But this creep isnt worth it. How dare hime complain about your body type. That gets me so angry. He does it because he hates himself!!! GET AWAY FAST!!!1
Get rid of him quick!! He obviously has No respect for you. If he admitted he has a problem and wanted help from you he would of told you. He belongs with his derelict friends and x. Sorry to be so blunt. If he wants to kill himself so be it. Dont let him take you down with him. In other circumstances I would suggest you try a program of your own. Like Naranon. But this creep isnt worth it. How dare hime complain about your body type. That gets me so angry. He does it because he hates himself!!! GET AWAY FAST!!!1
Joseph F
Oh I ran yesterday. The absolute hell he gave me and belittled my weight made me so mad I up and left. He continued yelling and screaming makimg a complete d*** of himself in the unit complex he lives in. Showed me a bag of ice and said "see I can go without" but continued to use it before I walked out claiming I was his frustration. Completely stuns me that when I break it off he is angry as all hell but doesn't like the body. You'd think he'd be relieved. Claims to love but I know no one who speaks to their loved ones like that. Then says he has an excuse to speak that way because he is drug affected. Bull****.
He made his bed now hw can lay in it. I've tried so hard to help him only to be ridiculed. Time for me. Im hoping he gives me space. His mate his dealer stole his phone so there will be no contact for a bit and 25 min is too far to drive (as he keeps telling me). Pathetic loser he is.
Thank you for your words. Look forward to hearing back.
Oh I ran yesterday. The absolute hell he gave me and belittled my weight made me so mad I up and left. He continued yelling and screaming makimg a complete d*** of himself in the unit complex he lives in. Showed me a bag of ice and said "see I can go without" but continued to use it before I walked out claiming I was his frustration. Completely stuns me that when I break it off he is angry as all hell but doesn't like the body. You'd think he'd be relieved. Claims to love but I know no one who speaks to their loved ones like that. Then says he has an excuse to speak that way because he is drug affected. Bull****.
He made his bed now hw can lay in it. I've tried so hard to help him only to be ridiculed. Time for me. Im hoping he gives me space. His mate his dealer stole his phone so there will be no contact for a bit and 25 min is too far to drive (as he keeps telling me). Pathetic loser he is.
Thank you for your words. Look forward to hearing back.
Good for you Eva. This guy sounds like a d***. Im so happy to hear you left. That a girl. Now, dont feed into him. Keep ignoring him. No one desrves to be treated like that. Good Luck!!!
