Shortening up previous post with no back story this time....hopefully to get some responses.
Which path should I take with my husband that has quickly gone downhill with his meth addiction....stealing money constantly from me and lying. He was sober for about 3 years....but in the 11 years together I have never seen him so gripped by a drug.
One--I can wait it out, hope he cleans up. Constantly being afraid of his mood or physical abuse. Risk the chance of him getting caught on his own and losing our children.....this is not an option to me. I will not lose my kids over him.....they will always come first.
Two--I can kick him out, not sure he would leave the house anyway. If he does he would make my life hell and ensure I am never able to live a normal life, let alone move on.
Three---the worst choice---I call is PO and tell her to drug test him....he gets another felony from meth ingestion and goes back to prison for a very very long time. But forever I would feel guilt. But at least my family would be safe and so would he.
If anyone sees a different I would be more then happy to consider it. I have tried supporting him in every way to recover....but nothing has worked. So for the safety of my family I must be done.
Hi Phizzler - you said it yourself - you will put your kids first - of course you will feel guilty if you report his drug use - but how much more guilt will you have to carry for the rest of your life if anything happens to you or your kids and you are not there for him- if it was just about yourself and did not involve children it would be a different case- your husband chose his path- he faced the choice that all addicts face dailly , whether to use or not - he made his choice now he must live with the consequences of his decision- not alone was he putting himself at risk by using, but also his kids- no brainer - report him- if that is the only way to protect your children- he must have been aware that he was risking jail by using again - HIS CHOICE, you are not responsible for his actions, he is an adult- it's terrible that you have been put in this position- but that is not your fault - you have nothing to feel guilty about- you are doing what any right minded person would do - children must always come first - they should never be put at risk -best of luck whichever choice you make-
Thank you so much for your reply.....think what im looking for is validation. I know reporting him is the best option but also the hardest. I hope for a different choice.....but I know there is not.
Hi Phizzler - i apologise i did not see your first post yesterday- keep posting here if you need support - after reading your first post i am even more convinced you have no choice but to report your husband- you cannot live like that - you deserve better - the sooner you do this the better and move on with your life , with your kids- never tell anyone you made this decision- unless you can really trust them- best of luck -
ITs okay----thank you so much for responding again and taking the time to read my previous post. I am really struggling with this. And yes.....only people who would know would be my family. HE will always suspect me but I would not admit it. I am still struggling with this desision. I keep feeling if I give him just a bit more time he will clean up or pull his head out and see the light. This wont happen, I know. Im wishful thinking.
HE did tell me a couple days ago that if I turned him in it would be the ultimate betrayal.......and that he would run and then kill him self. How selfish is that!!! The ultimate betrayal is nothing compared to what he has put this family through.
HE did tell me a couple days ago that if I turned him in it would be the ultimate betrayal.......and that he would run and then kill him self. How selfish is that!!! The ultimate betrayal is nothing compared to what he has put this family through.
