I have read all the posts and I have no solution. My 17 year old is so addicted to heroin its so sad, he can't live without it. He used to be popular and have lots of friends, he always had a good personality and everyone thought he was fun. He obviously thought differently and his confidence level brought him to the worst addictive drug possible. I cry every day. I yell every day. I have him on suboxin because he escaped rehab. I am beyond knowing what to do. He threatens me and says F you I will do what I want when I want. THis isn't the kid I knew or raised, he's a devil and I am scared. Can someone help me?
Do you have access to a Family Support program? I assume his treatment center, even though he left prematurely, offered something for you.
The helplessness, anxiety, and fear you are experiencing is to be expected. I suggest you find a group such as Al Anon or NAR Anon. If you are a faith-based person, there are churches that offer help.
What can you do for your son? Recovery is up to him, and him alone. You might look carefully at anything you do to enable his habit - including housing, food, and clothing. His chances of "hitting bottom" increase when the pain of changing is less than the pain of not changing.
Message back if you'd like me to elaborate.
Flyboy
Recovering codepedent
Recovering addict
The helplessness, anxiety, and fear you are experiencing is to be expected. I suggest you find a group such as Al Anon or NAR Anon. If you are a faith-based person, there are churches that offer help.
What can you do for your son? Recovery is up to him, and him alone. You might look carefully at anything you do to enable his habit - including housing, food, and clothing. His chances of "hitting bottom" increase when the pain of changing is less than the pain of not changing.
Message back if you'd like me to elaborate.
Flyboy
Recovering codepedent
Recovering addict
Ohh sweety. I too am a heroin addict for 5 years now and I'm 35 on Methadone for 7 months.the only way to help him is by prayers. Only God and himself can help him. Sometimes bad things happen for good reasons, meaning, maybe hell go to jail and then will have to stop. Anything could be the reason for his sobriety. I don't know how to deal with my coping skills so every time I am sad or mad or angry or depressed or even happy I gotta get high. So my point is , at any moment for him of anger or depression, he is gonna go get high. For some people including myself, anger and depression would make me use more at one time. I don't know if he's injecting. But if he is and doesn't know how to properly use his coping skills he will probably use more at the one time and if injecting it will cause he's chances of OD'in that much more easier. So if you get him angry he will go straight to using. Just be careful and pray for him. I myself am trying to quit. But I have little support. I don't have no friends or family. I get the support from Facebook's Addiction and Recovery You Can Handle The Truth and Addiction and Recovery How It Works. And this other website called Suport Groups, they have support groups for all mental, physical, social reasons, disabilities. Cancers. Diseases. All reasons. The online supports just like this one helps alot. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here. I probably won't be big help, but I can be a second opinion, just so you know.. So take care, don't lose hope or faith and most importantly don't forget to pray. Best of luck. Jessica.
I cant tell you what to do. I dont know. I was able to take my son from wanting to use to wanting to quit ... it took 2 years. Once he wanted to quit it too 3 rehabs and when he went off methadone because he wanted to quit that too he robbed a store and planned to go live in the woods to stop hurting his family. He has been clean now for about 1 year and prior to that was in rehab for about 2 years .. several because they are lame and offer little. My brothers son had a similar issue and he was under 18 he had him locked up in a school in texas for 1 year. My brother had to lie to get him there but it worked. That was about 5 years ago I think and my nephew is doing well. Its a bad problem and your mountains are tall. You have to decide what your willing to do and if your in it for the long haul. The problem is the rehab needs to be mandatory and long.... maybe 1.5 to 2 years depending on his state of mind. That doesnt exist. Today I read about a place on here in fact called trosa its in N. Carolina. Ill say this. If you love your son do everything you can now, everything! Dont hesitate, give up your life, love, money and put it all into helping him. If you love your child your will anyway over time and its just prolonging the pain.
I have been fighting with my son's addiction for 15 years. He swears he is clean almost a year now. three weeks ago he ended up in hospital and was one day from having his arm amputated . He swears he wasn't shooting up. We found his syringe he tried to hide it. If loosing your arm doesn't wake you up nothing will. Four surgeries and more to come. Skin grafts and rehab. Unfortunately he got out on Thursday and was so high he was stuttering and hallucination. They gave him so much pain meds in the hospital he was screaming for more. thinking it was heaven to get it until they started pulling him off. I don't have any advise nothing work. rehabs tough love. I am now finally at the point to let go. He can scream all he wants that no one will help him no one loves him. He has to find his own way now. And if he can't I hope someone will let me know where he is when he does OD so I can say goodbye.
I don't understand why anyone would even try it, life is only as bad as YOU make it. senseless waste of life...
I don't understand why anyone would even try it, life is only as bad as YOU make it. senseless waste of life...
