Susan, my condolences on the loss of your beloved Mother.Her passing, w/the plaque by the door, the presence of unseen others gives me hope that there is indeed something better, elsewhere. I am sad for you but in a way it was a merciful release for her from her pain. Bless you-alaska
susan.. my heart goes out to you and you are in my thoughts..i very sadley lost my mum 6months ago and truley feel for u. i realy dont no what to say other than im a good listener or email reader,,so please feel you can woffle on if you ever need to..i no its a bit strange me mailing you but read ya page and wanted you to no that im thinking of you...my name is dan i live nr london and this is my email address if u ever need it...worldofdan@hotmail.co.uk...stay strong...take care...dan
Hi, everyone
My mom's viewing was Friday and we buried her on Saturday. What exhausting days! The funeral services was very comforting though. She knew the priest personally and his words were PERFECT! We had no trouble picking the readings or songs because we knew which ones sounded best for the circumstances or were her favorites, and miraculously all three of us agreed on it all! I found I couldn't stay long at the cemetary, but went back later to spend some quiet time with my mom and dad.
Dear Trooper, Ms Tres, Bryn, Janet, Michelle, Darin, and Alaska,
Thanks so much for your prayers. They supported and sustained us. (I shared your responses with my brother and sister.)
Dear Ms. Tres,
Thanks for the medical advice. We had her on morphine drops that were placed in her cheek pocket and absorbed through the skin. They seemed to be very effective.
Dear Bryn,
Thanks for your very kind words. My son is still doing very well. Thank God! My grandson is due tomorrow. Something special to look forward to, but the granddaughters help a LOT too! I still haven't been able to explain to Angelina where her "GG" (her nickname for her great-grandma) got to. That will be sad! She loved my mom dearly. If anyone knows of a good book to help a 2 1/2 year old understand when someone dies, please let me know. My mom didn't seem to be trying to talk to someone else on either side of her like you had asked. She was trying to tell us something.
Dear Alaska,
Thanks for your concern about how I was holding up. I did get a chance to read your post but didn't have time to respond unfortunately. I was EXHAUSTED!!!! Not able to eat or sleep plus dealing with the emotional stress. You're right...even though we would have chosen for our mom to stay with us longer IF she wasn't sick or suffering...it was truly a blessing that she didn't linger and suffer. She had it in her bones, and we heard stories of the pain people suffer with that. We didn't wish that for her!
Dear Dan,
I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your mom too 6 months ago. No one can understand what it feels like unless they've been through it. It was so sweet for you to offer your email to me in case I needed to talk to you about it, but I wasn't home much at all to do that. It's not at all strange that you responded. It was very touching and caring!
Love you all!
Susan
My mom's viewing was Friday and we buried her on Saturday. What exhausting days! The funeral services was very comforting though. She knew the priest personally and his words were PERFECT! We had no trouble picking the readings or songs because we knew which ones sounded best for the circumstances or were her favorites, and miraculously all three of us agreed on it all! I found I couldn't stay long at the cemetary, but went back later to spend some quiet time with my mom and dad.
Dear Trooper, Ms Tres, Bryn, Janet, Michelle, Darin, and Alaska,
Thanks so much for your prayers. They supported and sustained us. (I shared your responses with my brother and sister.)
Dear Ms. Tres,
Thanks for the medical advice. We had her on morphine drops that were placed in her cheek pocket and absorbed through the skin. They seemed to be very effective.
Dear Bryn,
Thanks for your very kind words. My son is still doing very well. Thank God! My grandson is due tomorrow. Something special to look forward to, but the granddaughters help a LOT too! I still haven't been able to explain to Angelina where her "GG" (her nickname for her great-grandma) got to. That will be sad! She loved my mom dearly. If anyone knows of a good book to help a 2 1/2 year old understand when someone dies, please let me know. My mom didn't seem to be trying to talk to someone else on either side of her like you had asked. She was trying to tell us something.
Dear Alaska,
Thanks for your concern about how I was holding up. I did get a chance to read your post but didn't have time to respond unfortunately. I was EXHAUSTED!!!! Not able to eat or sleep plus dealing with the emotional stress. You're right...even though we would have chosen for our mom to stay with us longer IF she wasn't sick or suffering...it was truly a blessing that she didn't linger and suffer. She had it in her bones, and we heard stories of the pain people suffer with that. We didn't wish that for her!
Dear Dan,
I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your mom too 6 months ago. No one can understand what it feels like unless they've been through it. It was so sweet for you to offer your email to me in case I needed to talk to you about it, but I wasn't home much at all to do that. It's not at all strange that you responded. It was very touching and caring!
Love you all!
Susan
Hi, everyone
Here's the poem we placed in the memorial folder we handed out at my mom's services. When we read it, we felt it was what my mother would have said to us if she had been able.
Now what I am gone,
Remember me with smiles and laughter,
And if you need to cry,
Cry with your brother or sister
Who walks in grief beside you.
And when you need me,
Put your arms around anyone
And give to them what you need to give to me,
There are so many who need so much.
I want to leave you something --
Something much better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I've known,
Or helped in some special way.
Let me live in your heart
As well as in your mind.
You can love me most
By letting your love reach out to our loved ones.
By embracing them and living in their love.
Love does not die, people do.
So when all that's left of me is love,
Give me away as best you can.
~ Author unknown
Love,
Susan
Here's the poem we placed in the memorial folder we handed out at my mom's services. When we read it, we felt it was what my mother would have said to us if she had been able.
Now what I am gone,
Remember me with smiles and laughter,
And if you need to cry,
Cry with your brother or sister
Who walks in grief beside you.
And when you need me,
Put your arms around anyone
And give to them what you need to give to me,
There are so many who need so much.
I want to leave you something --
Something much better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I've known,
Or helped in some special way.
Let me live in your heart
As well as in your mind.
You can love me most
By letting your love reach out to our loved ones.
By embracing them and living in their love.
Love does not die, people do.
So when all that's left of me is love,
Give me away as best you can.
~ Author unknown
Love,
Susan
Absolutely beautiful tribute!
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This tribute is beautiful, Susan.......celebrating your mom's life, and how to keep her with you....just beautiful.
I am so, so, so sorry Susan........please take care of you........just a little at least........you, and your siblings took wonderful care of your mom, and she knew that.........I am grateful to her for giving you to us.
I am so, so, so sorry Susan........please take care of you........just a little at least........you, and your siblings took wonderful care of your mom, and she knew that.........I am grateful to her for giving you to us.
Dear Bryn,
You are so sweet! Thanks so much for those very kind words!
I actually got 10 hours of sleep last night! lol The night before the viewing, I only got a 1/2 hour and the night before the funeral, I only got 4, so I was due for a good night. When I got to my room and looked at my bed, I thought..."I don't know if I can sleep." I came back downstairs and got the little lamp stuffed animal I had gotten my mom and cuddled it in bed. I was out in no time!
My daughter's due date is tomorrow, so I was almost sure as soon as I got into bed last night she would be calling me, but she didn't. Maybe it will be tonight, who knows? Please keep her in your prayers for a safe delivery of a healthy baby. I get more anxious about my daughters having their babies than I did when I was having one. I feel so helpless to ease their pain!
Love,
Susan
You are so sweet! Thanks so much for those very kind words!
I actually got 10 hours of sleep last night! lol The night before the viewing, I only got a 1/2 hour and the night before the funeral, I only got 4, so I was due for a good night. When I got to my room and looked at my bed, I thought..."I don't know if I can sleep." I came back downstairs and got the little lamp stuffed animal I had gotten my mom and cuddled it in bed. I was out in no time!
My daughter's due date is tomorrow, so I was almost sure as soon as I got into bed last night she would be calling me, but she didn't. Maybe it will be tonight, who knows? Please keep her in your prayers for a safe delivery of a healthy baby. I get more anxious about my daughters having their babies than I did when I was having one. I feel so helpless to ease their pain!
Love,
Susan
