Well,
I'll keep my thoughts about what I've read here tonight to myself. Nothing changes if nothing changes. It really is amazing walking away, for however long, and coming back to see pretty much the same stuff from the same people with a few new folks added to the mix. I think one of the biggest misconseptions I've read is, well for me, I didn't go to A.A. to stop drinking and drugging. I did that before I went to my first meeting. Thats not what A.A. or N.A. etc.. is for. It's to help with staying stopped and changing me. The same old me will do the same old sh-t. I used to drink and drug, now I don't, so now it's about becoming a better person. For me, I don't care about gossip, I don't wanna flip a bird to the guy that cuts me off on the road, I don't wanna yell when things don't go "My way" or someone doesn't do "what I want". So now it's about changing, getting rid of all those things that I used to think were great reasons for a drink or drug.
Finding out what part I played in all those justifyed actions I thought I had. It's really quite simple. And it's easier to stay sober than to get sober, for me. I'd rather have a day then be trying to get one. Meetings, at least for me, aren't a place where 20 or 30 people get together to complain. It's a place to go and here how someone got through something without picking up, or how great someone is doing, living life without running to a pill or a line or diving into a bottle. Then for the new person at the meeting that thinks noone will understand there problems, homeless, pending jail time, loss of family or whatever, then I can shake his/her hand at the meeting give my number and say come back tomorrow, if you don't pick up it'll get better, I been there. And maybe that person gets a little hope, even the smallest glimmer of hope that says, maybe I can do it too. Thats what meetings are all about. Hey man, I wanted to eat a bullet 9 months ago, but I dragged my a** to a meeting, shaking, sweating, sick, tired and put my hand up and said I'm f--ked and I need help.. Then a guy shook my hand after the meeting, took me out for a bite to eat, told me to meet him the next night and said between now and then just don't pick up. Just don't pick up for one day. Surely I could handle one day. Hey if you really wanna be clean/sober, try what works for others, what do ya' have to lose?
If your way is so good what the hell are ya' doing here? I know this is a computer, and probably more than half of whoever claims to be clean isn't. All I know is for me, I took a little direction this time, and my life is great. A.A. for me, gave me a life, so I give A.A. back an hour or two a day to try and help someone else, which in return helps me even more so it's a win win situation.
Are things bad in your life? Goddamn right, your an addict, get clean and it'll get better. Anyway, just stopped in again, not real tired and felt like blabbing a bit.
Take care....
Bob
A.A. doesn't promise anything but another day sober/clean. And thats fine with me. I was also told keep coming back it get's better and it has.
I edited to say, some of the thoughts expressed in my above post we're geared towards another fourm. *wink* have a great night.
Bob, I'm not sure how you want us to take this post, but i read it 3 times, and i'm feeling like it was a cheap shot at this board. I haven't been here long, but i love it here, and yours is the first negative post i have seen so far.
If your trying to bring us down with your rude comments, why are you doing this? Are you not happy with yourself? Because there are people out there who are so unhappy with themselves and they don't think it's fair that other people can be happy, so they try to bring them down with them.
Also, you're asking what the hell we're doing here....well, you're here too aren't ya????
Also, why would you take the time and effort to post everyday if you're lying about your sobriety? To me, that would be a big waste of time. Also, it's pretty easy to tell who's devoted to their recovery and who's not.
I'm one of the "new" people here that you spoke of, and i'm SOBER too!
Maybe i took your post the wrong way, but after reading it a few times, i can't see any other way to take it.
I am speaking for myself, and only myself here, PLEASE let's keep the DRAMA off of this board!!!!! WINK (whatever that means, after a post like that:(
If your trying to bring us down with your rude comments, why are you doing this? Are you not happy with yourself? Because there are people out there who are so unhappy with themselves and they don't think it's fair that other people can be happy, so they try to bring them down with them.
Also, you're asking what the hell we're doing here....well, you're here too aren't ya????
Also, why would you take the time and effort to post everyday if you're lying about your sobriety? To me, that would be a big waste of time. Also, it's pretty easy to tell who's devoted to their recovery and who's not.
I'm one of the "new" people here that you spoke of, and i'm SOBER too!
Maybe i took your post the wrong way, but after reading it a few times, i can't see any other way to take it.
I am speaking for myself, and only myself here, PLEASE let's keep the DRAMA off of this board!!!!! WINK (whatever that means, after a post like that:(
Principles before personalities...but Bob's post was great, he always has invaluable information and shares what works for him (thank you Bob). However, some of us come to the board already involved with AA and some not, they are just simply looking for a way to stop drinking. I was told by several people on the Program early on by members of AA (my Sponsor included)....that AA is not the only way to get and stay sober, however for me it is...I need to learn how to cope with life on life's terms and grow in emotional and spiritual ways....but I am only here to share my experience, strength and hope...I'll leave the rest up to my Higher Power (God)...things work out just how they are suppose to. Hey everyone, let's go out and make it a great day and don't drink no matter what!
Jayde, What I do on this board and at meetings is take what I want away from it and leave the rest..you're doing great...it was suggested to me that for the first thirty days I just stay focused on staying sober, hitting the pillow sober at midnight, not taking a drink just one day at a time. More will be revealed as you embark on this journey. I think Bob might have been actually referring to another board, and perhaps sharing his thoughts with us....however I could be wrong. No big deal.
Jayde, What I do on this board and at meetings is take what I want away from it and leave the rest..you're doing great...it was suggested to me that for the first thirty days I just stay focused on staying sober, hitting the pillow sober at midnight, not taking a drink just one day at a time. More will be revealed as you embark on this journey. I think Bob might have been actually referring to another board, and perhaps sharing his thoughts with us....however I could be wrong. No big deal.
Great post Bob...
You are right VWGirl Bob was posting his thoughts about another board...actually just pasted the same post here...guess he should of taken that part off for here...lol...
Hi Jayde....hope your doing well...
gi
You are right VWGirl Bob was posting his thoughts about another board...actually just pasted the same post here...guess he should of taken that part off for here...lol...
Hi Jayde....hope your doing well...
gi
Ok...sorry guys, and Bob, didn't mean to blow up. I actually came back on a little while ago, after i thought about it for awhile, to delete most of it but i guess you can't after somebody posts after you. Oh well, too late anyways.
Jayde,
hey don't worry about it...its all good. I think its better to ask about a post especially if you took it a certain way rather than sit there and getting upset or being mad...like in this case wasnt even about this board...oh and yea if someone posts after you ..then you can't edit it...not sure why you used to be able to do that...have a great day..
gi
hey don't worry about it...its all good. I think its better to ask about a post especially if you took it a certain way rather than sit there and getting upset or being mad...like in this case wasnt even about this board...oh and yea if someone posts after you ..then you can't edit it...not sure why you used to be able to do that...have a great day..
gi
Hi,
Sorry for the mix up. lol Thats why at the bottom of my above post I edited it and said what I did. I actually thought I was on another board till I hit post and realized I was here. I left it here because it is how I feel as far as what works for me. I should limit my posting to this board since everyone here seems to be a little more open minded. But I did go ahead and post it as well on another board where I was naturally bashed till the thread was removed. lol Again I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. Not that I meant anything bad to begin with, but it was intended for those I already knew. I hope to get to know some of you here as recovery is the most important thing in my life and I love sharing about it. While I know the way I choose isn't the only way, it is the only way I can share about, because it's what works for me. I've posted a version of my story on the Sucess Stories board, in hopes to let you know me a little better. Thanks for letting me share, Keep comming back, I know I will...*wink*
Take care.......
Bob
I start each day reading from a book called..Twenty-Four Hours A Day,
My fav. day to read is January 6th, which I've added to my morning prayers.....
Keeping clean and sober is the most important thing in my life. The most important decision I ever made was my decision to give up drinking and drugging.
I am convinced that my whole life depends on not taking that first drink or drug.
Nothing in the world is as important to me as my own sobriety. Everyting I have, my whole life, depends on that one thing.
Can I afford to forget this, even for one minute?
"I Think Not"
Sorry for the mix up. lol Thats why at the bottom of my above post I edited it and said what I did. I actually thought I was on another board till I hit post and realized I was here. I left it here because it is how I feel as far as what works for me. I should limit my posting to this board since everyone here seems to be a little more open minded. But I did go ahead and post it as well on another board where I was naturally bashed till the thread was removed. lol Again I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. Not that I meant anything bad to begin with, but it was intended for those I already knew. I hope to get to know some of you here as recovery is the most important thing in my life and I love sharing about it. While I know the way I choose isn't the only way, it is the only way I can share about, because it's what works for me. I've posted a version of my story on the Sucess Stories board, in hopes to let you know me a little better. Thanks for letting me share, Keep comming back, I know I will...*wink*
Take care.......
Bob
I start each day reading from a book called..Twenty-Four Hours A Day,
My fav. day to read is January 6th, which I've added to my morning prayers.....
Keeping clean and sober is the most important thing in my life. The most important decision I ever made was my decision to give up drinking and drugging.
I am convinced that my whole life depends on not taking that first drink or drug.
Nothing in the world is as important to me as my own sobriety. Everyting I have, my whole life, depends on that one thing.
Can I afford to forget this, even for one minute?
"I Think Not"
Bob, I'm right there with you buddy. For me sobriety is the number one priority in my life along with my God. It's funny how your thread was interpreted so differently on one site than on another site, but hey it is what it is...I just finished the Traditions with my Sponsor...she gave me homework too. Then she's asked me to do a mini-4th on me and my ex-husband's relationship. So demanding that Sponsor of mine, lol! Hope you and Gina are well tonight and it will be great if the both of you could participate in the Step Study we are kicking off this weekend.
Hi,
I'd love to take part in that. I have my homegroup tomorrow night a 7pm. Then I'll check in to see whats up. I'm waiting for the step study to get started again at step one, the one I was going to. I missed a few weeks due to some personal problems back in November, plus with Thanksgiving on top of it, I decided to start again when it starts over. I don't wanna miss anything. I've since replaced that meeting night with a step meeting, so it's all good. But yeah, I'll do the step study here. Are we gonna use the little red book, big book, and a dictionary, and realy get into it like at a face to face meeting? Or just sorta discuss the steps? Let me know.
Take care.....
Bob
I'd love to take part in that. I have my homegroup tomorrow night a 7pm. Then I'll check in to see whats up. I'm waiting for the step study to get started again at step one, the one I was going to. I missed a few weeks due to some personal problems back in November, plus with Thanksgiving on top of it, I decided to start again when it starts over. I don't wanna miss anything. I've since replaced that meeting night with a step meeting, so it's all good. But yeah, I'll do the step study here. Are we gonna use the little red book, big book, and a dictionary, and realy get into it like at a face to face meeting? Or just sorta discuss the steps? Let me know.
Take care.....
Bob
Hi Bob, Great. I suggest we start at Step 1...my posts will come from AA literature and my own personal experience with each Step. However, I think whatever any one wants to post in regard to any Step is okay, as long as we stay focused on recovery...at least that's my suggestion.
Yeah,
sounds good to me. We should try and keep one thread just for that. No drifting off the subject. A Step Study Thread. This way anyone that maybe can't post or sign in every day can just participate when ever possible without missing a thing, or trying to sift through a bunch of posts not partaining to the subject. Thanks for the invite, I look forward to it.
Bob
sounds good to me. We should try and keep one thread just for that. No drifting off the subject. A Step Study Thread. This way anyone that maybe can't post or sign in every day can just participate when ever possible without missing a thing, or trying to sift through a bunch of posts not partaining to the subject. Thanks for the invite, I look forward to it.
Bob
Great idea...looking forward to it.
Hi Bob...nice to meet you! Sorry about the mix up....i am working on keeping my mouth shut! lol...glad you are posting and hope to get to know you better;)
Have a nice day..........
Have a nice day..........
