I accidentally found this website....it's a blessing. I'm a mother of an adult addict that has been in jail numerous times, he says he's changed and wants to live in my house again. I refused since I'd be a prisoner, I've been robbed three times by him and his friends. He has no boundaries and will keep coming to my house for food, money, etc. When he calls in the middle of the night because the girl he's staying with and paying rent to, is making him leave (it never happens) I finally threw all my clothes, etc. in my car and left the state. I'm angry that I have to leave my home that I love because I can't deal with his problems everyday. He calls me and says I'm ruining his life, he's going to run away (he's on parole)
Now I don't know if I'm just running away from the problem or making him take responsibility for himself. I'm confused, don't know the right choice. It's been a rollercoaster for years.
Both - you are running away AND trying to make take responsibility.
Maybe it was good to get away for awhile, but don't let him drive you out of the home you love. So let him run away, it's his his choice and you must know he's using this to manipulate you. Tell him if he wants to see you, you'd be happy to take him out for a burger, but that he cannot be in your home (even if you are there he'll steal from you if he's done it before).
You deserve to be free of what is not your burden. Hang in there...I know it's eshausting.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Maybe it was good to get away for awhile, but don't let him drive you out of the home you love. So let him run away, it's his his choice and you must know he's using this to manipulate you. Tell him if he wants to see you, you'd be happy to take him out for a burger, but that he cannot be in your home (even if you are there he'll steal from you if he's done it before).
You deserve to be free of what is not your burden. Hang in there...I know it's eshausting.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Many friends and family of alcoholic/addicts find peace, understanding and acceptance of the situation in the programs of Al-Anon and Nar-Anon.
I strongly suggest looking up your local meeting(s) and attending.
http://www.al-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
http://www.nar-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
AA & NA will save the alcoholic/addict if they commit to it.
Al-Anon & Nar-Anon will save the family and friends.
All the best.
Bob R
I strongly suggest looking up your local meeting(s) and attending.
http://www.al-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
http://www.nar-anon.org/ Click on "find a meeting"
AA & NA will save the alcoholic/addict if they commit to it.
Al-Anon & Nar-Anon will save the family and friends.
All the best.
Bob R
