Since joining the group less than a week ago, I've been checking in daily....multiple times. It really helps me to know I'm not alone. In fact, there are so many stories that I've read that could be about my own addict son.
The other day I was told by him that heroin is the only thing he has in life. It's partially true...no one wants to spend time with an addict. I told him treatment is the only way he's ever going to get a real life again and he said, "what's the point in going to rehab when I'll just get out and use again". It appears that there is only one "open" NA meeting in my area weekly. I feel like I would get some benefit from it but I don't know if I can make that one. I've read mixed things on going to Al Anon meetings if your issue is drugs and not alcohol. Can anyone chime in on that? I'm ready to stop having our life revolve around our son's addiction, especially since he doesn't seem to want to get help at all. Just like I read in another post, He wants to come home and be around family to "kick". That is such a lie. He wants to be comfortable and have it easy so he can only have to worry about his drugs, not have to think about food, shelter, etc.... Thanks for letting me vent. It really does help.
Shell
Hi Shell, welcome,
you have the right attitude towards your son's addiction - you cannot fix him - dont let him manipulate you - we addicts are great at that - as for Al-Anon - it varies from group to group - is there a local Nar-Anon group , check it out - if not most Al-Anon groups dont draw any distinction now - there are so many addicts that are cross addicted- to both alcohol and drugs(like myself) that the lines have become blurred - the symptoms (drug of choice) may be different but the disease is the same - addiction - i am sure they will make you very welcome and you will get alot of help and support there - keep reaching out for support - keep posting - you will always get support and advice here- alot of good people on here with alot of experience - wish you all the best -
you have the right attitude towards your son's addiction - you cannot fix him - dont let him manipulate you - we addicts are great at that - as for Al-Anon - it varies from group to group - is there a local Nar-Anon group , check it out - if not most Al-Anon groups dont draw any distinction now - there are so many addicts that are cross addicted- to both alcohol and drugs(like myself) that the lines have become blurred - the symptoms (drug of choice) may be different but the disease is the same - addiction - i am sure they will make you very welcome and you will get alot of help and support there - keep reaching out for support - keep posting - you will always get support and advice here- alot of good people on here with alot of experience - wish you all the best -
Shell you should check out a site called the addict's mom. That site was recommended here and it has help me deal with having an addicted son. Huge problem right. I also attend al anon and it has helped me heal too. You have to find a group of people you can learn to care about. The women I have met at al anon are wonderful to me and I could not have coped without them. I am not a religious person but I am open to anything that will help me and my family heal so I said to myself "bring on some of that old time religion" and I pray and I meditate and that helps to. Life living with addiction is a hard one but I need hope and joy in my life so I put forth the effort to change myself and change how I cope with the addict I love. My inability to cope with it has led me here and other places because I want to cope, I want to change and I require the ability to remain hopeful about my future. We as parents need to be mentally healthy to survive this thing called addiction, this living hell. So I remain open to the positives out there, the efforts others have put forth to help us parents cope with our addicted kids because I want him to thrive like I know he can and wants to do.
