Well here we go again- My son went down the Jersey Shore for the summer. Sandy is still Upstate NY- I guess for good. This is so exhausting.
I don't know how my kid does it- but know he's with a friend of his ,living 5 blocks from the ocean/Boardwalk. He tells me he is getting a job as a waiter for the summer.
Must be nice- 21 years old- no responsibilities , just taking care of food & rent. He doesn't drive anymore so there's no car insurance or credit cards-
Maybe I'm just jealous of those times*
As for the other one- I'm getting used to the idea of bachelorhood- yeah 15 years was a long time but the last year or so was more bad than good. We kind of were growing apart ,if I really want to get honest.
Now if I really want to get honest- - I have to fess up to you guys & let it be known that the stress of all that's been going on- - not to mention my job pressures has caused me to return to my old psychiatrist. She recognised certain familiar behaviors and prescribed me a months worth of 10mg Valium.
I assured her & myself that it would be no big deal . She seemed to think that I was close to coming apart so I have the instructions to take 1 in the am & 1 in the pm.
I haven,t posted in awhile but I see the gangs still here
Thanks for listening
jack
if u never asked for them jack she must,ve seen something,months supply is no big deal,i wouldnt worry about it in a habitual sense,take care m8,,,eck
So good to see you post, Jack. I was wondering about you, just today. Change is always so tough. 15 years is a very long time, and if things don't work out it'll take some getting used to.
I miss the easy days of youth too. I have two that just finished high school and they live pretty large it seems. Your son has plenty of years of the grind ahead of him. He'll always be learning, whatever he does. Sounds like he'll have a nice summer.
You had me a little scared with the confession. I thought it would be something else. It sounds to me like your Dr. is looking out for you. You should listen to her...since you're payinhg her anyway, lol.
I wish you all the best Jack. You deserve only good things. I think they're on the horizon. Take care of yourself.
Beck
I miss the easy days of youth too. I have two that just finished high school and they live pretty large it seems. Your son has plenty of years of the grind ahead of him. He'll always be learning, whatever he does. Sounds like he'll have a nice summer.
You had me a little scared with the confession. I thought it would be something else. It sounds to me like your Dr. is looking out for you. You should listen to her...since you're payinhg her anyway, lol.
I wish you all the best Jack. You deserve only good things. I think they're on the horizon. Take care of yourself.
Beck
If only we knew then what we know now huh
Dear Jack,
Like Beck you scared the heck out of me with the "fess up" thing!
From your post...."I have to fess up to you guys & let it be known that the stress of all that's been going on- - not to mention my job pressures has caused me to return to my old psychiatrist."
I'm so proud of you for seeking help to get through this and not self-medicating. It's hard to understand why things don't work out as we had planned, but often we come to find out later that it was for the best...even though it hurts at the time.
One day at a time! :)
Love,
Susan
Like Beck you scared the heck out of me with the "fess up" thing!
From your post...."I have to fess up to you guys & let it be known that the stress of all that's been going on- - not to mention my job pressures has caused me to return to my old psychiatrist."
I'm so proud of you for seeking help to get through this and not self-medicating. It's hard to understand why things don't work out as we had planned, but often we come to find out later that it was for the best...even though it hurts at the time.
One day at a time! :)
Love,
Susan
Hi Jack....so sorry to hear that the changes are coming fast and furious and hard....trust the doc...like Eck said...she must have seen something and knows u need a hand...sending u good thoughts Jack...
Jack my friend just to let ya know im thinking of you at this difficult time......all the very best mate...........Davey
Hey Jack ~
Gave me a start, too, but you're solid and know all the drills. Taking care of you now is what it's all about and I've no doubt things will take a turn for you soon...you've had a turbulent year. We're all rallying for you, Jack...feel better.
Peace~MomNMore
Gave me a start, too, but you're solid and know all the drills. Taking care of you now is what it's all about and I've no doubt things will take a turn for you soon...you've had a turbulent year. We're all rallying for you, Jack...feel better.
Peace~MomNMore
Jack, that sounds like a lot to be put on your shoulders. Thanks for the update.
Personally I think the valuim can be helpful. I get scripts for 10mg 2x a day I did think they worked well for a hour or two when i was active into a panic attack. I have not had ANY of my valuim at all in about 9 days but, I do have to watch myself with them as you should to.
Best medication i've found is to stay active. I know that sounds LAME but, it works so well for me. When i keep my MIND and body active it lessons stress cuts out H cravings. It also helps me to better manage stress that i do have. Going out doing things and learing new things is wonderful for the soul.
Personally I think the valuim can be helpful. I get scripts for 10mg 2x a day I did think they worked well for a hour or two when i was active into a panic attack. I have not had ANY of my valuim at all in about 9 days but, I do have to watch myself with them as you should to.
Best medication i've found is to stay active. I know that sounds LAME but, it works so well for me. When i keep my MIND and body active it lessons stress cuts out H cravings. It also helps me to better manage stress that i do have. Going out doing things and learing new things is wonderful for the soul.
Jack,
Always thinking of you..........I know you're going through it and sometimes ya don't want to post so I don't want to bother you.
Jack, I'm sorry..........man, changes I hate them.............does it kind of feel like "Well here I am middle aged and this is it?"..........I'd be a great therapist wouldn't I?...........almost like saying "Yo, client I know how ya feel and it plain stinks so ummmmmmmm yeah that's how it rolls".
If it helps in the least I know plenty of folks in our age bracket who are undergoing drastic changes...............and it feels well it s*cks.........and I'm so sorry, alas we could always look forward............like pick out things we've always wanted to do, but haven't.............and do them???????
JERSEY SHORE......................oh for the love of all things FUN.........right of passage in a way................best times of our lives and the freedom and the sun and the whole thing..............we did it at 20 a summer "DOWNASHORE".........quit the jobs we swore right out of high school we'd have at least until marriage and ten kids and oh yeah the jobs down there almost can't say they're jobs because it's all that wonderlust and beach and for him chicks and he*l yeah I'm envious.
O.K. ask your son when the place is available for a bunch of old people......how funny would that be............I know you can't say but you guys do the Seaside thing more than the Wildwood thing I think, but hey a lil Margate or Longport goes a long way, YO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jack, I hope you can laugh just a little bit and I don't want you to fall apart........that Doc definately had a good heads up.............and yes you do have a whole lot going on...............so we need to go downashore........and there ya go.........bust in on them lil dudes and how your son does it because he's his father's son and he has good friends and he's making his way.....no flies on your boy, Jack..........that's a good thing.
Always thinking of you..........I know you're going through it and sometimes ya don't want to post so I don't want to bother you.
Jack, I'm sorry..........man, changes I hate them.............does it kind of feel like "Well here I am middle aged and this is it?"..........I'd be a great therapist wouldn't I?...........almost like saying "Yo, client I know how ya feel and it plain stinks so ummmmmmmm yeah that's how it rolls".
If it helps in the least I know plenty of folks in our age bracket who are undergoing drastic changes...............and it feels well it s*cks.........and I'm so sorry, alas we could always look forward............like pick out things we've always wanted to do, but haven't.............and do them???????
JERSEY SHORE......................oh for the love of all things FUN.........right of passage in a way................best times of our lives and the freedom and the sun and the whole thing..............we did it at 20 a summer "DOWNASHORE".........quit the jobs we swore right out of high school we'd have at least until marriage and ten kids and oh yeah the jobs down there almost can't say they're jobs because it's all that wonderlust and beach and for him chicks and he*l yeah I'm envious.
O.K. ask your son when the place is available for a bunch of old people......how funny would that be............I know you can't say but you guys do the Seaside thing more than the Wildwood thing I think, but hey a lil Margate or Longport goes a long way, YO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jack, I hope you can laugh just a little bit and I don't want you to fall apart........that Doc definately had a good heads up.............and yes you do have a whole lot going on...............so we need to go downashore........and there ya go.........bust in on them lil dudes and how your son does it because he's his father's son and he has good friends and he's making his way.....no flies on your boy, Jack..........that's a good thing.
ZG
Yeah ,Keeping body & mind active is good for the emotional ups & downs- Sometimes a reminder helps a lot- thanks, I have coached little league for years & this year I blew it off. That probably was a bad idea. It kept me active & filled up my time constructively 3 nights s week and Saturdays. Maybe I should look into coming in late as a coach (all the leagues started already)
B * *
Man I cant tell you how much I miss the Jersey Shore. Even living in NY back in those days where a lot of people went to the Long Island beaches & Coney Island in Brooklyn- Me & the "old gang" would do the Seaside thing. Those were the fuqking days- -before heroin (OK we drank & smoked weed) . It was the early -mid 70,s & 4 or 5 of us would just rent a house all summer long.
Someone would always be there & we tried to get summer jobs on the boardwalk.
Most of the time ,I worked a summer job in NY & went down on Friday,Sat,* came back Sunday night or Monday morning.
Hell I could go on forever here- but I think only you & I really understand the right of passage that growing up every summer down the shore really is!
From Philly ,you guys would probably be the Wildwood area- - we were further north. Same sh*t though.
I guess when I see my son not getting his life together up here, by getting a car, a job ,and generally getting more responsible I should understand that he doesn't want to lose that feeling of youth- no responsibilities ..etc...
I also know the other side of that - - -the longer you put off getting serious about life & your future , the bigger hole you dig for yourself.
OK -the coffees ready
Nice Sunday to all
jack * *
Yeah ,Keeping body & mind active is good for the emotional ups & downs- Sometimes a reminder helps a lot- thanks, I have coached little league for years & this year I blew it off. That probably was a bad idea. It kept me active & filled up my time constructively 3 nights s week and Saturdays. Maybe I should look into coming in late as a coach (all the leagues started already)
B * *
Man I cant tell you how much I miss the Jersey Shore. Even living in NY back in those days where a lot of people went to the Long Island beaches & Coney Island in Brooklyn- Me & the "old gang" would do the Seaside thing. Those were the fuqking days- -before heroin (OK we drank & smoked weed) . It was the early -mid 70,s & 4 or 5 of us would just rent a house all summer long.
Someone would always be there & we tried to get summer jobs on the boardwalk.
Most of the time ,I worked a summer job in NY & went down on Friday,Sat,* came back Sunday night or Monday morning.
Hell I could go on forever here- but I think only you & I really understand the right of passage that growing up every summer down the shore really is!
From Philly ,you guys would probably be the Wildwood area- - we were further north. Same sh*t though.
I guess when I see my son not getting his life together up here, by getting a car, a job ,and generally getting more responsible I should understand that he doesn't want to lose that feeling of youth- no responsibilities ..etc...
I also know the other side of that - - -the longer you put off getting serious about life & your future , the bigger hole you dig for yourself.
OK -the coffees ready
Nice Sunday to all
jack * *
Jack,
Nothing and I mean nothing can touch those days..........Should I break in to that Don Henley song.............LOL...........oh coming up to work on Monday mornings............the worse.........LOL..........all hungover.........and finally when we'd hit the bridge...............like "No, no I don't wanna be back in the city"...and trudging through work for the next week.........and off again Friday afternoon in that traffic, but it so didn't matter.
Yep, pre heroin..........just some drinks in the clubs.............no weed for me......then hitting that beach in them bathing suits of the late 70's and we wore all our gold and diamonds on the beach and freakin high heels.......what a bunch of floosies we were.
Mid 70's were better............why in God's great green earth my P's allowed me downashore when I was a Freshman in high school with a bunch of dudes is beyond me.............LOL...........then remember the boardwalk..........it was majical it was...........people watching and wanting to be seen.
LOVE LOVE LOVE Seaside............never stayed there more than a night, but I love the vibe.............and the bar on the boards...........and how all the New Yawkers eat while walking.............man, them foks can eat a sausage wit pepers and a soda while walking.............always amazed me........and they got that antique carasouel and that thing ya ride on in the sky and look down at the beach.
Great times and good memories........yeah we were Wildwood..........more aptly named "Childwood" and drinking age was 18..........woot........and like ya said always somebody was at the house...........Tres was in on one with some real nuts..............I was in with the Italian guys from Souffff Philly........wondering if ya meant North like Sea Isle or Avalon..........I doubt it though cause boring in my opinion.
Longport and Margate though so close to AC.........all them great clubs.......yes, I think your son is just hanging on and if it's any consellation, Jack............I have nephews that age doing that same exact thing........they'll come around soon enough........that"s a tough age...........like who am I and what am I going to do and all that............he's gonna be O.K.........probably waiting a table right now OR running a stand where ya toss balls into a basket to win a prize...................or my all time fave I did.........taking photographs in them old time places............dressing people u like Bonnie and Clyde.
Enjoy the memories Jack..........we gotta treasure them and yeah it's our thing.....Tina would understand as well...........Cynical One maybe as well, and GYAC probably like Cynical they probably did Rehoboth maybe...........that and Cape May would be more our speed now...........LOL......hey no shame in that.
Nothing and I mean nothing can touch those days..........Should I break in to that Don Henley song.............LOL...........oh coming up to work on Monday mornings............the worse.........LOL..........all hungover.........and finally when we'd hit the bridge...............like "No, no I don't wanna be back in the city"...and trudging through work for the next week.........and off again Friday afternoon in that traffic, but it so didn't matter.
Yep, pre heroin..........just some drinks in the clubs.............no weed for me......then hitting that beach in them bathing suits of the late 70's and we wore all our gold and diamonds on the beach and freakin high heels.......what a bunch of floosies we were.
Mid 70's were better............why in God's great green earth my P's allowed me downashore when I was a Freshman in high school with a bunch of dudes is beyond me.............LOL...........then remember the boardwalk..........it was majical it was...........people watching and wanting to be seen.
LOVE LOVE LOVE Seaside............never stayed there more than a night, but I love the vibe.............and the bar on the boards...........and how all the New Yawkers eat while walking.............man, them foks can eat a sausage wit pepers and a soda while walking.............always amazed me........and they got that antique carasouel and that thing ya ride on in the sky and look down at the beach.
Great times and good memories........yeah we were Wildwood..........more aptly named "Childwood" and drinking age was 18..........woot........and like ya said always somebody was at the house...........Tres was in on one with some real nuts..............I was in with the Italian guys from Souffff Philly........wondering if ya meant North like Sea Isle or Avalon..........I doubt it though cause boring in my opinion.
Longport and Margate though so close to AC.........all them great clubs.......yes, I think your son is just hanging on and if it's any consellation, Jack............I have nephews that age doing that same exact thing........they'll come around soon enough........that"s a tough age...........like who am I and what am I going to do and all that............he's gonna be O.K.........probably waiting a table right now OR running a stand where ya toss balls into a basket to win a prize...................or my all time fave I did.........taking photographs in them old time places............dressing people u like Bonnie and Clyde.
Enjoy the memories Jack..........we gotta treasure them and yeah it's our thing.....Tina would understand as well...........Cynical One maybe as well, and GYAC probably like Cynical they probably did Rehoboth maybe...........that and Cape May would be more our speed now...........LOL......hey no shame in that.
