I am currently living with an alcoholic husband in denial. He is causing so many problems in the family from stealing and lying to fighting.
A lot of things in my house come up as missing and he says he has no idea where it's gone. He has admitted to actually taking stuff and returning them back to stores to get cash back for vodka (but he says it's cash for gas, etc). I've now gone as far as tearing labels off of household/beauty products so the UPC label cannot be scanned. It's sad to have to do this. He has also taken every one of my son's XBox games and returned them for cash and verbally abusing my son into thinking he is an idiot and misplaced all of them.
He steals any cash lying around the house too. I have to hide my wallet to ensure its safety.
He has been fired from jobs for drinking. He sneaks vodka into water bottles all the time.
He's crashed and totaled my car driving under the influence but claimed he hit a deer when no deer hair was found anywhere.
Back in 2014 he went into an alcoholic seizure and was rushed to ICU where they had to put him in a coma for 24 days to clean him up. Less than a week later he was back drinking vodka hardcore.
We argue and fight all the time but I am the one who misplaces cash and items. He claims he does not have a drinking problem but hides the vodka where it cannot be seen or leaves it in my other car (a new one replacing the totaled one) opened. When confronted about it he says he does not drink and drive and has no idea how it got in the car. He has always hidden vodka and I believe normal people do not do this.
Does anyone else have similar issues like this with a family member? I would like to ask for some advice/support/help.
I am shocked that you still live with him. Have you gone to AlAnon? I would not let him drive the car, anything valuable box up or store somewhere. As we try to do with our addicts, tell them they can not live with us if they are using.
You can see we still have problems, but it is up to us to keep our lives manageable in spite of what they are doing.
You can see we still have problems, but it is up to us to keep our lives manageable in spite of what they are doing.
