My Son-in-law is a heroin addict and I'm scared for my Daughters life as this morning he has threatened to kill her if the last thing he does. I have called the police before and it hasn't gone anywhere, just made him more angry. He has the strength of ten men when he is drugged up and I am so scared what may happen. I don't hate him as I have seen him go through hell in his life. My Grandaughter had cancer at the age of 13 months and he was an absolute angel with her, so with this in my mind, I can't ever hate him. He worked hard, would work 3 jobs and loved his family. What the hell happened?? I just don't understand. He already looks half dead and I walked past him the other day and didn't even recognise him! My Daughter no longer wants him in the house but when she asks him to leave, he gets violent and the children are terrified. What can I do please someone?
Your daughter must decide for herself how risky it is to stay in a home with an active addict. If she is being threatened and the children are terrified, she needs to leave. You cannot second-guess domestic violence. You cannot justify staying and putting yourself and your children in danger simply because you don't want to leave the comforts of your home.
Personal Protection Orders take time. Asking him to leave can lead to a refusal. Calling the police can be futile if there is no evidence of abuse. If you feel in serious danger....leave.
Addicts are not the same wonderful people when on drugs. No matter how much we love them for who they are and what they do, everything changes when drugs take over. No amount of pressure will get them sober, they must want to do it for themselves.
It must be hard for you to see your daughter in this situation, but you cannot pressure her either. Only she can decide to stay or go. Keep posting as there are many other people here who are struggling too.
Personal Protection Orders take time. Asking him to leave can lead to a refusal. Calling the police can be futile if there is no evidence of abuse. If you feel in serious danger....leave.
Addicts are not the same wonderful people when on drugs. No matter how much we love them for who they are and what they do, everything changes when drugs take over. No amount of pressure will get them sober, they must want to do it for themselves.
It must be hard for you to see your daughter in this situation, but you cannot pressure her either. Only she can decide to stay or go. Keep posting as there are many other people here who are struggling too.
that is correct Roberta, I watched my son turn many a time (he had added meth to heroin) a ppo would be a good thing, but for her and her children maybe she should move out to someplace safe until he gets out good luck
I was thinking meth when I was reading this, heroin addicts tend not to be violent and aggressive, more often nodding out. Regardless, the daughter is in danger and needs to get out before something bad happens. She needs to make a decision in the best interests of herself and her children, is there any family she can turn to...a place she can go to regroup and make a plan?
Peace ~ MomNMore
Peace ~ MomNMore
