Hi everyone,
I need some help. My husband is an alcoholic. He has this problem from our marriage in fact before than our marriage. I am married for 4 years. He has started to ignore me and he is drinking everyday and fighting with me. He does not have any concerns towards family. What should I do. I took him to dr. once but he is not ready to give up alcohol nor he is ready to continue course. please help. We dont have children.
It does not get any better only worse. I know from experience. I was an enabler and made every excuse, and always prayed it would get better. He was a good man, good provider, only drank a couple of times a week thats what I told myself. Well when he did drink he wouldnt show up at home, he pick fights, nothing was ever good enough for him. Socially it was a nightmare he'd be the idiot who drank to get drunk all the time and make a jerk out of himself. What I have learned after 15 years only they can change and usually it takes a very long time. you have to change yourself and set boundaries. You should go to alanon meetings, they can be very helpful. Each and every time he drank and caused a problem he was sorry. Stupid me believed it. I still get angry and I know that its not a healthy emotion, but he still drinks and blames everyone else for his problems. No one can tell you if you should leave him only you know that. there are alot of woman at alanon that chose to stay in the marriage, and alot who left. alcholism is a progressive disease and it causes hardship for everyone involved. Im sorry you have to go through this.
Jo, only you canm answer that question. You cant make your husband find recovery, he has to choose that for himself.
What I recommend and endorse, is Al Anon Family Groups. Go to at least 6 Al Anon meetings before you make a decision on your relationship. These meetings saved my life and my marriage.
What i will say is that if your husband does not find a way to stop drinking, that things will not get better. Al Anon will help you look after yourself and your family.
What I recommend and endorse, is Al Anon Family Groups. Go to at least 6 Al Anon meetings before you make a decision on your relationship. These meetings saved my life and my marriage.
What i will say is that if your husband does not find a way to stop drinking, that things will not get better. Al Anon will help you look after yourself and your family.
