For valentines day my boyfriend bought me a ruby and diamond ring, it was 120.00 dollars. My brother who is 20 and is a active addict "4 years" stayed all night at my house last night "he was not using here but, I think he was high". No one else was here but, he and I. He has stole from me several times b4. This is the 1st time I've let him stay at my new apartment. My boyfriend was pretty annoyed when I told him my brother was staying the night. Everything I own of value my boyfriend has bought, digital camara, dvd player, my T.V, Necklesses. My boyfriend is a stright and narrow guy, works at a eletmenty school. He has never done a hard drug. He's the very best thing that has happend to my life. We've known each other 14 months but, he did not date me untill I started going to the methadone clinic. When I talked to my boyfriend last night on the phone he even told me to put that ring up, I blew it off as him being paroined. I hid my money and necklesses from my brother. I always put that ring on my night stand when I go to sleep, that's the only time I take it off. This morning bright and early my brothers calls my mom for a ride home. That lil sh** it not gone 10 mins when I relize my ring is gone to. I have no ideal how to tell my boyfriend I know my brother took it. I am so mad at him. I can't belive I trusted him again! I know my boyfriend is going to be very disappointed, he told me not to let my brother stay here EVER. All last night my brother kept saying I love you jenn, I need you around to help me clean up. Your the only friend I know who has gotton clean. He even gave me hug when I went to bed and told me how much he loves me.aughhhh he is such an as**ole.
..Zerogirl..
..Sorry to hear he done that..but it shows you..you can,t trust an active addict..no matter who they are..having valuables about in sight can be very tempting for them to take..its no fault of yours for not putting it away..you should be able to leave wot you want anywhere in your own home..but if they see and they want it..they will take it..relative or not..Robbie..
..Sorry to hear he done that..but it shows you..you can,t trust an active addict..no matter who they are..having valuables about in sight can be very tempting for them to take..its no fault of yours for not putting it away..you should be able to leave wot you want anywhere in your own home..but if they see and they want it..they will take it..relative or not..Robbie..
Hero-girl, this is going to be a tough one....I mean telling your boyfriend, BUT
you know...maybe he pawned it, and you know where he goes....you can get it back.....find him.....of course he'll lie, but you can offer...give me the slip or tell me where it is, and I'll pay you......you know how we do...we just were talking about it this morning......he's not right....hopefully it's in the pawn shop.
Can you find him.....he was probably eyeballing that all night long....your mom has your kids right...does she know about your brother....maybe she can get a grasp of what he did with it...it's the sentimental value most importantly.
I'm so sorry....I did that a hundred times....I wouldn't take a red cent off a stranger now or before heroin....if I was back on the gear....and in your house, and saw that ring...I know then I would have taken it....miracle he didn't get the camera....I'd keep looking to see if anything else is missing...CD's...stuff like that....that was B*l*s though KNOWING ya'd miss it right away.
you know...maybe he pawned it, and you know where he goes....you can get it back.....find him.....of course he'll lie, but you can offer...give me the slip or tell me where it is, and I'll pay you......you know how we do...we just were talking about it this morning......he's not right....hopefully it's in the pawn shop.
Can you find him.....he was probably eyeballing that all night long....your mom has your kids right...does she know about your brother....maybe she can get a grasp of what he did with it...it's the sentimental value most importantly.
I'm so sorry....I did that a hundred times....I wouldn't take a red cent off a stranger now or before heroin....if I was back on the gear....and in your house, and saw that ring...I know then I would have taken it....miracle he didn't get the camera....I'd keep looking to see if anything else is missing...CD's...stuff like that....that was B*l*s though KNOWING ya'd miss it right away.
i stole a padded bra once. i never stole again. except gas a few times. the security guard obnoxiously said to me ... "why are u stealing a bra" i replied "cuz my mother said i dont need one" he retorted "yea, and now everyone knows u dont need a bra as well" humiliated, i was told i couldnt go into the store (sears) without a guardian until i was 18. i still dont need the bra (LOL) but i still remember that f****rs smile. like u dumb, stupid, titless girl. ha. i still laugh at that, but im glad it happened.
sorry ur ring got stolen. that sux. id kick his a** for ya, but ur ring is probably hocked already. stealing something that makes u smile...taking away something beautiful that helps u feel "pretty". material stuff can make u feel better. but no one cares about ur property, or mine, or anyone elses when they theif things. id compromise my person b4 i would take something from someone. it makes me feel bad when people do things like that. i know that a lot of times it is the drugs, but even addicts have options. u dont havta do it. hang in there. maybe get a new b/f. or g/f. whatever. someone who wont hurt u. i know its hard. even harder when u know deep down its not the person's tru self doing those things. i guess my advice would be.....hey, ur clean now, go buy urself something nice. something that makes u feel pretty/happy/desirable. and hide it when ur around that perosn. or get a tazer....LOL
sorry ur ring got stolen. that sux. id kick his a** for ya, but ur ring is probably hocked already. stealing something that makes u smile...taking away something beautiful that helps u feel "pretty". material stuff can make u feel better. but no one cares about ur property, or mine, or anyone elses when they theif things. id compromise my person b4 i would take something from someone. it makes me feel bad when people do things like that. i know that a lot of times it is the drugs, but even addicts have options. u dont havta do it. hang in there. maybe get a new b/f. or g/f. whatever. someone who wont hurt u. i know its hard. even harder when u know deep down its not the person's tru self doing those things. i guess my advice would be.....hey, ur clean now, go buy urself something nice. something that makes u feel pretty/happy/desirable. and hide it when ur around that perosn. or get a tazer....LOL
Yeah i know exactly how you feel well i've cleaned up my act and i live w/ my parents and 3 brothers and one is using fetynol patches and i thought he was clean so i kept sticking up for him and allways letting him barrow money now i feel so stupid it dosent bother me so much that i'll never see the money but that i belevied him and stuck up for him when he was aressted for drug dealing i was on the newes telling the reporter off cause i truley believed he was clean and we were both arrested for old stuff from a couple years ago saposadly the FBI had an ivestagation on us for the last 4 years. I just feel so stupid cause when the news station called him one of the biggest supplyers to suburban high school kids i flipped on them but 1 week later i caught him selling to someone.
It really hurts when it's your family cause i will allways love him but it makes me so mad to watch this and not be able to do anything about it ya know??
It really hurts when it's your family cause i will allways love him but it makes me so mad to watch this and not be able to do anything about it ya know??
I know he knew i'm notice it, that's why he left bright and early. My mom knows he uses. I called her and told her my ring was gone. She was kinda upset but, not to suprized. When she picked up my brother he did not go home, she said she dropped him off at his friends. I can't prove he took it so i'm outta luck. I had my camra in a box under my bed, he would of had to do sum digging to get it. I'm sure he saw it unprotected on my night stand and snatched it on impulse. Melissa77 that bra story was funny, made me smile. I did shabby things using but, it was mostly deceitful stuff. I would cash checks that had no funds in the bank. Lie to my family and tell them the kids needed the money "only worked early in my addiction". Pawn stuff, beg, burrow. I have outright stole oxycottin and needles from my grandparents. I told my boyfriend I think I lost "ring" in the bathtub. I hated to tell him he knows when I was using I would have pawned that. I was afriad he would think I sold it or pawned it. Bryn there are so many pawn shops within a 25 mile area I would be clueless as to where to go. I will try to get him to give up where it went to but, i'm 95% sure he'll never tell. Fatherofone it is hard to trust a active addict. I hate having to hide everything from him. He's so quick to he can snatch something and be gone b4 you know it. MiaT thanks for the reply. I've defended my brother to only to be laughed at later. He has this way of making you think he's done nothing wrong, he'll cry and swear he did not do it. I hope he gets his life together one day.
The most amazing part of all of this is we were all addicts, and we buy it.
I mean I could see other people believeing us like hero/zero said....like early on.
Ya know....OMG my kids insurance isn't going through.....and I have to take her to the Doctor....and then she'll need prescriptions, and something is wrong with those MOFO's at that insurance company....I'll straighten that out...BUT
ummmmmmm in the meantime she HAS to go to the Doctor....looks like strep.
Don't forget too....I'll need money for the over the counter stuff too....Ugggghhh.
Why wouldn't a brother, friend, neighbor, cousin believe that....when your entire life you've done for others....who'd make it up....we're fiercely loyal friends, and good parents, and dedicated siblings.....UNTIL.....finally they all at once are like "She had to go to the Doctor for her stomach virus"...."She told me the kid had a sore throat".....I bought two bottles of motrin for her....then it's all bad.
So how can we not tell the very sneaks that we were lying right in our faces?
Somebody just told me the other day there was an NA trip....like to NYC or skiing or something....I asked why they didn't go....they said because it would have been too tempting....I'm like huh....yeah my buddy the one I used with and the one we got clean together....he was going, and we were sharing a room, and he had like fifteen oxy's....whatever mg.....I'm like WAIT that is NUTS.
The guy goes NO what is NUTS is I leant him money....cause he said he needed to get his insulin.....and he never had diabetes before....so he says I found out yesterday, and I didn't want to tell you because it would upset me again.....my friend was like ME ME ME THE BIGGEST LIAR ON EARTH I believed him, and gave him the money.....so you guys ain't the only ones.
We have to laugh to keep from crying....I'd like to kick your brothers azzzz too
but I'd have to kick my own first cause Lord what I didn't steal....from my own family....I mean just awful....I am sorry about your Valentine's gift sweetie.
I mean I could see other people believeing us like hero/zero said....like early on.
Ya know....OMG my kids insurance isn't going through.....and I have to take her to the Doctor....and then she'll need prescriptions, and something is wrong with those MOFO's at that insurance company....I'll straighten that out...BUT
ummmmmmm in the meantime she HAS to go to the Doctor....looks like strep.
Don't forget too....I'll need money for the over the counter stuff too....Ugggghhh.
Why wouldn't a brother, friend, neighbor, cousin believe that....when your entire life you've done for others....who'd make it up....we're fiercely loyal friends, and good parents, and dedicated siblings.....UNTIL.....finally they all at once are like "She had to go to the Doctor for her stomach virus"...."She told me the kid had a sore throat".....I bought two bottles of motrin for her....then it's all bad.
So how can we not tell the very sneaks that we were lying right in our faces?
Somebody just told me the other day there was an NA trip....like to NYC or skiing or something....I asked why they didn't go....they said because it would have been too tempting....I'm like huh....yeah my buddy the one I used with and the one we got clean together....he was going, and we were sharing a room, and he had like fifteen oxy's....whatever mg.....I'm like WAIT that is NUTS.
The guy goes NO what is NUTS is I leant him money....cause he said he needed to get his insulin.....and he never had diabetes before....so he says I found out yesterday, and I didn't want to tell you because it would upset me again.....my friend was like ME ME ME THE BIGGEST LIAR ON EARTH I believed him, and gave him the money.....so you guys ain't the only ones.
We have to laugh to keep from crying....I'd like to kick your brothers azzzz too
but I'd have to kick my own first cause Lord what I didn't steal....from my own family....I mean just awful....I am sorry about your Valentine's gift sweetie.
