my son is 23 years old, has been in prison for 3 1/2 years for 6 armed robberies of pharmacies to feed his addiction to oxy and dexies. He also uses meth. He has been using for 8 years. He stayed clean while inside, when released on parole started using and dealing within 4 days and was back inside 5 weeks later. He was released a week ago and only took 2 days before he started again! I really thought this time he was done with it all, can't believe its happening all over again!
l am done with him, he doesn't want to give it up and doesn't care what anyone says. Just wish he would hit rock bottom and wake up to himself. l can't watch him do this anymore, l have 2 young children that l have to protect from him and all his lies and bulls***. I love him so much :'(
I am sorry that you're going through this. Just remember that to an addict, he is not personally doing this to spite anyone. He is a slave to his addiction. Perhaps he is just not ready yet to be sober.
Everyone's rock bottom is different, same thing for sobriety. Every addicts road to sobriety is different. Some just get it, and others it takes a little bit of time to get it right. But remember, it is literally changing a life style. You mentioned that he has been addicted 8 years, so it is most likely all he really knows. It would involve him cutting out every person who might not only trigger his need to want to use, but also getting on the road to recovery.
Perhaps the best possible solution would be to offer him an ultimatum. That he either enters into a treatment and recovery group or you cut him off. I understand that this is a lot easier said than done, but if you do stick to it, he may reach his "rock bottom". Sometimes that's just what needs to happen.
There are also lots of resources not only for him, such as NA or AA, but for yourself as well. You should go into counselling to help deal with your emotions and frustrations towards him and the situation. Or even look into Al-anon groups in your area. You are not alone, and neither is your son. Please remember this.
Everyone's rock bottom is different, same thing for sobriety. Every addicts road to sobriety is different. Some just get it, and others it takes a little bit of time to get it right. But remember, it is literally changing a life style. You mentioned that he has been addicted 8 years, so it is most likely all he really knows. It would involve him cutting out every person who might not only trigger his need to want to use, but also getting on the road to recovery.
Perhaps the best possible solution would be to offer him an ultimatum. That he either enters into a treatment and recovery group or you cut him off. I understand that this is a lot easier said than done, but if you do stick to it, he may reach his "rock bottom". Sometimes that's just what needs to happen.
There are also lots of resources not only for him, such as NA or AA, but for yourself as well. You should go into counselling to help deal with your emotions and frustrations towards him and the situation. Or even look into Al-anon groups in your area. You are not alone, and neither is your son. Please remember this.
Sry. to read of your son. addiction isn't about love .. it's about addiction .. addicts lose the power to choose because the substance they're on begins to control them ..
one thing I've learned through the years is, willingness grows through pain . I can't judge situations .. only hp knows what others need .. without pain .. there would be 'no chance of a return .. they would never become willing .
hope you'll try alanon meetings .. they help So much ..
one thing I've learned through the years is, willingness grows through pain . I can't judge situations .. only hp knows what others need .. without pain .. there would be 'no chance of a return .. they would never become willing .
hope you'll try alanon meetings .. they help So much ..
