Spouse Comes Home From Rehab Tomorrow

Pain Pills
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My spouse comes home tomorrow after 28 day in patient stay. We spoke on the telephone tonight and I found myself getting aggravated, nervous and tense. I want to be sure he goes to a meeting tomorrow night and not prioritizing holiday gifts and shopping instead. His intentions mean well, but I am so fearful that he will get himself wound up and crash. He begins an outpatient program the next day. How can I keep myself calm and not go down the road of all the angry feelings I have and the hurt and betrayal I have experienced. I want this to work for my spouse but can't afford to feel like I missed my chance to finally get out. I am so sad - please tell me what it was like for you to come back home and/or what it was like if you are someone whose loved one had this crippling disease.
Thank you.
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Hello, i just read your post and i was in rehab and trust me he is just as nervious, i was so scared comming home, look please try to keep calm and try to look on the bright side, incourage him to go to meetings and support him as much as you can thru his recovery and tell him to post here if needed for support! i know that your a great wife and have helped your husband so much and have been really supportaive(sp?) and thats so awesome as well!!! you keep your head up, deep breaths, and hang in there... we are all here for you all the way.... Mitzy
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Thank you Mitzy - I really appreciate knowing I have the support of you and this board. I am so sad and terrified.
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Imagine- Coming out of rehab was like coming out of jail. It was SO soothing..what he is looking forward to, I "assume" is putting on a nice pair of sweats and curling up on the couch with the woman her loves..and that would be YOU!
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Danny you are so sweet, that was a nice post!!! i must say,... how are you doing today?, i see that you found a new hobbie:) hehe,,,
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Hi Imagine....
I know all the feelings you are going through. The only difference is I watched as mine went through wd. If there is anything that you need or anyway I can help please let me know. It took me awhile to get use things. My whole way of thinking had to be changed. I am not sure how I even changed it but somehow I did. Take some time to re-connect personally. Give him time to tell all that has happened to him. Don't push...this will be the hardest.....it is up to him to stay clean and fight for it everyday. Give your support and love. I wish you good luck and will keep you both in my prayers.....
Tina
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I for one think that its great to be so wonderful and stand by your man!! I for one know that without my fiancee backing me up every step of the way i wouldnt have been able to do it.!!! He's very lucky to have someone who loves him so much and cares about him the way you do!

Keep up the good work.

Best of Luck , Christina
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Jaz- It's an old habit I took up again! It's just too dang cold here for this stuff!!!! I have the like the "bestest" bike in the world. It's a Schwinn than cost me a ton of dough..I was Ok going with the wind..going against it, I froze my a** off..

Kinda like life. You've been in rehab..YOU know what it's like to get out..it's like leaving prison...
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Ah funny Danny, and i must say from experience getting out of real jail was sooooo much better than getting out of rehab, no joke.. jail was terrifing(sp?), i was so excited to get out of jail!!! , getting out of rehab was scary for me as well as exciting, but i must say i do miss it time to time, hehe.... take care sweetie....mitzy:)