OK, exactly what I did obviously requires someone in your life who can pay some bills. But I am hoping some of the churches out there try out my model. I've got to see if I can replicate it -- make it happen again with someone else. First, see yourself, if my kid did it and she was so so bad, maybe you could too. But there needs to be a structure in place around you. You need someone who is willing to do this for you, and I do think some pastors could do this. I feel really bad for those of you who are alone. But there are free programs out there. Something is better than nothing. The heroin tells you to do it alone. It's scared of you getting healthy people around you.
I'm confused. Especially in the beginning and something about your kid being really bad so it's okay for me to too. ? Huh?. I mean, I feel bad for myself too. But I just don't understand what you mean. Sorry.
Heartbreaks4u,
We moved your 2nd post about your daughter to Families/Partners of Addicts, where there are other parents who have walked in similar shoes. The thread is titled "Mom of a Heroin Addict."
- the Moderators
We moved your 2nd post about your daughter to Families/Partners of Addicts, where there are other parents who have walked in similar shoes. The thread is titled "Mom of a Heroin Addict."
- the Moderators
Ohh it's more to this story thats missing . Now I know. Sorry.
When I said my daughter was bad, I meant her addiction was so bad; she was considered a very serious addict by the professionals, yet she has come out of it. So, it can give you some hope. Now, it was a long, rough journey in all. Up to this point, I didn't feel the programs she attended worked. That's why I did my own. First, she had to get 30 days sober in an environment where she couldn't get out. My program for her started when she left her 30 days in jail. She is sober after 12 months. She was very uncooperative at first. So she even started with a very difficult attitude. But it's the drugs, really, not the person. The real person is under it and does come out. The real personality is in there and wants a chance to get out. But the culture around the person has to change. I don't feel it does with the AA meetings. There was a time and place for them -- the meetings show there are other people in the same boat and that's good -- but then there's a time and place to move on and out (yet still have accountability, just without the normalizing of the culture of addiction).
Regarding "feeling bad," I was responding to the comment of "I suck," which is different than feeling bad. We have a very high performance culture, and it's a challenge to stop comparing yourself, but it will help you to just keep moving forward and not look at those comparisons. People can seem to have it all and be lacking in very important areas. Every day is a new day to change. That's all anyone can do.
Heartbreaks4u. Yes, I read your whole story about how much you struggled with your daughter. And not just all the emotions but financially. How you got her a apt and she she turned it into a drug hang out and her getting kicked out and losing out on the deposit. But before that she was living in a tent . And then her having a car and once she got kicked out of the tent then she was living in the car. So after jail you sat her down in an apt with your old lady friend and then you met the coolest minister guy who helped your daughter and him making you laugh for a whole year strait once. Honestly, I think when her boyfriend or was it her husband that past away did she really sit and listen to"mommas way of rehabilitation"
See , I remember, and I didn't even have to go back to check. (Boy I hope I'm not confusing your story with someone else's). I found your story to be really inspiring. And honestly, yesterday morning I bought a half a g of H and told the person whom I use with that when I'm done with this to not ask me to make any phone call, loan you any money or let me see you high and loving life. And right now as I speak I have one more piece left and after maybe three more hits , I'll be done and trying again to not use. This time seems to me the most serious that I've said I'm ready to stop. I just hope I can do it. I just hate living day by day hour by hour. I think I can commit to my sobriety. I really do hope so. I hope it wouldn't be too late for me to ask you to wish me luck.? I could sure use your support.!
See , I remember, and I didn't even have to go back to check. (Boy I hope I'm not confusing your story with someone else's). I found your story to be really inspiring. And honestly, yesterday morning I bought a half a g of H and told the person whom I use with that when I'm done with this to not ask me to make any phone call, loan you any money or let me see you high and loving life. And right now as I speak I have one more piece left and after maybe three more hits , I'll be done and trying again to not use. This time seems to me the most serious that I've said I'm ready to stop. I just hope I can do it. I just hate living day by day hour by hour. I think I can commit to my sobriety. I really do hope so. I hope it wouldn't be too late for me to ask you to wish me luck.? I could sure use your support.!
