Hi to you all hope you are all well and safe. I hav'nt posted for a while, and I still don't know were my 20 year old daughter stand as far as her heroin addiction is concerned.
She is on a drug rehab programe with our local probation, she has to go every day and is urine tested weekly. One month ago she was put on a script of methydone 70mls a day, but I still think she is using heroin.
At the moment she is still living with us, we can only go out when she isin probation,as I can't give her a key to the house . I know I sound as if Im winging and I suppose I am but I am so tired of bailing her out of sittuations.
She is about to get her own flat and I know she has two men aged thirty going to move in with her they are also heroin addicts on methadone. In my heart I know I should try and stop her but I just feel that while shes with those she is giving me and my husband time to our self.
I know I will end up paying some of the bills, but I can't think of what else to do I THINK i have given up trying ,I just want a quiet life. She has no idea about money and will not listen, she gets 125 pounds every other Thursday and by the Saturday its gone , she never offers a penny towards food or her clothing and I can't let her go around in rags. Her room is like a tip and she can't even get clean clothes ready for the following day. Am I being unreasnable I want to help her but I now feel that she must help her self, and if she loses this flat she is not coming back to my home to live. I know Iam a mother but Iam a person aswell and this person needs time to her self now with her husband.
I think Ive mourned enough now thanks for being her
Keep safe good luck to you all
Hey welsh lady. From what I can gather, you have done and continue to do more than enough for your daugther. You're right too, you are a person in your own right and you're entitled to a life of your own. Continuing to buy your daughter clothes and pay her bills will just enable her. She really has to hit her own rock bottom and decide she's had enough and that will only happen if you stop helping her out. I know it sounds cruel but as long as it's easy being an addict, getting back handers from your family etc. You just keep on taking and going along with it. You have to think of yourself and your health, you've done your bit. Tel her you are there for her and will be there waiting when she is ready to comlpetely change her life but until then, you can't keep helping her out. Reading your post makes me feel so bad. I've always hidden my addiction from my family to spare them the heartache but I still borrow and lie about what's happened to all our money. I know they still worry and it eats me up.
Hope it all works out for you,
Linz x
Hope it all works out for you,
Linz x
your daughter will taking as long as you keep enabling... thats the sad truth that my mother had to learn the hard way
Oh Welsh Lady my heart breaks for you.
The ladies told ya just what I am thinking.
As a mom of course you want to help your child............but enabling her isn't helping her...............let her go in rags and why should you pay her bills while she's living with two guys...............you have been a good mom and you have done all you can to help her...............now it's on her.
Like Sra said my mom as well..........about killed her, but that was a wake up call for me alrightie..............thinking of both of you Welsh lady.
The ladies told ya just what I am thinking.
As a mom of course you want to help your child............but enabling her isn't helping her...............let her go in rags and why should you pay her bills while she's living with two guys...............you have been a good mom and you have done all you can to help her...............now it's on her.
Like Sra said my mom as well..........about killed her, but that was a wake up call for me alrightie..............thinking of both of you Welsh lady.
