that was great advice and as i read what u wrote i realise how right u are about everything and then it makes me feel like why do i even bother there are so many nice guys that i have said no for in the past because i love him so much u see the thing is he is perfect in every way he is so caring, hardworking, clever and good looking his addiction is the only glitch!!!! and my biggest fear in the world is if i stay and in the future i am going to resent myself for not leaving when i should have!!! well but then there is no way of knowing untill i give it a chance and i not sure diff but it takes a months for smack to get out of ur urine??? but anyway thats not the point!!! i will see what i can do about his brother but maybe his brother moving in with us isnt such a bad idea coz then i will realy be able to see how serouisly he wants to stay clean instead of me wasting my life away!!! luckily i have a sixth sense when it comes to these stuff i feel even before he uses and i always catch him as soon as he starts and there is no way i am staying if he relapses again i am sorry but i think i deserve more in life!!!
anyway thanks again diff and everyone i have learned alot from u guys and it feels great not to be left out in the dark anymore
cheers
Sally, I really don't think his Bro moving in is a good idea. I can see your reasoning - the reasoning of someone who's never been a heroin addict - but it just isn't about how serious he is. Coming off heroin is harder than you could ever imagine. It totally wrecks you as a person. And inside, you have this great big gaping hole, this desperate emptiness, that's hurts all the time, a void that nothing can fill. You don't feel that way forever. Well I don't, anyway. But some people feel it for a very long time. That's why I stressed to you how important is is for him to protect himself. The craving for heroin is stronger than the strongest love you could imagine. It utterly consumes you. Having this bro to stay is setting him up for a fall. And the addict in him knows this too, it's always searching for a way out of its cage, and this bro, he's the perfect opportunity for a relapse. Which is exactly what the addicted side of his nature wants. Addiction changes you forever. When you become addicted to heroin a new entity is born, and is impossible to kill. He will be carrying his addiction round with for the rest of his life. Putting such a strong temptation in front of him at such an early stage, it's too much of a test.
And onto tests - it's definately 3 days. You're talking to a career junky here. When you have to pass a test in order to get your script, believe me, you know exactly how long that s***e stays in your system. 4 days, you pass. 3 days you fail. Methadone stays in longer. You can still be failing tests for that 3 weeks after your last dose. But methadone and heroin show up different on the test, so you can tell if it's a meth fail or a heroin fail.
So long Sally
Diff xx
And onto tests - it's definately 3 days. You're talking to a career junky here. When you have to pass a test in order to get your script, believe me, you know exactly how long that s***e stays in your system. 4 days, you pass. 3 days you fail. Methadone stays in longer. You can still be failing tests for that 3 weeks after your last dose. But methadone and heroin show up different on the test, so you can tell if it's a meth fail or a heroin fail.
So long Sally
Diff xx
if your man wants to get clean he will- like others are saying-i too have had to change playmates and play places-now that i have had three years-sure i can be aroungd someone for a little while or go throught he old neighborhood on the bus, but i cannot hang out or make them part of my daily life--no way. ever heard the term-misery loves company -well when someone wants to use and they know you have $ orhave ways to get it or will accompany them in their $ endeavors, theyll happily drag you down. Even if both parties are in recovery-its so easy to use-you both have it in the back of your minds at all times and it doesnt take much to bring it the the forefront. as far as the urine--i dont know who told you that but they are wrong-the only drug that stays in yor system that ong is marijuana and thats if you are a heavy smoker--please please take care of yourself and dont get caught up in worrying more or working harder at his recovery than he is!!
Well said Amity. Junkies love nothing more than to welcome a prodigal son back into the fold. If they see someone else fail, it makes 'em feel better about their own miserable lives. Ever noticed that it's when you tell a dealer that you're quitting, and suddenly they start ringing you for a change, and they miraculously seem to have the best gear at the best prices. Hell, they'll even chuck you a few bags for free, until you need it, and then it's back to blanking your calls until they're ready to open up shop, cash up front and under weight deals. It happens every time...
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diff xxx
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diff xxx
