Ive belonged to this board since February.What happend tonight and the words I used have made me sick.I have made a great support on group on here with some e-mails of new friends and people I feel have great recovery.One of the greatest gifts I got on here is respondimg to a lot of new people coming in and trying to help.
I cant stay here any longer.I dont like the anger I used and realize its a big character defect I need to work on.
Not to mention the great feedback and personal stuff I shared with my family last week.It was thrown in my face and I guess thats always a chance you take.
We arent all that different,finding a way to be peaceful in sobriety.
Ive got my meetings,some other ways I work out stuff anf just life.
You new guys,man,I wished I could give you a magic formula.Its a tough job.
Flipper,Bikeman,Rachel,Dotie...theres so many.I love you all.You got my e-mails so stay in touch.
We will see each other again.I love you guys.
Im not making a speech to get all of you to get me stay.Im not like that.Im leaving and have no doubt Ill run into you.somewhere.
peace my friends and i cant even begin to tell you how some of helped me.
Later
PLEASE DONT QUIT WE NEED YOU HERE SOOOO BADLY WHO ELSE IS GOING TO EXPLAIN WHAT OUR BRAINS ARE LOOKING LIKE???LOLOL
PLEASE DONT GO...ITS OKAY TO GET MAD SOMETIMES...IM NEW AND I ALREADY KNOW THE ONES WHO TRIGGER PEOPLE HERE TO GET MAD...IGNORE THEM..YOU ARE VALUED AND WANTED AT THIS BOARD...
HUGS
ALI
PLEASE DONT GO...ITS OKAY TO GET MAD SOMETIMES...IM NEW AND I ALREADY KNOW THE ONES WHO TRIGGER PEOPLE HERE TO GET MAD...IGNORE THEM..YOU ARE VALUED AND WANTED AT THIS BOARD...
HUGS
ALI
TIM.......
I WILL BE SO SAD AND MAD IF YOU LEAVE...PLEASE DO NOT LEAVE YOU GIVE THIS BOARD SENSIBILITY AND REASON......HELP ME PEOPLE!!!!
tIM IGNORE THEM...WE ALL KNOW WHO IT IS.....EVERYONE KNOWS SO STAY AND BE WHERE YOU ARE LOVED AND APPRECIATED.
BIG SUFFOCATING BEAR HUG
ALI
I WILL BE SO SAD AND MAD IF YOU LEAVE...PLEASE DO NOT LEAVE YOU GIVE THIS BOARD SENSIBILITY AND REASON......HELP ME PEOPLE!!!!
tIM IGNORE THEM...WE ALL KNOW WHO IT IS.....EVERYONE KNOWS SO STAY AND BE WHERE YOU ARE LOVED AND APPRECIATED.
BIG SUFFOCATING BEAR HUG
ALI
Tim: You don't kno me and I don't kno u. As a newbie I was just sittin here scoping out this site and came across the discussion between u and Sharon. Take it from an objective observer...whether this is just a big misunderstanding or not, no matter who is right and who is wrong, I have read advice and support from the both of you, and you both offer special insight and excellent information for those recovering. Don't stop the flow of great info...both of you guys...And I too would like to know the misinformation or untruths in the posted article. I do think that was the question.
Hey Tim,
Don't leave the board just because you got aggrevated today. So what, who hasn't????You're human and things may have gotten a little out of control, again, So what? Happens. Stay though, you have a lot of good input on this board. It's cool too how you reach out to the new comer.
Love,
Liz
Don't leave the board just because you got aggrevated today. So what, who hasn't????You're human and things may have gotten a little out of control, again, So what? Happens. Stay though, you have a lot of good input on this board. It's cool too how you reach out to the new comer.
Love,
Liz
tim,
the board eulogies are fun hehehe so please come back!!! i know you didnt want one, but to bad. please i beg of you. yake a vacation though, a real one not a 15-20 hour one. go somewhere sunny ans surf. then come back and email us all about it. on my scouts honer i wont share with the board. i hope we havent humilliated you to bad with your eulogy heheheh, but so glad for emails. technology is a beautiful thang : )
terrianne
the board eulogies are fun hehehe so please come back!!! i know you didnt want one, but to bad. please i beg of you. yake a vacation though, a real one not a 15-20 hour one. go somewhere sunny ans surf. then come back and email us all about it. on my scouts honer i wont share with the board. i hope we havent humilliated you to bad with your eulogy heheheh, but so glad for emails. technology is a beautiful thang : )
terrianne
im sorry that you are so upset tim...there always seem to be one or two people at every website who JUMP all over any different way of looking at things. if posters are secure in their sobriety they wouldnt have to look for mistakes in things others say or type... ( I didnt see anything wrong about the post either)
I just think that if you leave, that person will systematically kill off all posters that have a different way of looking at things and then this will just be a 12 step board. its not one....we should be able to agree to disagree without getting rude or obnoxious. It always seems to me that when there is an argument here it is often due to one or 2 posters trying to throw their weight around....
please dont quit, take a breather, think about it, your not the first person that has been prevoked and wont be the last...the best thing we can do is ignore those specific posts. I do. I automatically dont read that one...Why? I know it will be all negative, or trying to get in a fight..99% on this board dont do that. Hang around Tim PLEASE...
I just think that if you leave, that person will systematically kill off all posters that have a different way of looking at things and then this will just be a 12 step board. its not one....we should be able to agree to disagree without getting rude or obnoxious. It always seems to me that when there is an argument here it is often due to one or 2 posters trying to throw their weight around....
please dont quit, take a breather, think about it, your not the first person that has been prevoked and wont be the last...the best thing we can do is ignore those specific posts. I do. I automatically dont read that one...Why? I know it will be all negative, or trying to get in a fight..99% on this board dont do that. Hang around Tim PLEASE...
What the hell happened, man? I go out to shoot some pool for a few hours and one of the best minds on this board is leaving?
I have no idea either Bikeman. I was watching television all night and came here and seen this. I hope he reconsiders and stays on the board. Just about every thread has me confused tonight though. I have no clue what is going on with anybody here tonight. lol
It was a very very nasty TWISTED argument that started between Sharon and Tim, Cowirl jump in and all hell broke loose. Cowgirl busted up two threads with her mouth tonite. She thinks her purpose for the board is to tell people what to do and they will listen. She has the authority to twist what she wants to go in her directiion. She has been successful with that. She has also repulsed people with that, me being one.
Hey Wiverson,
I think I now understand. Thanks for filling us in.
Love,
Liz
I think I now understand. Thanks for filling us in.
Love,
Liz
Wendy,
It was not Lisa's fault as far as what happened with the thread I was involved in. I take full responsibility for that one. And on the other thread, Lisa got drawn into that one by what the poster said, Terrianne was not without fault. But we just need to get off this and let things settle down. No need to re-hash what has been put to bed.
Thanks,
Sharon
It was not Lisa's fault as far as what happened with the thread I was involved in. I take full responsibility for that one. And on the other thread, Lisa got drawn into that one by what the poster said, Terrianne was not without fault. But we just need to get off this and let things settle down. No need to re-hash what has been put to bed.
Thanks,
Sharon
Your welcome liz.
Im kinda considering taking the lead of tims. You get one pushy person in a group and it wrecks the fun. Its dictatorship. Not fun anymore. Not healing not a learning enviornment when it is one way or the highway. She hurt a VERY GOOD freind of mine and have alot of friends that have had it. there may be something better in the future cuz it ain't happenin here.
Im kinda considering taking the lead of tims. You get one pushy person in a group and it wrecks the fun. Its dictatorship. Not fun anymore. Not healing not a learning enviornment when it is one way or the highway. She hurt a VERY GOOD freind of mine and have alot of friends that have had it. there may be something better in the future cuz it ain't happenin here.
WOW! Glad I missed it....
Hey Wendy,
I hope you stick around too. I know sometimes things get out of control on this board. I've learned to ignore it. Just talk to those you feel comfortable talking to and ignore the ones you don't.
Love,
Liz
I hope you stick around too. I know sometimes things get out of control on this board. I've learned to ignore it. Just talk to those you feel comfortable talking to and ignore the ones you don't.
Love,
Liz
Well, Have a good night everyone. Time for me to flop on the couch and watch some television.
Love,
Liz
Love,
Liz
Hey Tim.
I really appreciate you sharing with us, part of your story, yesterday. I know its never easy to open up about personal matters. I was honored that you would share it with us. I'm sorry that you were hurt by the very thing you opened up to us, about. I can certainly understand needing to take a break. I've felt the same, at times. However, there are many people here who listen when you talk, and are thirsty for the knowledge you bring, myself included. I would hate to see you go. As for the farewell thread, well, there's only been one person who actually left and stayed gone, and I haven't missed them yet. LOL
I would, however, miss you.
DeNae
I really appreciate you sharing with us, part of your story, yesterday. I know its never easy to open up about personal matters. I was honored that you would share it with us. I'm sorry that you were hurt by the very thing you opened up to us, about. I can certainly understand needing to take a break. I've felt the same, at times. However, there are many people here who listen when you talk, and are thirsty for the knowledge you bring, myself included. I would hate to see you go. As for the farewell thread, well, there's only been one person who actually left and stayed gone, and I haven't missed them yet. LOL
I would, however, miss you.
DeNae
Tim:
I would miss you terribly if you do not post anymore. When you speak, I listen.
Rachel
I can't say that I know what is going on. Truth be told I would rather not know. Tim I guess you need to do what you need to do, however please consider whether leaving with an unresolved resentment will help you in the long run.
As well what is a newcomer going to think when he/she sees turmoil?
As I said only you can decide if being here is right for you and what ever you decide I will trust that it is best, but I ask you to maybe sleep on your decision and take a fresh look at it in the morning.
With a disease where our friend often die or get put into jail should we allow an argument to lose another?
God bless.
As well what is a newcomer going to think when he/she sees turmoil?
As I said only you can decide if being here is right for you and what ever you decide I will trust that it is best, but I ask you to maybe sleep on your decision and take a fresh look at it in the morning.
With a disease where our friend often die or get put into jail should we allow an argument to lose another?
God bless.
Sharon and Lisa-My words last night were mean and vicious.I apologize.
Ive still made the decision the leave but not without an ammends.I couldnt sleep thinking of how nasty I used my tounge.It was wrong.
Sharon-I really never knew your daughter had cancer.That was a coicidence.You may think Im a heratless brute but that is beyond what id would ever do.Its awful and no matter how mad i got I would never go there.
I was pissed and made some very derogatory remarks about women.
I hope you and Lisa will find in your heart to forgive me.
About the board -Im not coming back.I shared something so personal over Thanksgiving about my family that I actually thought I couldnt evre write.It was one of the hardest things Ive ever done in my life.My family does not love me and Im not tryimg to get pity.I explained th wholw thing on "Its A Shane Thread"
Everyone was supportive and it was like a new beginning the next day.
Ill be honest with you,I did cry like a baby....it was more of a release
What hurt the most was last night when Lisa said to me "I can understand why they dont want to have anything to do with you"....I know,i said some equally vicious things but for some reason I can never trust here again.Its gone,I love this board but I really have made some new and wonderful friends.I have you emails and will stay in touch.
And once again, which I should start a new tread.From the bottom of my heart I do apologize for the way I spoke to you,Sharon and Cowgirl.
Ive still made the decision the leave but not without an ammends.I couldnt sleep thinking of how nasty I used my tounge.It was wrong.
Sharon-I really never knew your daughter had cancer.That was a coicidence.You may think Im a heratless brute but that is beyond what id would ever do.Its awful and no matter how mad i got I would never go there.
I was pissed and made some very derogatory remarks about women.
I hope you and Lisa will find in your heart to forgive me.
About the board -Im not coming back.I shared something so personal over Thanksgiving about my family that I actually thought I couldnt evre write.It was one of the hardest things Ive ever done in my life.My family does not love me and Im not tryimg to get pity.I explained th wholw thing on "Its A Shane Thread"
Everyone was supportive and it was like a new beginning the next day.
Ill be honest with you,I did cry like a baby....it was more of a release
What hurt the most was last night when Lisa said to me "I can understand why they dont want to have anything to do with you"....I know,i said some equally vicious things but for some reason I can never trust here again.Its gone,I love this board but I really have made some new and wonderful friends.I have you emails and will stay in touch.
And once again, which I should start a new tread.From the bottom of my heart I do apologize for the way I spoke to you,Sharon and Cowgirl.
