I'm BAAACK!
:)
Lurking as usual--''D'ya miss me?
Where ya bin??
I lurk, mostly, because most folks here seem kind of campy and long time friends. It's almost like listening in on a private conversation and that's uncomfortable.
I'm off to a F2F meeting--first in a VERY long time but I'm beginning to realize that, regardless of how helpful the web is in supporting my recovery, there's something far more honest about the faces around me. And a presence.
Be good.
S
I'm off to a F2F meeting--first in a VERY long time but I'm beginning to realize that, regardless of how helpful the web is in supporting my recovery, there's something far more honest about the faces around me. And a presence.
Be good.
S
Well, nice to know who lurks!! I do sometimes, it just depends.
Yeah, it would be good to go to some kind of group thing. I am never sure where I fit in though, and am not so great in company anyway. I think that is one reason why booze was so attractive - the sociability!!
So, I guess the computer works for me. Sounds really sad actually, but I don't talk to a real person about recovery, I just type to other typists!!
Maybe the computer recovery isn't so good for you because you lurk!! Maybe you should post more and see what happens!!
Yeah, it would be good to go to some kind of group thing. I am never sure where I fit in though, and am not so great in company anyway. I think that is one reason why booze was so attractive - the sociability!!
So, I guess the computer works for me. Sounds really sad actually, but I don't talk to a real person about recovery, I just type to other typists!!
Maybe the computer recovery isn't so good for you because you lurk!! Maybe you should post more and see what happens!!
I believed the same thing for a VERY LONG TIME. The cool thing is that all of them were there for the very same reason--to get better. Someone said, "It's like a church OUGHT to be--people not judging, not pretending. Caring and thoughtful. Everyone's there because they need to be."
I post but, as I said before, it seems intrusive. As wide open as the internet purports to be, everyone wants to find their "group," and forums are no different. Oldtimers ~wink~ when passers-by make attempts to communicate because there's a level of newness that just gets boring. A sort of, "We'll see if that one sticks around," air about the regulars. And one must determine who the informal Treehouse Leader is, too. Either that or, like me, one lurks and puts in a plug now and again--because sharing still matters.
:)
Of course, I could be wrong!
Stay sober just for today.
I post but, as I said before, it seems intrusive. As wide open as the internet purports to be, everyone wants to find their "group," and forums are no different. Oldtimers ~wink~ when passers-by make attempts to communicate because there's a level of newness that just gets boring. A sort of, "We'll see if that one sticks around," air about the regulars. And one must determine who the informal Treehouse Leader is, too. Either that or, like me, one lurks and puts in a plug now and again--because sharing still matters.
:)
Of course, I could be wrong!
Stay sober just for today.
Hey SKG...Congrats on the sober time...but this board is like any friendship what you put into it is what you get...We were all new posting here at some time...it takes time to build relationships...And we all appreciate different points of views, stories, ESH....I hope you decide to share/post more often...Love Gina
Hi, Gina.
I was looking at my join date--nearly a year ago! I have no problem sharing--I share too much! I guess my point was in observations of forums in general--I've been a member of one or another in a variety of disciplines for a very long time. Remember "Bourbon Street?" One of the first of its kind? It's a huge world, but we all gravitate towards those we like/enjoy/have similarities with. And while I share the desire to not drink, most of the conversation I see simply doesn't apply--so I mind my business. Besides, with my big mouth I generally end up ticking someone off--unintentionally. Right, Zac? ;)
Thanks--I'm not going anywhere.
I was looking at my join date--nearly a year ago! I have no problem sharing--I share too much! I guess my point was in observations of forums in general--I've been a member of one or another in a variety of disciplines for a very long time. Remember "Bourbon Street?" One of the first of its kind? It's a huge world, but we all gravitate towards those we like/enjoy/have similarities with. And while I share the desire to not drink, most of the conversation I see simply doesn't apply--so I mind my business. Besides, with my big mouth I generally end up ticking someone off--unintentionally. Right, Zac? ;)
Thanks--I'm not going anywhere.
Well, I don't think you are intrusive, neither is anyone else. I think it is good when there are new posts and new topics whoever they are from. When there is nothing happening it's boring!!
Welcome SKG...
Congrats on your first meeting....When I have internet access, I try to check in here but I know for me, I'm not on-line everyday so I hope that doesn't come off as flippant...
Thanks for sharing and Gina is right about all of us being a newcomer at one point and I remember I lurked for almost a year before I posted but it was because of my fears and insecurities....Today, I like to share my ESH and ask others they're experiences when I am struggling with a life situation and everyone on here has always contributed to my recovery....
Again, welcome and I hope to get to know you better in the near future...
Take care,
Stacey
Congrats on your first meeting....When I have internet access, I try to check in here but I know for me, I'm not on-line everyday so I hope that doesn't come off as flippant...
Thanks for sharing and Gina is right about all of us being a newcomer at one point and I remember I lurked for almost a year before I posted but it was because of my fears and insecurities....Today, I like to share my ESH and ask others they're experiences when I am struggling with a life situation and everyone on here has always contributed to my recovery....
Again, welcome and I hope to get to know you better in the near future...
Take care,
Stacey
I was just reading Jennygirl's post, "How Much Damage Was Done?" down below and kind of had to smirk. I avoided these meetings for years--and especially over the last several months. I guess when you're ready to do ANYTHING to stay clean, it seems like such a small step. That, and everyone is there for the same reason--and non-judgmental, caring, and actually kind. Almost comforting--and nobody expects any blithering, sharing, or chest-pounding. Rather, they're there because they want to not drink, too. That's all.
I really wonder what I was so apprehensive about, now? The acknowledgement that I had a problem? the confession that I was a mess? The belief that I'd be judged? The fact that I was out of control? Hell, they all know that. There was a sense of relief almost.
I really wonder what I was so apprehensive about, now? The acknowledgement that I had a problem? the confession that I was a mess? The belief that I'd be judged? The fact that I was out of control? Hell, they all know that. There was a sense of relief almost.
welcome back skg - why don't you tell us a bit of your story that way we can get to know you a bit.
regards
Idgie.
regards
Idgie.
Hi SKG,
Just stoppin' by and wanted to say glad you're posting....for me it's good to just get the stuff out of my head and write or share or post...hope you are doing well tonight! Anyday, I believe, if we are relieved of the obsession and physical craving from alcohol is a victory...for me sobriety has had a lot of ups and downs but to drink over it would be fatal for me most likely...keep going you are doing well!
Just stoppin' by and wanted to say glad you're posting....for me it's good to just get the stuff out of my head and write or share or post...hope you are doing well tonight! Anyday, I believe, if we are relieved of the obsession and physical craving from alcohol is a victory...for me sobriety has had a lot of ups and downs but to drink over it would be fatal for me most likely...keep going you are doing well!
See how many replies you have had skg, you have to post more often now!!
Start your own threads that are stuff you wanna talk about. Sometimes I just use the board like a diary to talk about an experience. It's really good for that!
Start your own threads that are stuff you wanna talk about. Sometimes I just use the board like a diary to talk about an experience. It's really good for that!
Hmm. Thanks for the comments. I'll continue to share--that's never been a problem. It's just the opposite--and that's always been part of the problem. Every hear of, "Atlas Shrugged," by Ayn Rand? I'm a wonderful Martyr--perfect in every way.
I'm only know piecing together my story, so bear with me. I'm going to another meeting at lunchtime and tomorrow there's a "Speaker," whatever that means.
Self-centeredness is part of why we are what we are, methinks.... In some respect or another.
I'm only know piecing together my story, so bear with me. I'm going to another meeting at lunchtime and tomorrow there's a "Speaker," whatever that means.
Self-centeredness is part of why we are what we are, methinks.... In some respect or another.
Hi Skg
Thanks for the mention, good to see you are doing well, keep posting.
Light and love Zac
Thanks for the mention, good to see you are doing well, keep posting.
Light and love Zac
If I'd known it were this EASY and a SIMPLE Program I'd have done it long ago! Fear of the unknown and unwillingness to listen has cost me years of struggle against a concept which just seems so, well, DUH.
When I was finally willing to let go and let it happen at all costs, it cost me nothing. Except drinking. And all my other addictions that I've collected over the years. Now I get to sort through them with clarity of purpose.
peaceness.
When I was finally willing to let go and let it happen at all costs, it cost me nothing. Except drinking. And all my other addictions that I've collected over the years. Now I get to sort through them with clarity of purpose.
peaceness.
