Wow, what a great site! I love message boards and was thrilled to stumble upon this one.
I'm 27 years old and am definately addicted to pot. I smoke daily, a LOT on weekends. My boyfriend has been an addict for probably over ten years. Me? About two years, ever since we started really dating. I really like smoking pot, I like the feeling, the talking we do, the physical relations when we are high. We're both professionals maintaining great jobs (it's not a financial thing!) If there was a way to make it safe and legal, I'd be all for it.
So what's my problem? I'm wanting babies and a family life. I'm also having a lot of chest pain and breathing problems lately. Doctor's appointment is already scheduled for next week. Of course I'm freaking out thinking I have lung cancer or something. I don't smoke cigarettes but my mom did throughout my childhood so I'm worried I have lung cancer from second hand smoking.
I am not high right now LOL
It's been great reading through the posts, knowing I'm not going to be alone. I'm planning on September 5th as my "quit date". What can I expect? I went away to Florida for a weekend in May and it was my first dry weekend in a LONG time. I was a bit edgy and felt funny, I also wasn't as hungry as I usually am (that would work for me!). Is there anything I can do to prepare for my quit day?
Looking forward to becoming active on the forums!
Welcome to the board Neva!
Hmmm...one thing you can expect is to finally remember where you put something down (eventually, not overnight)
Good luck with your quitting!
Babies are the best HP in the world!
love and hugs,
Janet
Hmmm...one thing you can expect is to finally remember where you put something down (eventually, not overnight)
Good luck with your quitting!
Babies are the best HP in the world!
love and hugs,
Janet
Thanks Janet! I'm looking forward to reading through all the posts, preparing myself etc.
I'm sure I'll get used to the acronyms etc. but what does HP stand for?
Oh and I just checked, my quit date is September 6th, the Tuesday. I said to myself last year that I would give myself one more "summer of fun" and then grow up.
I'm sure I'll get used to the acronyms etc. but what does HP stand for?
Oh and I just checked, my quit date is September 6th, the Tuesday. I said to myself last year that I would give myself one more "summer of fun" and then grow up.
Board Lingo:
HP means Higher Power
DOC = drug of choice
OP = Outpatient
IP = Inpatient
OTC = over the counter
anyone else got any we can fill Neva in on?
HP means Higher Power
DOC = drug of choice
OP = Outpatient
IP = Inpatient
OTC = over the counter
anyone else got any we can fill Neva in on?
Ah, thank you/merci beaucoup!
I knew there would be some "board lingo" to get used to.
I knew there would be some "board lingo" to get used to.
Hi Neva4....
I strongly suggest "one day at a time". Picking a "quitting date" puts a lot of pressure, and when we "fail" it leads to a lot of self-deprecation and depression which only makes you want to use more. Instead of the "all or nothing" approach, try "one day at a time"....
I remember before I checked myself into the hospital, that I decided that I wouldn't make a decision as to whether or not I was going to stay sober when I got out. It turns out I've only smoked once since I got out of the hospital (I've only smoked once since July 2nd).
Before that, I kept trying to pin down a "quit" date, and then would come up with a reason not to....the "quit date" kept getting pushed back further and further as I really wasn't "ready" to quit.
I still don't know if I'm ready to quit, but each day I make a decision not to smoke....maybe one day I will smoke. But so far, it gets easier each day not to smoke.
Anyway, thought I'd share that with you.
I totally understand your situation. I love pot too but I'm glad I've been able to stay ganja free for the time being, if not longer.
Love, MV
I strongly suggest "one day at a time". Picking a "quitting date" puts a lot of pressure, and when we "fail" it leads to a lot of self-deprecation and depression which only makes you want to use more. Instead of the "all or nothing" approach, try "one day at a time"....
I remember before I checked myself into the hospital, that I decided that I wouldn't make a decision as to whether or not I was going to stay sober when I got out. It turns out I've only smoked once since I got out of the hospital (I've only smoked once since July 2nd).
Before that, I kept trying to pin down a "quit" date, and then would come up with a reason not to....the "quit date" kept getting pushed back further and further as I really wasn't "ready" to quit.
I still don't know if I'm ready to quit, but each day I make a decision not to smoke....maybe one day I will smoke. But so far, it gets easier each day not to smoke.
Anyway, thought I'd share that with you.
I totally understand your situation. I love pot too but I'm glad I've been able to stay ganja free for the time being, if not longer.
Love, MV
neva, maybe it isnt time for you to quit yet, it doesnt sound like you have that many things staring you in the face yet that make it to unbearable to want to quit, and i think that is where most of us were when we decided. i think at one point we have all loved pot, still do, just know that at some point we grew to hate everything about it and our lives which ended up revolving around it. if that is the case for you then, definately dont look at it as a definate never going to do it again, thing, or it will drive you insane. good luck to you, and go back and read a lot of peoples posts and see what you think, and welcome to the boards.
Thank you both for your input!
I appreciate the advice to "not set a quit date" and the logic behind it really makes sense. I also do recognise that I'm managing life quite well being a "pot head" (as I often refer to myself as). My motivation really is a family, I'm ready for one. I understand that as a parent I'm going to have to sacrafice my life for my child (well for a couple of years at least!). I'm ready and preparing for that to happen.
Setting a quit date for me is a little necessary. Let me explain. I had long ago planned to have "one more summer of being young and stupid". Last summer was my first and this one was to be my last. One more summer of being young and stupid also meant remaining on my birth control pills. I chose September 6th because it's after the last long weekend of the summer and because it's also the first week I'll be "off the pill". I want to be cannibus free while trying to concieve, no question about it. Another reason I found it necessary to chose a date like this is the boyfriend. He's been a heavy smoker for probably a good 8 or 9 years. He likes that I smoke with him. I need him to be prepared for what's to come. I want him to understand why I'm stopping and help me plan for the difficult time I'm sure to have.
Oh and I'm going back to school part time that same week.
I'm a very logical thinker. In 2000 I decided to lose weight. I joined Weight Watchers and lost it all in a year. I've maintained the loss for almost 4 years now. It took me one shot, didn't yo-yo. The program made sense! I'm trying to plan for my future now and I need to have everything sorted out logically (boy do I say that alot!) to succeed. Like weight loss, I'll be prepared for struggle and possible occasional failure, but I'll achieve my goal. No doubt about that.
"The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary."
I appreciate the advice to "not set a quit date" and the logic behind it really makes sense. I also do recognise that I'm managing life quite well being a "pot head" (as I often refer to myself as). My motivation really is a family, I'm ready for one. I understand that as a parent I'm going to have to sacrafice my life for my child (well for a couple of years at least!). I'm ready and preparing for that to happen.
Setting a quit date for me is a little necessary. Let me explain. I had long ago planned to have "one more summer of being young and stupid". Last summer was my first and this one was to be my last. One more summer of being young and stupid also meant remaining on my birth control pills. I chose September 6th because it's after the last long weekend of the summer and because it's also the first week I'll be "off the pill". I want to be cannibus free while trying to concieve, no question about it. Another reason I found it necessary to chose a date like this is the boyfriend. He's been a heavy smoker for probably a good 8 or 9 years. He likes that I smoke with him. I need him to be prepared for what's to come. I want him to understand why I'm stopping and help me plan for the difficult time I'm sure to have.
Oh and I'm going back to school part time that same week.
I'm a very logical thinker. In 2000 I decided to lose weight. I joined Weight Watchers and lost it all in a year. I've maintained the loss for almost 4 years now. It took me one shot, didn't yo-yo. The program made sense! I'm trying to plan for my future now and I need to have everything sorted out logically (boy do I say that alot!) to succeed. Like weight loss, I'll be prepared for struggle and possible occasional failure, but I'll achieve my goal. No doubt about that.
"The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary."
just some personal response to this issue....i reserved the right to use "one more time"
ONCE IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND IS NEVER ENOUGH
that one more time led to a 2 day relapse...and everytime i use i risk my death...i can't afford to do the ONE MORE TIME thing.
hugs,
Janet
ps...it is your option to do it your way...i just wanted to share on mine
ONCE IS TOO MANY AND A THOUSAND IS NEVER ENOUGH
that one more time led to a 2 day relapse...and everytime i use i risk my death...i can't afford to do the ONE MORE TIME thing.
hugs,
Janet
ps...it is your option to do it your way...i just wanted to share on mine
I appreciate what you're saying Janet! And I completely agree.
I may be shooting myself in the foot by not quitting today, when I feel motivated to do it, "one more summer" is too much I agree. I've been through a lot in life, I'm 27 and as I mentioned, this is only my second summer of "partying" (drinking occasionally and smoking every day). I've just worked and worked and worked too damn hard and I wanted a few years to be young and stupid (mind you I'm still working, full time, got rid of the part time job only).
I'm going to try this approach and recongnise that it might not work, I may have more of a "problem" than I realise. If when the time comes I just can't do it I'll look at other options. I just want to relax and enjoy the rest of my summer before I "grow up" (that's how I see it). I'm going to be working pretty hard raising my kids soon enough, I hope!
Thanks for being there Janet, it helps a lot.
I may be shooting myself in the foot by not quitting today, when I feel motivated to do it, "one more summer" is too much I agree. I've been through a lot in life, I'm 27 and as I mentioned, this is only my second summer of "partying" (drinking occasionally and smoking every day). I've just worked and worked and worked too damn hard and I wanted a few years to be young and stupid (mind you I'm still working, full time, got rid of the part time job only).
I'm going to try this approach and recongnise that it might not work, I may have more of a "problem" than I realise. If when the time comes I just can't do it I'll look at other options. I just want to relax and enjoy the rest of my summer before I "grow up" (that's how I see it). I'm going to be working pretty hard raising my kids soon enough, I hope!
Thanks for being there Janet, it helps a lot.
honey, don't worry, i am a 5 y/o in a 46 y/o body...i have little to no coping skills, but i'm working on it...oh, and i have 34 years of drugs and addiction under my belt
my best coping skill: giving my addiction and powerlessness over it to a Higher Power
my best coping skill: giving my addiction and powerlessness over it to a Higher Power
"my best coping skill: giving my addiction and powerlessness over it to a Higher Power"
You mentioned HP to me when I said I wanted to stop smoking to have a baby. I'm very interested in hearing more about this philosophy. What mindset were you in when you made the decision to quit? What is your HP? How can I used having a baby as my HP?
You mentioned HP to me when I said I wanted to stop smoking to have a baby. I'm very interested in hearing more about this philosophy. What mindset were you in when you made the decision to quit? What is your HP? How can I used having a baby as my HP?
I think that you need to be clean and completely in the right state of mind before you consider bringing a child into the world.... Your boyfriend needs to do this as well..... I lived with a "pot head" and I smoked for a long time myself well when you are pregnant you cant do that at all........Well problem 1 the husband never quit and beleive you cant make a great parent being a "pothead" You dont really relieze how much it affects your life until you quit believe me I have been there...... If your boyfriend doesnt stop with you that in itself is going to cause a huge strain on you your relationship and your relationship and his with the baby............I know you might not see this now but i know from experience...... Hope that helped a little
Loves
Jacque
Loves
Jacque
Thanks for your insight Jacque. Are you French? (with a name like that I have to ask) I was raised in Montreal and always have to ask :)
I understand what you're saying about being clean to bring a kid into this world. That's why I'm making a plan. I smoke in the evenings and on weekends only, I don't go to work high and I manage quite well getting through the day without smoking. I feel like I have control over my life and I do feel good about my decisions, both to stop smoking at all and to have a baby. I grew up with a mom who smoked pot (and she told me recently that my father grew plants!) and hash off and on throughout my childhood. On a recent visit we even smoked together.
For me stopping the daily smoking is for my baby's future. It's my first sacrafice as a parent. I want to be the kind of parent that would do anything for my kids. I'm not anti-pot, I don't feel any resentment towards the drug, I will probably smoke occasionally when they're older and out for the night or something. If you have control and it's an occasional thing (like drinking for me) I don't see the problem with weed.
I had a similar battle with food. I'm a food addict, LOVE LOVE LOVE to eat. When that became and issue I had to find a way to live with my issues with food because lets face it, I couldn't simply do without. I'd like to think I can take the same approach with weed, gain back the control and still enjoy in moderation.
That's the plan right now. I've said before, I could totally struggle to gain control and it might be something I need bigger help with. Right now I'm trying to work this out for me the best way I know using techniques that have worked for me in the past. This board is helping me prepare for the physical side effects, build a support network and educate myself on people with addictions.
I guess everyone's approach is different and I definately appreciate the input!
I understand what you're saying about being clean to bring a kid into this world. That's why I'm making a plan. I smoke in the evenings and on weekends only, I don't go to work high and I manage quite well getting through the day without smoking. I feel like I have control over my life and I do feel good about my decisions, both to stop smoking at all and to have a baby. I grew up with a mom who smoked pot (and she told me recently that my father grew plants!) and hash off and on throughout my childhood. On a recent visit we even smoked together.
For me stopping the daily smoking is for my baby's future. It's my first sacrafice as a parent. I want to be the kind of parent that would do anything for my kids. I'm not anti-pot, I don't feel any resentment towards the drug, I will probably smoke occasionally when they're older and out for the night or something. If you have control and it's an occasional thing (like drinking for me) I don't see the problem with weed.
I had a similar battle with food. I'm a food addict, LOVE LOVE LOVE to eat. When that became and issue I had to find a way to live with my issues with food because lets face it, I couldn't simply do without. I'd like to think I can take the same approach with weed, gain back the control and still enjoy in moderation.
That's the plan right now. I've said before, I could totally struggle to gain control and it might be something I need bigger help with. Right now I'm trying to work this out for me the best way I know using techniques that have worked for me in the past. This board is helping me prepare for the physical side effects, build a support network and educate myself on people with addictions.
I guess everyone's approach is different and I definately appreciate the input!
Yeah, the bottom line is, everyone is different, and sometimes you have to try several (or 100) different approaches to quitting before you quit for good.
Anyway, I wish you luck (and I wish myself luck)! Right now, I'm still in an outpatient program. I don't know if I'd be able to stay sober without it.
Anyway, I wish you luck (and I wish myself luck)! Right now, I'm still in an outpatient program. I don't know if I'd be able to stay sober without it.
Mermaid,
Are you in an outpatient program for marajuana addiction? Can you tell me more about it?
Thanks!
Are you in an outpatient program for marajuana addiction? Can you tell me more about it?
Thanks!
I'm in a dual diagnosis program, because I'm bipolar and addicted to pot. I checked myself into the psych ward around July 4th because my emotions were all over the place, I was depressed, suicidal, etc. I spent two weeks there while they straightened my meds out. I was put on lithium for bipolar, which is really great. Once I was discharged, I was put in a "partial" program....to transition back into the "real world"....we have a lot of therapy and group therapy and relapse prevention groups, etc.
However, I relapsed the night before last. Sigh.
My husband still smokes and I feel totally disconnected from him....sadly, I'm coming to realize that the pot has been our strongest connection to one another and that is really depressing...and pathetic.
However, I relapsed the night before last. Sigh.
My husband still smokes and I feel totally disconnected from him....sadly, I'm coming to realize that the pot has been our strongest connection to one another and that is really depressing...and pathetic.
Hello,
I'm new here, I'm 27 and I have been smoking pot for almost 10 years and I want to quit very badly. I have had depression all of my life and I think I started smoking to make the depression go away, but it does not make it go away. My boyfriend has lived with me for 8 years and he also smokes pot. He has no intention of quitting. My dealer has been giving me bad stuff lately, and it made me very sick. I am feeling better now, but I considered my dealer to be my friend, and I have known him for 5 years, but tonight I found out that he is not truley my friend. This hurts because myself and my boyfriend do not have any other friends. I guess I feel lost because I know my boyfriend will not quit with me, and I fear being alone. I want to quit more than anything for myself.
I'm new here, I'm 27 and I have been smoking pot for almost 10 years and I want to quit very badly. I have had depression all of my life and I think I started smoking to make the depression go away, but it does not make it go away. My boyfriend has lived with me for 8 years and he also smokes pot. He has no intention of quitting. My dealer has been giving me bad stuff lately, and it made me very sick. I am feeling better now, but I considered my dealer to be my friend, and I have known him for 5 years, but tonight I found out that he is not truley my friend. This hurts because myself and my boyfriend do not have any other friends. I guess I feel lost because I know my boyfriend will not quit with me, and I fear being alone. I want to quit more than anything for myself.
VIRGO welcome to the board you are in a good place, drugs ruin good friendships if that is what they ever were to begin with. pot definately makes depression worse, and there are much worse things than being alone, good luck, keep posting and go back and read some old posts on here from the past
