WELCOME:
For anyone that has been reluctant to post and is a newcomer please understand the board is going through a brain fart. This to shall pass.
There are many good SINCERE people ready to help you with any questions or concerns you may have.
Sincerely,
Jeff
True, true
agreed
I would love to help.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl
Im on a taper, but learning and struggling to freedomn.
i plan on wining this one.
Join me.
Hugs,
Ali
i plan on wining this one.
Join me.
Hugs,
Ali
I am a newcommer again- and I would just like to say - because I am experiencing it too_ that I have severe emotional swings, I am so grief filled at how hurt I left my daughter, I didnt even care, I used to think sometimes she would be better off without me, because I would only break her heart again. I also fear never being able to be her real mom, because my mom has had her on and off her whole life, I mean, will she fight me when in a year from now, I am more stable, and want to be a mom to her? Will my daughter even want me to be her mom?
Thanks Jeff for starting this thread, because when we are new in recovery, we need to learn how to share.....And thank you for letting me share, Julie
Thanks Jeff for starting this thread, because when we are new in recovery, we need to learn how to share.....And thank you for letting me share, Julie
I can understand some of the pain and guilt you must be feeling .. and the reason I can understand it is I lived it... the only difference is in the degree.... but the truth is no one can answer those questions... only time can tell and only you can effect that by doing what you need to do to help heal any wounds... but I can tell you this
when we hurt our loved ones by using .. and btw.. we hurt ourselves tooo sometimes we tend to lose focus on that, at least I did... but when we hurt those around us and we are sooo desparate to gain back what we lost we use words.. but our actions and changes in attitudes are the most powerful things that we can do... taking responsiblity for our actions and for our disease where it is our responsiblity .. but there is a difference in taking responsibity and taking blame...
Recovery is a process and isolating and trying to analyize everything early on doesnt help... just taking one step at a time.. getting help and support, know that you dont have to do any of this alone.. keep the lines of communication open and cutting your sources and being honest with yourself and your family are all great places to start and some are essential...
just let time and a Higher Power do the work .. take the leap of faith ...
Let me know how I can help... Do you do meetings?.. or talk to anyone f2f... if you dont please consider it... it will help...
God Bless and good luck ... I believe it will all work out..
Teresa
when we hurt our loved ones by using .. and btw.. we hurt ourselves tooo sometimes we tend to lose focus on that, at least I did... but when we hurt those around us and we are sooo desparate to gain back what we lost we use words.. but our actions and changes in attitudes are the most powerful things that we can do... taking responsiblity for our actions and for our disease where it is our responsiblity .. but there is a difference in taking responsibity and taking blame...
Recovery is a process and isolating and trying to analyize everything early on doesnt help... just taking one step at a time.. getting help and support, know that you dont have to do any of this alone.. keep the lines of communication open and cutting your sources and being honest with yourself and your family are all great places to start and some are essential...
just let time and a Higher Power do the work .. take the leap of faith ...
Let me know how I can help... Do you do meetings?.. or talk to anyone f2f... if you dont please consider it... it will help...
God Bless and good luck ... I believe it will all work out..
Teresa