Put it this way. I live with my mom. I'd jump through a hoop of fire for my mom. Who wouldn't? Well, not my daughter, but that ain't the thing.
Since my dad died my mom's had health problems. I have to add she's a tough lady, and never complains. I'm always with her and take care of all that stuff.
Soooooo, Saturday my friend had excellent seats to a baseball game up in DC. Quite a few people were going, but my mom was sick. Like sick heart attack, palpatations sick.
My one brother was going to visit our grandmom. He does that every Saturday. My mom was supposed to go along so I had to call him and tell him she was sick. He said "Well alright then". Called the other brother who was at work and told him he was off the hook bringing her back home. "Alright then" he says.
I love my brothers something fierce, BUT neither of them called back. One is travelling today for a week or so and the other one well he's got three teen, young adult teens. I'mmma cut him a break.
Am I wrong to think WTF? I mention the Washington trip. NOW I heard a bang and my mom's passed out on the floor down here just a few hours ago. Out cold. I got her up. She's never passed out in her life. She says she don't need to go to the hospital. I mean what the hell do I look like? It's on me.
Just wondering if I'm a biotch or not. It's a wonder I had a migraine. Thanks for letting me vent.
Bryn...firstly as ya said you would do anything for yer mum ...so of course yer not being selfish or otherwise...yer bros are good men but dont live with yer mum so they dont see the day to day stuff you do.Your doin all you possibly can so dont make it worse by giving yerself a hard time.....as for yer mums state of health and what to do ..only a proffesional can answer that.
Take care and am thinking of you ....as usual lol.........Davey
Take care and am thinking of you ....as usual lol.........Davey
Thanks Davey........you're right........and yep I got to chill.
What up B,
Reading your post took me back to the time of caring for my mom thinking that I was the only child she had. I would have done it 10xs over and again but their were times I would sit and think this is all on me. It was not until it all became a routine that I realised all that my bros and sister's had on their plate which lead me to not taking it personal. More importantly, I began to apprecite the blessing of taking care of her.....just as she did for me through my up's, down's, high's, low's drug use and all. As thick as it got I got the greatest joy being their for my mom because I felt that if I could give her 1/8th of what she gave me my job would be done. Your doing a great job through it all and will be one blessed child as a result of it! ATB!
Reading your post took me back to the time of caring for my mom thinking that I was the only child she had. I would have done it 10xs over and again but their were times I would sit and think this is all on me. It was not until it all became a routine that I realised all that my bros and sister's had on their plate which lead me to not taking it personal. More importantly, I began to apprecite the blessing of taking care of her.....just as she did for me through my up's, down's, high's, low's drug use and all. As thick as it got I got the greatest joy being their for my mom because I felt that if I could give her 1/8th of what she gave me my job would be done. Your doing a great job through it all and will be one blessed child as a result of it! ATB!
..Bryn..
..I dunno really wot to say but wanna remind ya that ya a caring women with a big heart..not just to ya family but ya also caring and supportive to us..its a natural reaction wot ya saying..ya feel its all on you and it draining..but ya strength will pull ya thru..sorry to read about ya mom..hope she gets better a.s.a.p..don't forget to take care of you aswell mate ;)..Robbie..
..I dunno really wot to say but wanna remind ya that ya a caring women with a big heart..not just to ya family but ya also caring and supportive to us..its a natural reaction wot ya saying..ya feel its all on you and it draining..but ya strength will pull ya thru..sorry to read about ya mom..hope she gets better a.s.a.p..don't forget to take care of you aswell mate ;)..Robbie..
Bryn, hope your Mom get well soon, hope you're OK also, take it easy, Kev
I always think it's harder for us daughters too. You got your plate full still hun. Hope your mum's ok. Thinking of you,
Maddy x x x
Maddy x x x
Hi Bryn ~
Well, everyone is right, especially the part about you being on the front lines and your sibs missing that piece - the day-to-dayness of the situation that you live with. There are five of us, but only two of the daughters are nearby to my mom so it all falls to us - my brother barely considers my mom's needs, partly because she is so incredibly vital and independent. My other two sisters talk to mom every couple of days and one of them does what she can from a distance, but those daily-life things are on the two of us who are here, and they don't really get what that means. Your mom is blessed to have you.
Peace~MomNMore
Well, everyone is right, especially the part about you being on the front lines and your sibs missing that piece - the day-to-dayness of the situation that you live with. There are five of us, but only two of the daughters are nearby to my mom so it all falls to us - my brother barely considers my mom's needs, partly because she is so incredibly vital and independent. My other two sisters talk to mom every couple of days and one of them does what she can from a distance, but those daily-life things are on the two of us who are here, and they don't really get what that means. Your mom is blessed to have you.
Peace~MomNMore
I know you're probably having a hard time right now. I also took care of my mom. At the time, I would get would get so upset at my brother and sister for not coming around. They would just throw some cash at us ,it seemed to make themselves feel better. But... you know what? We neede that cash and it was just thier way of helping. At the time, I was just getting into the methadone clinic, (because my mom asked me to try it) and I had a lot on me...but I wish I could do it again. I miss her so much! My messages never come out the way I mean for them to!!! I mean I hope you have your Mom around for along time! And you go ahead and vent,girl! We're here for you!!!
Thanks dear hearts.
You guys are all right..........it's an honor to be the person takes care of my mom.........I think I got like that because I wanted to go to DC to see the game.
I actually never go anywhere so I think that's what it was.
Thanks for the well wishes, and I adore both my brothers........they are good men.......I think too Saturday it was because my brother made the trek to see my grandmom which he does every single Saturday......maybe was hoping he checked in on my mom.
Had to get it off my chest though.......I appreciate all your advice......thank you.
You guys are all right..........it's an honor to be the person takes care of my mom.........I think I got like that because I wanted to go to DC to see the game.
I actually never go anywhere so I think that's what it was.
Thanks for the well wishes, and I adore both my brothers........they are good men.......I think too Saturday it was because my brother made the trek to see my grandmom which he does every single Saturday......maybe was hoping he checked in on my mom.
Had to get it off my chest though.......I appreciate all your advice......thank you.
wow--you are loved bryn-and you deserve it!!sounds like your really going through some rough stuff--and you arent even running away like us addicts are so good at--your sticking it out--good for you--everyone already said what i would say--haha listen to me--thanks for always being on the site--i look forward to reading your posts--keepin it real all the time--ill ,pray for mum
