Update

Heroin
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hello to all hope you had a lovely christmas , my pc had probs so ive been ofline for the past week well first is first on crimbo eve i was preparing my kids gifts when i noticed 2 mobile phones were missing what i had bought for my girls i was absolutley distraught what was i ment to do it was christmas eve ??? yep the answer is nothing i then noticed that 4 tins of sweets had gone too it ruined my christmas , the next day we were going to his mums for dinner as we walked in through the back door neil ran through the front door he didnt even say hello to his children if that is not a guilty concience than what is ???.
on christmas night i phoned his mums phone on the off chance he would be there an he was i told him i was disgusted in him etc i then asked him to come up he agreed my plan was to phone the cops an tell them were he was , i had to get a friend to ring them an on boxing day morning he was arrested "yippy" anyway a couple hours later he walks throu my door i could not believe my eyes the judge had gave him bail so i was determined to get him back in jail he has robbed too many houses the past week kids gifts were taken from under their trees he can not get away with that right??. He came up last night an said he wanted to talk about what he has been up too as his time is running out and he dont want to loose me or the kids he said im not going to like what i hear thou so i agreed to listen to the truth only he started telling me the next i knew i woke up this morning i was devestated i had fallen asleep , neil said he had to leave as the police may come and he would be back tonight to tell me he then left , about ten mins later the police come to my property i told them neil had left but neil had not left he was in the shed and the police found him in their about to inject anyway they arrested him with burglary then took him to be interviewd about 2 hours later they rang me up they had a search warrant to search my property for stolen goods they found nothing here an said they were going back to continue their interview with neil . Thats all i know up to now im just sad for my children their christmas has been ruined because off their selfish dad .
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I have to second that Emz, because of Kialas selfish Dad this Christmas wasnt the same but I wasnt going to let him or anyone else ruin her day.

I think you need to wash your hands of this plonka right away because not only is he taking the piss out of you he is also doing it to his kids and I think he is disguisting!! Waste of space!

Lets hope he is kept in, but personally I dont think this bloke is ever gonna change!!!
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I think Bunny pretty much sums it up!
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Oh man--I am so glad that my x is just that my x and doesnt try to be in my sons life--sure that sucks too..... but id rahter that than have him be part of this type of traumatic stuff --please go with your gut--he wont change unless he loses everything and has no "outs" dont feel sorry for him--im sure he plays up the "tormented heroin addict soul" "my childhood was bad or my mum drank and was a w****, my dad did;t want me, i was adopted" whatever it is--we all have issues--why make more issues for your own child--what an a**--yakin kids presents--have a little self-respect--man im mad--sorry emz--im not being very helpfull at all i really feel for you and ive been there--do what your mind tells you to untill your heart catches up--yeah it will hurt but not nearly as much as you are hurting now--your kids need stability--this is not a good way to raise them--how can you concentrate when your constantly worried about him and the police and his using--the only way to keep them from going down the same path is to set a good example and stay involved--your in my prayers--ill be begging god to keep is sorry butt locked up long enough for you to move on......you are not alone and this is not your fault but it can easily become your fault if you let the trend continue
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he phoned me about half hour ago begging me to come down to the station i said no he said the same s*** im sorry blah blah i didnt mean to hurt you or my kids blah blah i cant get through this without you etc , the prob is i always feel so guilty when he crys to me even thou he has got to hit the bottom so he sees life in a different way !!!
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he was in court today and he got remanded i aint heard off him since saturday night ,once again im cellabraiting the new year on my own im so low tonight i cant waite for the holidays to be over its been my worst yet anyway , HAPPY NEW YEAR xxx
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wow, that is possibly the worst story I have ever heard I am so sorry this guy is a peice of s*** man. I don't understand how someone could steal from thier own children, really... gosh you are one strong one there emz, good for you for turning him in. Hang in there things will look up for you because you deserve it.
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Aw, Emz, so very sorry for what he's done to you, especially the kids. How sad that this is his story, but you are right in not making it yours. There's a better way for you and your children and I will pray that 2008 is your best year ever.

Peace and good fortune to you~MomNMore
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EMZ, thinking of you and the kids.

I'm so sorry, honey.
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emz--dont take on his guilt trips--he knows what to say, how to say it and when to say ti to get what he wants--notice you havent heard from him sice they let him fly--i know how you feel i really do--i used to get so mad that they always get let go--if im speeding i dont get the easy street--i got to PAY!! i know you have so many mixed feeling--i feel for you,please dont take my words bad--i just feel so strongly about what you are going through because its so similar to what ive been through and still go through sometimes--why do we let these punks have our hearts when they treat them so badly--sure he doesnt WANT to do these things--who would--but he does them, and because of that he cannot be with you and have all the advantages of someone who is a part of taking care of the family--he hasn't earned that. YOU are a caretaker, thats a good thing in many ways,but it can also be bad--oh man-- i hope im not being mean--well honesty is the best--