Merry Christmas.
My daughter was here the other day.........happy as a clam........asked for her fever blister prescription medicine if I could find it........I did......tells me to run it around to her...............hell no..........you want it come an get it.
She stayed and chatted.........smoking weed cause she's got mood swings like ya wouldn't believe..........admittedlyshe was cocky, but what I did get......already after one semester at school......the two dorm mates want her out.........one told her she was the most miserable thing she ever met.......so her father had to go get all her stuff.........and move it........blah blah......I thought well Praise God I was not in on that........BUT daddy boy was flipping out like a nut job.......her words not mine.........pffffft, how's he like it? Plus he don't even live with her.
Anyway my mom told her to take her gifts......."Oh no, GRANDMOM I'll come back for them"........my mom's name is MOM-MOM........she's pulling easily a 4.0. but had a fight with a Professor who will now flunk her and the lady told her "Mark my word you ain't passing this class".........mandatory race class.
Hey, the kid had some valid points.......but a normal human being would shut up.
So, she's depressed and calls herself "FUC* UP"........that's her new name she says to me........whatever...........she is 200 pounds..........had on filthy clothes and asked me if her jacket was ghetto..........hey, I ain't Lil Kim what do I know.....I was nice mommy..............whole little chat I'd just utter "BUMMER".
So, today she calls my mom...........she can't come over because she is too busy, but will be over to get her gifts at 5:00...........I heard my mom ask "Did you get your mom at least a card?"............do I freaking care............I really don't...........I go to bed in the afternoon cause I ain't dealing with it...........had a mirgraine..........actually slept.
Come downstairs and my mom............MY MOM............my mom who don't cry is hysterical and weeping...........like in a trance..........I mean bawling.
I ask what's wrong and she can't speak........I finally get the kid was here TWENTY MINUTES.............."And there's no gift for you"...........I'm like I don't care............tomorrow on Christmas morning is the anniversary of my dad's death...........ya think the kid could cut her some slack???????????????
My mom went to get her gifts from under the tree..........tons under there for neighbors and friends and this straight up b*tch says to my mom......."Don't you even put tags on your gifts?"
Guess what I'd have said.........."Geez you should know cause for 17 years it was all your toys and clothes and electronics"........but see bryn ain't doing that anymore and my first reaction seeing my mom weep was to go knock the living crap out of that wench".................I'm bigger than that............here she got all cocky with my mom and said "I gotta go my grandparents are waiting"........AHAHAHAHAHA.............my mom said she hoped she'd be O.K. in the morning..........cause that's when we watched my dad die.........this lousy, mean person..............she said "Oh get over it he's dead".
Thanks all for being there all this time I worried and all...........I don't like that kid............I could care less if I ever see her again.............I didn't bother calling her about it...............actually done me a favor..............my mom just can't get over how nasty she is and cynical and cocky.............she's going "That's not her"...............oh well not my problem.............no it ain't her........she is not someone I'd even meet and want anything to do with........just like every other friend she ever had.............and boyfriend............another one just ditched her........Merry Christmas all..............love you guys and I disown that thing.
My mom just agreed.............disowned she is............we don't know that person...........let her wear down old daddy pooh...........oh yeah and I asked will you be at your grandparents tomorrow morning or up at your dad's?
READY................"MY DAD SAID IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT HIS LIFE ASK HIM".........did I ask about HIM and his LIFE? Cocky!
I told her I can give a rat's a*s about him..........and I haven't asked about his life..............plus he ain't had the b*lls to call me about her period.........he left her and went and got married and moved to suburbia and ditched her on his 80 year old parents..............do I care.........ain't asked..........bottom line now let him deal with it all together..............hell with people like that.
Got my mom to stop crying here.........and we're chill.........some people just don't want help.............stay miserable...........TFB for ya.
merry christmas bryn
I'm sorry s*** is so lousy for you and your daughter, but try to hang on, at least you still have a valuable relationship with your mother, maybe your daughter will grow out of this all
I'm sorry s*** is so lousy for you and your daughter, but try to hang on, at least you still have a valuable relationship with your mother, maybe your daughter will grow out of this all
Trooper, thanks for taking the time to read that...........and you are right.
Know I appreciate your thoughtfullness.
Know I appreciate your thoughtfullness.
Bryn, well, what can anyone say, except, your little girl is very, very unhappy, and is lashing out at you and anyone who comes her way.
the problem is not you, or your Mom, but is all of her own making.
It is so sad, and I know how hurt you are at the way she treats the people who really love her. I guess all you can do is wait it out until she either asks for help or lets you know what is really bugging her. In a way, she has to get to her own "bottom" before she can be helped.
I guess you just have to there when she wants you, and in the meantime remember that you love her, and want the best for her. she will come around, you'll see. You know that all of us here are praying that things will work out before too long.
Stay well, dear Bryn, and keep us up to date.
love rita
the problem is not you, or your Mom, but is all of her own making.
It is so sad, and I know how hurt you are at the way she treats the people who really love her. I guess all you can do is wait it out until she either asks for help or lets you know what is really bugging her. In a way, she has to get to her own "bottom" before she can be helped.
I guess you just have to there when she wants you, and in the meantime remember that you love her, and want the best for her. she will come around, you'll see. You know that all of us here are praying that things will work out before too long.
Stay well, dear Bryn, and keep us up to date.
love rita
WOW--shes really pushin it,, I think shes feeling you pulling away due to her actions and so because her antics are no-longer getting your attention and reactions shes upping the ante--and who better to target than your mother (she knows how to push your buttons) dont let her have that control--it would be awful to be that twited--i should know ive been her---she will grow out of it--patience bryn--your an amazing person, and thank you for sharing this with us it really helps in so many ways to hear what you are going through
bryn, honestly, you have to be a cool mom, you've comforted me and made me feel very welcome and helped me out in areas where my mom was lacking even though she was zonked out on xany's in the next room for around 2 years now. I havdn't posted on this board in almost a year and i still remember all of the hard nights and waking up to posts from you, robbie and bumps nomore that gave me courage and strenghth to stay sober while I did. You are a strong woman bryn, with a lot to offer. I've never even heard your voice and I know in my heart that this is true about you.Give your daughter time, she seems like she is going through a very selfish period over the past few years, she will probably realize what she has taken for granted and come around. If not, than really there is nothing more you can do,and you've got to give it up to her and wash your hands of her actions. You do the best you can and you know that.But seriously, be glad for the relationship you have with your mom, and feel good that she sees where you are coming from about your daughters actions and that you arent alone or to blame
hugs sista,
troop
hugs sista,
troop
Thanks ladies.......I ain't sweating it.......I can't.
Please know I so appreciate your help and concern.......I'm doing me now.
Last time I spend Christmas alone........all that worrying wiped me out......a human being can't live like that.........but seeing my mom cry........that freaked me out..........she don't cry......and she was crying for me......ain't that a sin?
You guys are the best and Trooper you just keep staying tough, Sistah Soulja!
Please know I so appreciate your help and concern.......I'm doing me now.
Last time I spend Christmas alone........all that worrying wiped me out......a human being can't live like that.........but seeing my mom cry........that freaked me out..........she don't cry......and she was crying for me......ain't that a sin?
You guys are the best and Trooper you just keep staying tough, Sistah Soulja!
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No. That is a mothers love for her daughter. I really hope one day you and yours can get back together. It will take her growing up and accepting responsibility for her own life. You are doing much better at not letting her flip the switches.
Take care Bryn.
