Lolledee--
Once again you posted one of the best answers! I ditto your post just like Lynn!!
You said it all!!
((HUGS)))--Lori
Thank you all for your words!
I will take your advice and I'm thinking of blocking him because it doesn't make me feel well to have this door open.
When his mom texted me concerned about her son, I asked him if he was doing well and he said yes, and I asked him if he was getting any help and he never replied to that.
His mom yesterday said she thanked me for my support and she said to her son that I helped her. She also said her son looks great and he is doing very well now, with a great attitude.
I guess that's why he never replied to me, he is doing well and he doesn't see any benefit in talking to me. I want to cut all the bridges so he won't use me when he needs.
I will take your advice and I'm thinking of blocking him because it doesn't make me feel well to have this door open.
When his mom texted me concerned about her son, I asked him if he was doing well and he said yes, and I asked him if he was getting any help and he never replied to that.
His mom yesterday said she thanked me for my support and she said to her son that I helped her. She also said her son looks great and he is doing very well now, with a great attitude.
I guess that's why he never replied to me, he is doing well and he doesn't see any benefit in talking to me. I want to cut all the bridges so he won't use me when he needs.
So sorry that they are trying to drag you in their drama & trauma. So very very glad that you put a rod in your back (to keep it from bending), put blinders on your eyes and are forging ahead on your "No Drama" road. You go, girl!!!! Got out my pompoms for you!!!
YES . . .I agree . . .cut off . . .torch . . .blow up . . .all bridges, paths, side roads or back roads to your head & heart!!!!! Think about blocking their number (both Mama & ex's) . . . or changing your phone number all together . . .unfriend them on FB . . . delete them from your email . . . in short, think about cutting off any possibility of receiving an invitation to this circus!!!! Hell . . .cut off any possibility of getting ANY info or updates either. Exit stage left!!! YES . . .Shut the door . . .throw out the knob . . .Crazy Glue that puppy shut. . .dead bolt it . . .triple lock it . . .and throw all the keys in the closest ocean (or if one is not available, the toilet will do)!
In case I was too subtle . . .LOL
Personally, both Momma & son would have to look for me . . .and neither wouldn't be able to find me . . . to share a recipe . . . no less give me the 411 (whether it be good, bad or indifferent) . . . or even "use" me when it is convenient or they wanted or needed. My friends would know not to tell me about him . . .and they would also know not to share any info about me with him or his people. As the kids say . . .I'd be ghost!!!
Sending bear hugs & hi 5's,
Lynn
xoxo
YES . . .I agree . . .cut off . . .torch . . .blow up . . .all bridges, paths, side roads or back roads to your head & heart!!!!! Think about blocking their number (both Mama & ex's) . . . or changing your phone number all together . . .unfriend them on FB . . . delete them from your email . . . in short, think about cutting off any possibility of receiving an invitation to this circus!!!! Hell . . .cut off any possibility of getting ANY info or updates either. Exit stage left!!! YES . . .Shut the door . . .throw out the knob . . .Crazy Glue that puppy shut. . .dead bolt it . . .triple lock it . . .and throw all the keys in the closest ocean (or if one is not available, the toilet will do)!
In case I was too subtle . . .LOL
Personally, both Momma & son would have to look for me . . .and neither wouldn't be able to find me . . . to share a recipe . . . no less give me the 411 (whether it be good, bad or indifferent) . . . or even "use" me when it is convenient or they wanted or needed. My friends would know not to tell me about him . . .and they would also know not to share any info about me with him or his people. As the kids say . . .I'd be ghost!!!
Sending bear hugs & hi 5's,
Lynn
xoxo
lolll love the description hurtingmom! I will miss the good things about him but I have been abused by my ex for such a long time.
He feels amazing after 10 days being sober. Is that possible that someone can recover this fast?
His drug was oxycontin
He feels amazing after 10 days being sober. Is that possible that someone can recover this fast?
His drug was oxycontin
never took pills but its opioid addiction right? Detox can be done in 10 days but to feel great well he could be taking something to help him along.. but as i said never took no pills so cant say for sure.
Did you block him? Did you cut him out of your life or you are in 2 minds about it? If i go by everything you said he really is not worth all the trouble but i am not advising on relationship issue here i am more interested in your well being .. hope you are doing ok?
Did you block him? Did you cut him out of your life or you are in 2 minds about it? If i go by everything you said he really is not worth all the trouble but i am not advising on relationship issue here i am more interested in your well being .. hope you are doing ok?
It is possible to feel great after a week or two. because the pills have a way of making you feel emotionally void, miserable - seeing your time, energy and money, all efforts are on getting more pills... etc. So people do feel better in a short amount of time.
the hard part is STAYING OFF.... my son thought he could go back to pills just enough to get the benefits of the without the bad parts. It does not work that way....
so.... dont be surprised if he is back at the pills in a few months..... or maybe he will succeed.... Good Luck to him. Nice posting with you! Take care, and delete his number! LOL
the hard part is STAYING OFF.... my son thought he could go back to pills just enough to get the benefits of the without the bad parts. It does not work that way....
so.... dont be surprised if he is back at the pills in a few months..... or maybe he will succeed.... Good Luck to him. Nice posting with you! Take care, and delete his number! LOL
Thank you guys!
Yesterday I said "I wish you a lot of luck and success for your future!" and I blocked him. I was just wondering if it was possible to recover that fast because his mom said to me this last weekend that her son was very well. Good for him then. :p
Yesterday I said "I wish you a lot of luck and success for your future!" and I blocked him. I was just wondering if it was possible to recover that fast because his mom said to me this last weekend that her son was very well. Good for him then. :p
Good for you :)
Thanks :)
I kept trying to be in friendly terms with him even after he broke up with me and being mean because I thought he could act like he used to in the beginning of our relationship.
I kept trying to be in friendly terms with him even after he broke up with me and being mean because I thought he could act like he used to in the beginning of our relationship.
That "feeling great" he is experiencing is the "pink cloud" that some get when they first get clean. It is usually pretty fleeting as the day will come (and it always comes) when using begins to hijack the brain again. Getting clean is the easy part..STAYING clean is the difficult part. If just getting off the drugs was the problem, we could solve everyone's addiction with a trip to detox. Unfortunately, it just isn't that simple.
I am thrilled to hear you blocked him. This was the first time you mentioned he was abusive. If I knew that I probably would have been a little tougher in my first post! I know you know that abuse is NEVER ok! No one has the right to put there hands on you, or abuse you emotionally or verbally! If anyone even remotely steps over the line, KICK THEM TO THE CURB IMMEDIATELY!!!! You deserve better! Don't ever settle for someone who doesn't think he hit the jackpot by having you in his life! Remember, we teach people how to treat us!!! If he somehow gets in touch with you tell him to go kick rocks!
I am thrilled to hear you blocked him. This was the first time you mentioned he was abusive. If I knew that I probably would have been a little tougher in my first post! I know you know that abuse is NEVER ok! No one has the right to put there hands on you, or abuse you emotionally or verbally! If anyone even remotely steps over the line, KICK THEM TO THE CURB IMMEDIATELY!!!! You deserve better! Don't ever settle for someone who doesn't think he hit the jackpot by having you in his life! Remember, we teach people how to treat us!!! If he somehow gets in touch with you tell him to go kick rocks!
He was emotionally abusive, I didn't leave him because the relationship started as a loving relationship. I fell in love with the caring man I met but he then showed some controlling and violent tendencies. Possibly related to his addiction? I don't know :(
It sucks that I let myself in that position...
It sucks that I let myself in that position...
