what am I to do.When I left a year ago we had both been addicts for a time.i wen tto get myself clean and she was supposed to go to rehab.Now I have been clean for 10 months 13 days (the whole time keeping this twisted relationship going)and she is wanting so bad to clean up that she is finally asking my help.I knwo that at this point in time i cannot put myself in that posion again of omg they're smoking it in front of me but i want to find her some type of help.she lives in merced ca,is uninsured has no job and just lost her car is there anything available out there for her
please please stay away. If she wants help she can find it like you have. Do not put yourself in the position of wanting to rescue and addict.
Caring sometimes means staying away. Its like going back into a burning house to rescue someone that can walk out themsleves.
Caring sometimes means staying away. Its like going back into a burning house to rescue someone that can walk out themsleves.
deebee
I appologise i didn't realise you are on your way.... Does she still have the child?
Congratulations on your 10months and 13 days clean.... But we still are here?
xoxoxo bruce and jenny
I appologise i didn't realise you are on your way.... Does she still have the child?
Congratulations on your 10months and 13 days clean.... But we still are here?
xoxoxo bruce and jenny
partner- i am doing my best to stay away but it i s as hard to stay away from her as it was to leave her especially now that she is actually asking for help .........and w.m.b.g.b. no she doesnt have that child anymore the police raided our house about a month before i left and they put her son into the car of the child protective services,she has totally fallen apart since then and this is the first time that she has actually asked for help from anyone
What's up D-
I say you have GOT to follow your gut on this one...
Forgive the clich, but only you know whether you are strong enough to be that rock for her to break herself upon.
The thing is, if you do try and help her- you would be insane not to expect the tremendous possibility of failure [at this initial mission, at least] since the odds are stacked that direction.
As for the metaphor of going into a burning house [re: reply posting], for real...is that all? So you or a loved one are in a house; it's on FIRE! You [or they] are passed out from the smoke and CANNOT WALK ON YOUR OWN...
I'm the firefighter, or neighbor- whomever- do I walk away???
I like the poem "Footprints" interpretation: when noticing one set of prints in the sand the speaker turns to God and says why when I needed the most help did you forsake me... but, as we know by now, God said,
"It was then that I carried you!"
Follow your heart D, and be prepared...pull out your guns man...if it's worth doing, ya better do it right, or as best as you can imagine. And seek Him first- only He can deliver us from anything...ANYTHING...any poison; any lie.
Be Well~
I say you have GOT to follow your gut on this one...
Forgive the clich, but only you know whether you are strong enough to be that rock for her to break herself upon.
The thing is, if you do try and help her- you would be insane not to expect the tremendous possibility of failure [at this initial mission, at least] since the odds are stacked that direction.
As for the metaphor of going into a burning house [re: reply posting], for real...is that all? So you or a loved one are in a house; it's on FIRE! You [or they] are passed out from the smoke and CANNOT WALK ON YOUR OWN...
I'm the firefighter, or neighbor- whomever- do I walk away???
I like the poem "Footprints" interpretation: when noticing one set of prints in the sand the speaker turns to God and says why when I needed the most help did you forsake me... but, as we know by now, God said,
"It was then that I carried you!"
Follow your heart D, and be prepared...pull out your guns man...if it's worth doing, ya better do it right, or as best as you can imagine. And seek Him first- only He can deliver us from anything...ANYTHING...any poison; any lie.
Be Well~
addicted to the search, it is simply an analogy. I am not saying dont save someone who needs saving, I am saying dont go back when you are at risk yourself, if the person who needs help simply needs to make the choice to save themselves.
If someoen can walk out on their own, why go back and risk your safety and then both end up dying.. its not to be taken literally. This guy made the choice to get well, and has succeeded. Going back to someone who hasn't made the first step yet is really a huge risk and unnecessary IMHO.
Rescuing addicts doesnt work and this guy is already at risk. Sometimes the right thing to do is to stay away. We who are the loved oens of addicts have learned that trying to be the saviour only destroys us, and them.
If someoen can walk out on their own, why go back and risk your safety and then both end up dying.. its not to be taken literally. This guy made the choice to get well, and has succeeded. Going back to someone who hasn't made the first step yet is really a huge risk and unnecessary IMHO.
Rescuing addicts doesnt work and this guy is already at risk. Sometimes the right thing to do is to stay away. We who are the loved oens of addicts have learned that trying to be the saviour only destroys us, and them.
Silent I love this..
Do the opposite of whatever I tell you."
So I didn't.
Do the opposite of whatever I tell you."
So I didn't.
buddhist humour :)
The slient Partner,
I do understand what you mean, but I want people or someone to help me. If you dont help them then how are you supposed to ask for help? Really what I say is true but I know you get sucked in by being around it.
I do understand what you mean, but I want people or someone to help me. If you dont help them then how are you supposed to ask for help? Really what I say is true but I know you get sucked in by being around it.
