In looking back at the past 20+ years of my Nate's addiction, I can honestly say".........
I wish I had thrown the book at him when I found marijuana when he was a teenager!
I wish I had removed him from college when I suspected he was using!
I wish I had let go and let God sooner!
I wish I had loved and cared for myself as much as I did him!
Would the results for Nate be different. I think not. However, the results for me would surely have been better
WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU HAD DONE DIFFERENTLY.
This is a marvelous post and question. Thank you.
I wish I hadn't covered up for her time and time again to so many
I wish I was willing to see how bad things were and not keep rationalizing that she was just a teen
I wish I wasn't so afraid of her
I wish I didn't let my values and boundaries erode because of worry and fear
I wish I didn't take so much time away from my other children and my life
I wish I got help for myself sooner
I wish I hadn't covered up for her time and time again to so many
I wish I was willing to see how bad things were and not keep rationalizing that she was just a teen
I wish I wasn't so afraid of her
I wish I didn't let my values and boundaries erode because of worry and fear
I wish I didn't take so much time away from my other children and my life
I wish I got help for myself sooner
I wish I had discovered Al Anon sooner.
I came to realize I am powerless over someone else's addcition. I learned what it means to love an addict without enabling. I learned to not take upon myself any guilt or anxiety that are a result of someone else's using. I learned to live reasonably happy in this life, and to enjoy life one day at a time without fretting about yesterday or worrying about tomorrow.
Addiction is a tornado that will impact the family around it. The sooner we get into a good Family Support program, the better.
I came to realize I am powerless over someone else's addcition. I learned what it means to love an addict without enabling. I learned to not take upon myself any guilt or anxiety that are a result of someone else's using. I learned to live reasonably happy in this life, and to enjoy life one day at a time without fretting about yesterday or worrying about tomorrow.
Addiction is a tornado that will impact the family around it. The sooner we get into a good Family Support program, the better.
I wish I had confronted him when I thought he was huffing.
I wish I didn't listen to his father when he said he will out grow smoking pot.
I wish I followed through when he beat me and I didn't call the cop but I listened to his dad who said it was my fault for taking his car keys away.
I wish I had listened to his brother that he was dealing and using heavy drugs at 18
I wish that I listened to my instincts that he was lying and manipulating me for money,using my love for him.
I wish I wasn't so delusional and afraid of him, afraid of him dying alone unloved unwanted like garbage.
I wish after 20 years that I learned what a true addict was .
This forum has help me grow stronger and finally say no.
I wish we didn't need this site but unfortunately drugs forced us to stand together as a family .
I wish I didn't listen to his father when he said he will out grow smoking pot.
I wish I followed through when he beat me and I didn't call the cop but I listened to his dad who said it was my fault for taking his car keys away.
I wish I had listened to his brother that he was dealing and using heavy drugs at 18
I wish that I listened to my instincts that he was lying and manipulating me for money,using my love for him.
I wish I wasn't so delusional and afraid of him, afraid of him dying alone unloved unwanted like garbage.
I wish after 20 years that I learned what a true addict was .
This forum has help me grow stronger and finally say no.
I wish we didn't need this site but unfortunately drugs forced us to stand together as a family .
