My beautiful daughter is into something and I am at a loss. She is over 30, not under my control. She has a child we have sent away for the next week.
She found drugs early (14ish) and never seemed to have be able to say no to experimenting. Up and down at coping with life then married 2 yrs ago. He looked good but soon became abusive (head not body). April he left, and she held her own, (her cousin stayed on and off for a couple of weeks. Last month, May she must have begun drifting because when we wnt to help her move it was noted she was in trouble. I went the next weekend and she was in the bathroom constiapted, could not get into gear to get packed and was abusive to me about the pressure to pack up the van. She took a bath in the afternoon and I thought it was a hygene issue. At 8 I hadd to leave, and left her with the last of belonginss that did not fit. I was appalled at her attachment to a coffee table and leaking futon. I left them behind and the next I hear is the need foir money for hotels. I just wanted them to leave behind the things aand get on a bus. Next day she was in a hotel with needles in the closet. She slept all day & left her child to play in the room. Then she sent him to me and went of with a ride to visit her Dad. She left there & returned to that hotel the appeared here 2 days later.
For 5 nights she has been using something. Activity is after midnight but she is back by morning. She demands money and is abusive. I have found her in the fetal curl head & knees seemingly where she drops. Once she was kneeling and when I spoke her eyes were rolling in her head - she still manaaged abusive language, but she had trouble standing. Another time I found her in the bathroom and the smoke, before she close the door was not what I recognised. She was not active in the next hour.
I have been told she is into cocaine - is this cocaine? She does get active but she seems to look and pick through the moving boxes. After I smelled that smoke she was not energetic, rather after an hour made ssome food I disappeared. She does not engage with her son & me for meals etc.
Sorry to go on - 5 nights of activity and now she sleeps.
Should I tell her her son won't come back unless she gets straight? Should I toss her out now and tell here to get her own place and her son can go there?
I'm frightened.
Hi there. Sorry to hear about your situation with your daughter and grandson. It sounds to me that she may be on more than cocaine. Maybe a bit of H and coke. Who knows. Anyway it seems to me that you have a very hard decision to make here. I know we all love our kids and I would do anything for mine. But.. there is only so much a person can do. She has to want to do something for herself too. I think that if I were in your shoes that I'd have to put her on out of my house.(she is a big girl) though there's no way in Hell I'd send her son along for the ride. No matter what I had to do. My parents kept my kids when they were little because of my heroin addiction. Today I am so grateful that God had them there for my kids. They had a wonderful home and never wanted for anything and for the most part (other than being spoiled) turned out to be wonderful adults. I'm not saying to totally turn your back on your child but..make her face reality. Sorry I can't help you very much. I will be praying for you and her. Denise
Hi mum,
I think it could be many different drugs, whatever is available at the time she buys. It sounds like she is having a rough go of it, and she is behaving recklessly with the drugs.
How close are you two? Can you talk to her?
I know she is an adult, but it sounds like she needs help.
If that was my daughter I would do what I could to help her , and I would keep my grandchild if thats what it took.
I would not put up with much more verbal abuse, (I understand she is upset, I would remind her that you are not there to take her abuse) you are there to offer her help.
Offer to help her lose the drugs,- its time to get real. Help find a detox for her, maybe you could offer to escort her to her Drs, convince her she needs to go (mental health)
And remind her she is very much loved.
You can only do so much because she is a grown woman. I hope she is willing to listen to you. Tell her she is not only your daughter, but she is also your best friend and you are worried. - The choice to turn her life around rests with her, and it sounds like she needs to do that now.
Just do what you can, and don't feel guilty.
I was just letting you know what I would do.
(I would do what I could)
I think it could be many different drugs, whatever is available at the time she buys. It sounds like she is having a rough go of it, and she is behaving recklessly with the drugs.
How close are you two? Can you talk to her?
I know she is an adult, but it sounds like she needs help.
If that was my daughter I would do what I could to help her , and I would keep my grandchild if thats what it took.
I would not put up with much more verbal abuse, (I understand she is upset, I would remind her that you are not there to take her abuse) you are there to offer her help.
Offer to help her lose the drugs,- its time to get real. Help find a detox for her, maybe you could offer to escort her to her Drs, convince her she needs to go (mental health)
And remind her she is very much loved.
You can only do so much because she is a grown woman. I hope she is willing to listen to you. Tell her she is not only your daughter, but she is also your best friend and you are worried. - The choice to turn her life around rests with her, and it sounds like she needs to do that now.
Just do what you can, and don't feel guilty.
I was just letting you know what I would do.
(I would do what I could)
Thanks Denise
Now I can go to bed tonight kowing I have support for tomorrow.
Thanks
Now I can go to bed tonight kowing I have support for tomorrow.
Thanks
Thanks for the help.
She has been sleeping since Sunday night and is able to communicate now, Tuesday afternoon.
Tried to talk this evening but no response, big denial that drugs are a part of her life.
Thanks again
She has been sleeping since Sunday night and is able to communicate now, Tuesday afternoon.
Tried to talk this evening but no response, big denial that drugs are a part of her life.
Thanks again
