Tim you wanted different thoughts so Im giving mine.To be honest I feel that you should.It really isnt taking too much of your time,you can pay your respects,& you will in someway help the family.I feel that you will feel good about doing it & the family will be thankful......mj
They obviously think very highly of you. I would look at it as an honor. Pay your respects and be happy about what you have done. Alot of people don't have any friends at all. That is all we have in this world is friends and family.......
Travis
Travis
Pineknot quotes-Alot of people don't have any friends at all. That is all we have in this world is friends"
Thanks man,and youve got a new one.
MJ-I always appreciate your feedback.Dont give my sarcasm too much meaning.I've picked on you but have always respected you.
Thanks man,and youve got a new one.
MJ-I always appreciate your feedback.Dont give my sarcasm too much meaning.I've picked on you but have always respected you.
Tim:
I have a pretty strong feeling she spoke of you to her family and let them know just how special you were to her.
Rachel
Tim,
I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear about the loss of your neighbor. She sounds like she was a really special lady. That is an honor to be asked to be a pallbearer. I am sure it will mean a lot to her family for you to be there.You could alway rent a suit instead of buying one. Take care and keep us posted. Rae
I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am to hear about the loss of your neighbor. She sounds like she was a really special lady. That is an honor to be asked to be a pallbearer. I am sure it will mean a lot to her family for you to be there.You could alway rent a suit instead of buying one. Take care and keep us posted. Rae
Thanks Rach.
Rae-You never know.I may need that suit in case I get married.Im sure a 165.00 suit shouldnt dissuade a perspective partner from taking the plunge.Im not sure it would be the abyss they will have in mind but you have to keep your hopes up.LOL
Rae-You never know.I may need that suit in case I get married.Im sure a 165.00 suit shouldnt dissuade a perspective partner from taking the plunge.Im not sure it would be the abyss they will have in mind but you have to keep your hopes up.LOL
Dear Tim I read what you wrote & I felt the need to respond before I go to bed(YEAHHHHHHHHHHHH)anyways the same goes for me with you.I respect you also & didnt think anything about your sarcasim,call me blonde but I didnt see any sarcasim from you.
in other words We are cool...right????.
Good nite.......mj
in other words We are cool...right????.
Good nite.......mj
tim ,may I say .you are a gentlman ,,,thank you for being you ,she loved that IM sure ,,,,wear what you like ....poopie,,loving flowers ,what a kind sole you must be dear......and a gentle man.....
Tim,
You dont have to wear a suit as someone said.Id go to walmart and get a botton up white dress shirt,kackie pants,and a tie..Many wear this to furnels...And it looks pretty nice about like a suit w/o a jackets.JMO,crystal
You dont have to wear a suit as someone said.Id go to walmart and get a botton up white dress shirt,kackie pants,and a tie..Many wear this to furnels...And it looks pretty nice about like a suit w/o a jackets.JMO,crystal
Tim... I dont know you just what I"ve read... You say a lot of things I actually "get"... This is JMO but no one is probly going to care what you are wearing. Do you think that sweet ole lady will look down from above and say oh lord what a great/awful suit that young man is wearing? No, she will be saying, wow, he thought enough of me to carry me home. I've been to a few funerals this last year. Not once did I or anyone I know, worry about, comment on or otherwise give any thought to what someone was wearing. She sounds like a wonderful amazing person as do you... Thanks for letting a newly recovering crazy broad put in her 2 cents :)
Kelly
Kelly
Hi Tim
I think you made a good and loving decision.
Down the road in life,when you look back on this event,it will be one of the memories of love.
Take care now.Wishing you the best always.
I think you made a good and loving decision.
Down the road in life,when you look back on this event,it will be one of the memories of love.
Take care now.Wishing you the best always.
I agree with Kelly, it isn't what you wear, it is what you do. I for one would have gone in jeans if that is all I had. Mother used to say ' it isn't what we wear that GOD cares about, is what you wear in your heart'. Oh and always make sure you have on clean underwear in case we had an accident, (never really understood this one.. lol ) The woman knew you, knew that you were not the 'dress up type', and you knew her more than we did, my guess is she didn't care what you have or don't have. Friendship/Love doesn't come in material. We all know this already.
I see your side of it regarding not knowing her family and how they may think 'who is he? type of questions. I would have said to whoever asked you, I would be glad too but you see I don't own a suit. And they more than likely would have said; That isn't what is important here.
I wore a red suit to my fiances funeral, his family said to me, 'How can you wear RED on a day like today'. I asked them if they knew what their sons favorite color was. They left me alone after that. They had no idea.
My moms funeral, I wore Jeans. This is who I am, and she knew this is what I would wear. We laughed about it during her illness on what the different siblings would wear, and she would say , your sister will be color coordinated, no doubt, and you and your brothers, jeans and tennis shoes. And frankly, I didn't care what anyone else thought.
You are there for your friend and yourself. No one else.
I see your side of it regarding not knowing her family and how they may think 'who is he? type of questions. I would have said to whoever asked you, I would be glad too but you see I don't own a suit. And they more than likely would have said; That isn't what is important here.
I wore a red suit to my fiances funeral, his family said to me, 'How can you wear RED on a day like today'. I asked them if they knew what their sons favorite color was. They left me alone after that. They had no idea.
My moms funeral, I wore Jeans. This is who I am, and she knew this is what I would wear. We laughed about it during her illness on what the different siblings would wear, and she would say , your sister will be color coordinated, no doubt, and you and your brothers, jeans and tennis shoes. And frankly, I didn't care what anyone else thought.
You are there for your friend and yourself. No one else.
Booke-What an awesome post.I think I like you.
lol Thanks Tim, my husband who is 52 does not own a suit , his idea of dressing up when at a meeting or conference, is a Jacket, black/navy/kahki pants and a tie. He has had the same Jacket for 20 yrs.. lol
Works for him.
He wears Jeans to work daily and tennis shoes. He is a systems analysis with a large firm here in VA.
We are just 'wear what is comfortable type of folks' my job requires me to dress up, at times, which means I own a million pairs of black pants/skirts. lol..
Black goes with anything. Dress it up or down.
AND Levis has black jeans that you can dress up by simply wearing a shirt and tie.
We both said before we changed our will to be cremated, dress us in jeans, tennis, and t-shirts.
Works for him.
He wears Jeans to work daily and tennis shoes. He is a systems analysis with a large firm here in VA.
We are just 'wear what is comfortable type of folks' my job requires me to dress up, at times, which means I own a million pairs of black pants/skirts. lol..
Black goes with anything. Dress it up or down.
AND Levis has black jeans that you can dress up by simply wearing a shirt and tie.
We both said before we changed our will to be cremated, dress us in jeans, tennis, and t-shirts.
I haven't read any other responses, so I apologize for any repetition. Tim, I wouldn't hesitate for one moment to go. It's of the highest accolade to be asked to do this service, and even more so knowing how big the family is. That's how special you were to her. Out of all the family and friends she had, they asked you. You know better than anybody that the suit or your humility does not trump a fundamental and virtuous act like this. Her family wants you to be one of the last people to carry her and see her off to her final resting place. No small physical or spiritual task. As humans, I believe these are the moments we have to step up. It makes us stronger yet humbles us. I suspect you are going to do it anyways from what I know of you, it's just a difficult time for you and confusing but this woman valued you as many of us do. I don't think it's even a question. It's a huge reciprocating respect. When it's all said and done, what do we really have? Eachother.
Thanks Flipper and everyoneelse.I left the fowers yesterday and i think they moved them to the feneral home.I will walk over there today and speak with her sister again.She may have gotten the ideal That I wouldnt do it and I certainly didnt mean that.I want to clear that up because she didnt call me back.Now im feeling guilty.I was at the nursery when she called so I may have been a little brusk.I hope she didnt take it that way.Again guys,you all make such god sense when Im senseless.I have to be at court at 2:00 and just realized that when I was at my last clients house i stepped in dog sh*t.I couldnt figur out where the smell was coming in from?Thanked God I checked.I can just see myself walking in the courtroom and everyone holding their nose...talk abot getting paranoid.LOL
