Hey guys I was re reading your posts and thinking about what you all had said. I have made a decision on what I am going to do.I am not going to be buying booze for her anymore while she is on one of her binges. I talked it over with my husband, I posted on here and I have come to the conclusion that what I am doing is insanity . I am acting as just insane by being around alcohol and connected with it through my friend as if I was drinking myself. I mean get this pic. Here it is a sunday morning at 9am when she calls for me to pick up booze. I am getting ready to go to church . I drop everything I am at and is at her place by 930 am to pick up her money to go buy her booze. I rush to get to the store and back so I wont be late for church . I call later that afternoon and her mom tells she is passed out . Yesterday morning I rush to her aid again when she calls. It is INSANITY that what it is You guys are right I am contributing to her problem . If I didn't buy her the booze I doubt there will be anyone else she would get to go for her. There is something else to I have to say and that is this woman knows I gave up drinking.she knows i dont like to be around it anymore but she doesn't know that I am in AA or go to any addiction center. some of my friends know others don't ,she is one of the ones that don't.I don't know why I can't confide in her about my program but for now I can't.she knew how much I drank but I still cant tell her that I am in a program.Anyway thank you all for your advice and I took it and gonna use it. God bless,take care and have a great day
valerie- your post sounds like your friend is close...you are a good friend by denying her that source. Good for you. You are stronger than damn most hun, and i think u know that. Your friend (like me) respects and is grateful, they just wont tell you that. You are the one that knows the most about this friend....if they're callin you at odd hours in the morning, then u have your limit...i have a serious alkie for a brother, and if i accepted alkie behavior as the real thing then iiwould never have a brother....long story..u wanna be tough, thats fine, live it and enjoy, but if you want to be the other way, let us live that way too...im hoping for something....im an a**..good luck..
Dodsworth
Dodsworth
Pirate,
There you have it. You said she knows of your struggle with alcohol. You have your answer. I hope you get the strength to tell her no. Your life depends on it.
This was never a debate of whether or not this person was a good friend or not. It turned into that but I think the huge point was missed here.
Anyway..good luck to you Marie. Take care of "yourself".
XX Valarie
There you have it. You said she knows of your struggle with alcohol. You have your answer. I hope you get the strength to tell her no. Your life depends on it.
This was never a debate of whether or not this person was a good friend or not. It turned into that but I think the huge point was missed here.
Anyway..good luck to you Marie. Take care of "yourself".
XX Valarie
Good for you for doing the next right thing!
I side with Brooke's perspective. This is a Pirate problem. Sobriety comes first, or it won't last....
Gidday Pirate
When i was drinking i wanted others to drink and if i could get someone to drink who wasnt then cool because i had won and i then had another so called weaker person to point at instead of me and they could loose there license on the booze runs instead of me, i had friends who didnt drink much and i couldnt understand why they didnt get pissed, i never had the situation of a sober friend and im guessing the sober me would of cared and the drunk me wouldnt of give a s*** and i would wait till i was drunk to ask a mates wife or girlfriend for sex so im reaaly glad i dont drink anymore
light and love zac
When i was drinking i wanted others to drink and if i could get someone to drink who wasnt then cool because i had won and i then had another so called weaker person to point at instead of me and they could loose there license on the booze runs instead of me, i had friends who didnt drink much and i couldnt understand why they didnt get pissed, i never had the situation of a sober friend and im guessing the sober me would of cared and the drunk me wouldnt of give a s*** and i would wait till i was drunk to ask a mates wife or girlfriend for sex so im reaaly glad i dont drink anymore
light and love zac
