elvis,
Please use the link kerry and others posted to find AA and/or NA meetings near you
Once you GO to some meetings, many of your questions will be answered there ... such as how to get a sponsor, what they do, how it all works, etc ....
In fact they even have literature at the meetings that will help explain for you also.
I know that taking the first step to actually GOING to meetings is very scary, but it could very well be the step you need to start taking ACTION towards recovery.
Thoughts and prayers are with you .....
yes elvis
go to a few meetings and look for someone you admire, someone who has some clean time under their belt and ask: will you be my sponsor? most will say yes, but there could be a chance too that she already has a sponsee, so dont give up! you will have someone who you can call and someone who will help you work the 12 steps, you will need to buy a workbook for the steps and also the basic text which is a blue book, other than that everything else is free. you can purchase the books right there at the meetings.
working the steps is very important as it will show you a new way of living and thinking that is productive to your sobriety.
so go look for which meeting you will attend, i think rae posted info about meetings in your area... we will all be anxiously waiting for you to tell us how you first meeting went! and then we will go on to the next step. go on... you can do it! we are supporting ya! jewels
go to a few meetings and look for someone you admire, someone who has some clean time under their belt and ask: will you be my sponsor? most will say yes, but there could be a chance too that she already has a sponsee, so dont give up! you will have someone who you can call and someone who will help you work the 12 steps, you will need to buy a workbook for the steps and also the basic text which is a blue book, other than that everything else is free. you can purchase the books right there at the meetings.
working the steps is very important as it will show you a new way of living and thinking that is productive to your sobriety.
so go look for which meeting you will attend, i think rae posted info about meetings in your area... we will all be anxiously waiting for you to tell us how you first meeting went! and then we will go on to the next step. go on... you can do it! we are supporting ya! jewels
thanks ali, i have re-replied to ur email and am just about to re-send one to wendy as my email didnt save for her. yes i went to alot i didnt like, then i saw this one...no bulls*it about him, a professor in a small room, nothing flashy, very down to earth. used to get a laugh out of him too sometimes. he had a habit of answering his ph a bit too but he didnt have a receptionist so i guess thats why. i have thought about going back to see him...he didnt charge me anything, but in the end he was getting annoyed that i couldnt seem to challenge myself to do things i am still trying to challenge myself to do. so i felt i let him down and i didnt go back.....
anyway im not here long today, i feel really nauseated! sick! ill try wendys email again then im off!
take care for now, looking forwared to recieving ur email too....
p.s if i disappear for any length of time it will just be that i have HAD to move and have to set up another computer connection. looks like our home is going....that message is for anyone...trying to stay positive....
anyway im not here long today, i feel really nauseated! sick! ill try wendys email again then im off!
take care for now, looking forwared to recieving ur email too....
p.s if i disappear for any length of time it will just be that i have HAD to move and have to set up another computer connection. looks like our home is going....that message is for anyone...trying to stay positive....
Elvis love,
This may be the best thing to happen. Your family home being sold may be just the push you need to get out on your own. Try to stay positive and think good thoughts.
Wendy
This may be the best thing to happen. Your family home being sold may be just the push you need to get out on your own. Try to stay positive and think good thoughts.
Wendy
oh swizzle and jewls sorry i didnt see ur posts yesterday! thanks so much for the support....that goes out to everyone that is giving me some, i dont get any at home, just from my nan who doesnt know much about sponsors and meetings and stuff, she is always telling me to go back to that good therapist i was talking about. u know i rang this drug line last night and asked for where i can get more info about na meetings in my area....i will go and look in the bin now cuz i accidently chucked it out or i will ring them back, and i will have a look at the one rae posted!
yeh wendy, it could be for the best, ill only miss the house and my room lol!
ill keep u all updated, take care xoxooxoox
p.s can u take someone to ur first meeting with u? like i would take my nan....for support....?
yeh wendy, it could be for the best, ill only miss the house and my room lol!
ill keep u all updated, take care xoxooxoox
p.s can u take someone to ur first meeting with u? like i would take my nan....for support....?
Yes Elvis we have told you this before, you can take anyone with you. You don't need permission. Just call the numbers, to get the addresses, the times, then you just go and sit. You do not have to say a word, just listen.
Do this a few times until you are comfortable. I see people come in sit as far away from all of us and that is ok too. People like to observe a few times before they share.
Do this a few times until you are comfortable. I see people come in sit as far away from all of us and that is ok too. People like to observe a few times before they share.
p.s can u take someone to ur first meeting with u? like i would take my nan....for support....?
that is a great idea! you most definately can bring anyone, unless it is a "closed" meeting, which means for alchies and addicts themselves. When you call them, ask them if the particular meeting you want to attend is closed.
Good luck..you can do it!! It really isn't that bad; trust me.
that is a great idea! you most definately can bring anyone, unless it is a "closed" meeting, which means for alchies and addicts themselves. When you call them, ask them if the particular meeting you want to attend is closed.
Good luck..you can do it!! It really isn't that bad; trust me.
elvis
you really have to make sure that the meeting is an open meeting for your nan to support you, in my experience if the meeting is a closed meeting they are pretty strict about only addicts or alcoholics attending. there is a phamplet i think you can get it at a meeting where it will list all the meetings in the area that are opened or closed. i know that at my tueday group the last tues of every month is an open meeting with a speaker.
i would never recommend lying but if it took that to get you to get to a meeting, your nan could say when its her turn to introduce herself that hello my name is.....and i am an addict, who would know? i am just suggesting this cuz i know you probably might use that as an excuse not to go to a meeting and if we got you this far, we dont want to stop progress, its is good to hear you talk about considering a meeting, you are so lucky to have all these great people here to cheer you on. keep moving forward elvis, maybe nan could attend just one meeting to get you over the first one, cuz she cant continue to be there pretending to be an addict, you will meet someone there who you like and then you can sit with that person at the meetings. jewels
you really have to make sure that the meeting is an open meeting for your nan to support you, in my experience if the meeting is a closed meeting they are pretty strict about only addicts or alcoholics attending. there is a phamplet i think you can get it at a meeting where it will list all the meetings in the area that are opened or closed. i know that at my tueday group the last tues of every month is an open meeting with a speaker.
i would never recommend lying but if it took that to get you to get to a meeting, your nan could say when its her turn to introduce herself that hello my name is.....and i am an addict, who would know? i am just suggesting this cuz i know you probably might use that as an excuse not to go to a meeting and if we got you this far, we dont want to stop progress, its is good to hear you talk about considering a meeting, you are so lucky to have all these great people here to cheer you on. keep moving forward elvis, maybe nan could attend just one meeting to get you over the first one, cuz she cant continue to be there pretending to be an addict, you will meet someone there who you like and then you can sit with that person at the meetings. jewels
hey guys well i rang that drug line back....and was told i could bring my nan, he suggested i do an na instead of an aa...he has given me a persific website to look up where rthere will be times places listed. its now friday and ive got quite alot on today, and after last night with the damn estate agents out here :( so ill talk to my nan about it over the weekend and look up this web thing on monday to find one closest to me!!!
thanks guys. im still nervous, but i suppose thats to be expected!
thanks guys. im still nervous, but i suppose thats to be expected!
Good for you Elvis.
I hope and pray you go and keep going.
I really think it will help you to get some face to face help. It will be so much easier for you to be around people that understand what you are going through.
You took a big step by calling now you have to follow through and show up.
Good luck and keep us posted on how it goes.
Rae
I hope and pray you go and keep going.
I really think it will help you to get some face to face help. It will be so much easier for you to be around people that understand what you are going through.
You took a big step by calling now you have to follow through and show up.
Good luck and keep us posted on how it goes.
Rae
thankyou rae, i appreciate ur support! i really need as much as i can get right now! xoxoxoxoox
p.s there is a benzo that starts with "f" fluritemapam or something, i mean ive heard of diazepam and alprazolam and have had a hard enough time getting off those, then this idiot offers me this f stuff which is apparently a benzo that they use as a sleeping pill, just cuz i mentioned my insomnia. dont worry i didnt take it!!!!
p.s there is a benzo that starts with "f" fluritemapam or something, i mean ive heard of diazepam and alprazolam and have had a hard enough time getting off those, then this idiot offers me this f stuff which is apparently a benzo that they use as a sleeping pill, just cuz i mentioned my insomnia. dont worry i didnt take it!!!!
