can i please just ask a question without getting told off. i just have a huge worry at the moment, that i wont get into here, but why is it that everytime, it flares up or i start to worry about it i think "i dont have any pills, should i get some, what could i take to help my anxiety". because i dont have any pills like that around any more so like today, when this problem flared up, i started thinking about what dr might give me something.....and at the same time im desperately telling myself that i have to cope another way and to stop thinking like that! i stopped taking the sleeping pills after i got the advice here. but just why do i go back to thinking of that bad coping strategy all the time? then when i make myself NOT go and get anything.....i start shaking and feel sick....
Is it just because this is how im used to coping....why? im really trying and have NOT got anything for a while now (to help me cope) but why is this soooo hard?
thanx
I have the same thing, do you suffer from anxiety as well?
Felicia
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Felicia
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Elvis- when you quit a benzo, the first thing when some stressful life event hit is to think about reaching for a benzo. It's pretty natural and it's your body/mind trying to get you to feed the addict.
E
It's probably because you aren't doing anything to get better. Did you ever get to any meetings? Have you learned any of those coping skills people here posted to you about? Are you expecting it all just to "go away" because you want it to? It doesn't work that way. It takes work. You have to have a little willingness to do something about it. Or it stays and you will pick up again. Your choice.
It's probably because you aren't doing anything to get better. Did you ever get to any meetings? Have you learned any of those coping skills people here posted to you about? Are you expecting it all just to "go away" because you want it to? It doesn't work that way. It takes work. You have to have a little willingness to do something about it. Or it stays and you will pick up again. Your choice.
It's hard Elvis because your an addict. I don't believe every addict needs outside help to stop craving and using pills. SOME DO and I believe you do.
I won't get into this to much with you as it has all been said before but I think you would benefit from meetings and therapy. I mean 3 times a week for a while. I think you just need some tools. Then when you have a craving you MIGHT do something different other than reach for a pills or a doctor to call.
Obviously you can't do this alone. You have struggled LONG ENOUGH. Why keep punishing yourself. GO WHERE PEOPLE CAN HELP YOU ELVIS.
This isn't something that is going to just go away for you. It's not something that your nan or your mom, dad or sister can help you with either. This is something you MUST do on your own.
You deserve to be happy, get a job, find a boyfriend. Get out of the house and just live. You are worth it Elvis. DO you need links to meetings in your area? Let someone know and someone will post them for you.
It is time.
Good luck.
Rae
Ps. See Elvis, Kat and I know what were talking about. Listen to us:-0)
I won't get into this to much with you as it has all been said before but I think you would benefit from meetings and therapy. I mean 3 times a week for a while. I think you just need some tools. Then when you have a craving you MIGHT do something different other than reach for a pills or a doctor to call.
Obviously you can't do this alone. You have struggled LONG ENOUGH. Why keep punishing yourself. GO WHERE PEOPLE CAN HELP YOU ELVIS.
This isn't something that is going to just go away for you. It's not something that your nan or your mom, dad or sister can help you with either. This is something you MUST do on your own.
You deserve to be happy, get a job, find a boyfriend. Get out of the house and just live. You are worth it Elvis. DO you need links to meetings in your area? Let someone know and someone will post them for you.
It is time.
Good luck.
Rae
Ps. See Elvis, Kat and I know what were talking about. Listen to us:-0)
First thing that rolled through my brain is this: Elvis, you are an addict. That is the reason why you think that everything can be solved with a pill.
Like Rae and Kat said, you are never going to get better till you decide that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Nobody can do this for you, you must take action to get out of this rut that you are in. Go to a meeting, or a rehab, YOU must take this step or you will be doomed to seeking pills for everything that ails you.
Good luck
Like Rae and Kat said, you are never going to get better till you decide that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. Nobody can do this for you, you must take action to get out of this rut that you are in. Go to a meeting, or a rehab, YOU must take this step or you will be doomed to seeking pills for everything that ails you.
Good luck
Is it just because this is how im used to coping
Elvis, I think the point here is that you are NOT coping. If you found a way to cope with life, these feelings would start going away. Maybe it is time you gave the meetings a try. They would help with your social anxiety too.
Elvis, I think the point here is that you are NOT coping. If you found a way to cope with life, these feelings would start going away. Maybe it is time you gave the meetings a try. They would help with your social anxiety too.
Elvis
See thread "Elvis"...i should have posted it here, but couldnt find this thread anymore when i was posting..
Sorry about that..'
hope the information is of use to you though..
Hugs
Ali
See thread "Elvis"...i should have posted it here, but couldnt find this thread anymore when i was posting..
Sorry about that..'
hope the information is of use to you though..
Hugs
Ali
thanks to everyone and to ali, i will go and read ur post next. so then ur saying i will learn new tools at these meetings on how to cope?! cuz i did do private therapy for that same reason but never learned any better! thanks for all ur advice and ideas. i did recieve um...lists, once before, where there would be places in my area. i wouldnt know where they are now? sorry (embarrassed). i would just have to make sure first it wasnt like that horrible one that i did go to ages ago! where they had a video on soemone suiciding and oh it was terrible. i know though u guys have told me i must of gone to the wrong thing.....that it must of been some type of inpatient program and not a normal meeting!
there are just so many problems at the moment, its hard to get my head around everything, then i start thinking ....who could i go see, what could i get there"...! bad bad bad!!!
p.s yes felicia, i suffer badly from anxiety and depression also.
there are just so many problems at the moment, its hard to get my head around everything, then i start thinking ....who could i go see, what could i get there"...! bad bad bad!!!
p.s yes felicia, i suffer badly from anxiety and depression also.
Elvis
So if you already have had SOME therapy, you know that it is something that you can continue on with as life progresses, and things change in your life..its not like you just go for a few sessions and poof we are better...lol right?
Is there any other therapists in your area? Addiction specialists?? I think that just like meetings, you have to find one that is right for you...and even then you have to keep going for a while and be totally honest and open in order to have a successful outcome..it takes work..
Only you know if a 12 step program is right for you honey...its not something I personally subscribe to, but you cant know that unless you know what its all about...so maybe you should go to one and just see if it makes sense to you at all....
You could probably find one close to you by looking on line...
Bottom line honey is that you are saying you need some support and support is out there for you, you just have to find the right kind ..the kind that works for YOU..
hugs
Ali
P.S. That film sounds just awful and very upsetting...are you sure it was a 12 step type meeting? The few meetings that I have gone to and actually STAYED for, didn't have any movies, and in fact it seems that they have a standard beginning, middle and end..and that doesnt sound the same..lol
Sorry you had to have that kind of scare tactic thrown at you Elvis..thats awful, Im sure that regular attenders will verify whether that is something that would be normal to show at a 12 step meeting..i just cant see it, but cant say for 100% certainty...
So if you already have had SOME therapy, you know that it is something that you can continue on with as life progresses, and things change in your life..its not like you just go for a few sessions and poof we are better...lol right?
Is there any other therapists in your area? Addiction specialists?? I think that just like meetings, you have to find one that is right for you...and even then you have to keep going for a while and be totally honest and open in order to have a successful outcome..it takes work..
Only you know if a 12 step program is right for you honey...its not something I personally subscribe to, but you cant know that unless you know what its all about...so maybe you should go to one and just see if it makes sense to you at all....
You could probably find one close to you by looking on line...
Bottom line honey is that you are saying you need some support and support is out there for you, you just have to find the right kind ..the kind that works for YOU..
hugs
Ali
P.S. That film sounds just awful and very upsetting...are you sure it was a 12 step type meeting? The few meetings that I have gone to and actually STAYED for, didn't have any movies, and in fact it seems that they have a standard beginning, middle and end..and that doesnt sound the same..lol
Sorry you had to have that kind of scare tactic thrown at you Elvis..thats awful, Im sure that regular attenders will verify whether that is something that would be normal to show at a 12 step meeting..i just cant see it, but cant say for 100% certainty...
ali and elvis
they never show videos at 12 step meetings, it must of been a different meeting of some sort, they do however have a speaker meeting when some one comes to speak of their experience strength and hope.
elvis you have been so blessed with ali's friendship and advice, listen to her, you wont go wrong. ali you are a doll... you speak so nicely to her and i hope that works for her.
so "just for today" elvis all you have to concentrate on is going to a meeting, you can do that one baby step. ali will help you thru it. jewels
they never show videos at 12 step meetings, it must of been a different meeting of some sort, they do however have a speaker meeting when some one comes to speak of their experience strength and hope.
elvis you have been so blessed with ali's friendship and advice, listen to her, you wont go wrong. ali you are a doll... you speak so nicely to her and i hope that works for her.
so "just for today" elvis all you have to concentrate on is going to a meeting, you can do that one baby step. ali will help you thru it. jewels
Hey Elvis,
This web site may help. Brooke posted it to you before. I am walking out the door but wanted you to get this. Please consider going to another meeting. You may have to try a couple different ones before you find one that is right for you. Get a sponser if you are able to. I honestly think it will make your life so much easier. Plus you will have someone you can talk to and that will help you.
http://www.aatimes.org.au/
After you click on that site see if you can save it to your favorites for future reference!
Rae
This web site may help. Brooke posted it to you before. I am walking out the door but wanted you to get this. Please consider going to another meeting. You may have to try a couple different ones before you find one that is right for you. Get a sponser if you are able to. I honestly think it will make your life so much easier. Plus you will have someone you can talk to and that will help you.
http://www.aatimes.org.au/
After you click on that site see if you can save it to your favorites for future reference!
Rae
Miss Elvis,
You out there today?
Jewels..thank you for saying such a nice thing...id be honored if I could help Elvis in any way shape or form, other then some amazing emails and recent wise advice from some here, she's one of the reasons I thought i should stay awhile longer....my heart really goes out to Elvis...and with our support- I just know she's going to find her way through this..
Elvis honey..if you want to email me, i just signed back up with a hotmail account just for this site.., you can email me there at ali-herb@hotmail.com
Hope your having a good day..you too Jewels..
Hugs
Ali
You out there today?
Jewels..thank you for saying such a nice thing...id be honored if I could help Elvis in any way shape or form, other then some amazing emails and recent wise advice from some here, she's one of the reasons I thought i should stay awhile longer....my heart really goes out to Elvis...and with our support- I just know she's going to find her way through this..
Elvis honey..if you want to email me, i just signed back up with a hotmail account just for this site.., you can email me there at ali-herb@hotmail.com
Hope your having a good day..you too Jewels..
Hugs
Ali
guys thanks for the advice! rae thanx for the link, im just dropping in so ill look at in in depth when i have more time!!
i have learnt over this weekend i have to do something.....i do need a sponsor or something....this is just getting worse!!! now i actually worry that i will even have enough money on the side "in case" i have to get something, and make sure i have some there! i have noticed this getting worse and i have a problem and i need help! i will not get ANY support from my parents and my sister, i will from my nan and pa but they shouldnt have to handle it. so i am (its sunday now) tomorrow look for some help. even if i go to my doctor and tell him of my problem. its almost like ocd, making sure i have money for an emergency.....and moving out soon and all and getting a new job, how do i expect to cope when i cant even cope with the garbage thats dished out to me at home!! so yes i am going to do something!! can u only get a sponsor if u go to meetings? it would be great to have someone to call in times of need!!!
thankyou guys!
i have learnt over this weekend i have to do something.....i do need a sponsor or something....this is just getting worse!!! now i actually worry that i will even have enough money on the side "in case" i have to get something, and make sure i have some there! i have noticed this getting worse and i have a problem and i need help! i will not get ANY support from my parents and my sister, i will from my nan and pa but they shouldnt have to handle it. so i am (its sunday now) tomorrow look for some help. even if i go to my doctor and tell him of my problem. its almost like ocd, making sure i have money for an emergency.....and moving out soon and all and getting a new job, how do i expect to cope when i cant even cope with the garbage thats dished out to me at home!! so yes i am going to do something!! can u only get a sponsor if u go to meetings? it would be great to have someone to call in times of need!!!
thankyou guys!
ali i tried to send u an email at herb@hotmail.com but it came back to me?!?
Elvis, I took xanax for a long while, a very low dose. When I stopped, my anxiety was so bad!!! However, you will get better!!!
Exersize is a great way to get your brain to release it's own happy chemicals. It WILL help with stress. There is nothing like a good, brisk walk to help you feel less anxious...please try it!! I swear, it will help.
I hope you try the meetings; I think that you will find that if you have an open mind, you will hear yourself there and hopefully you can find someone good to sponsor you. Someone that will listen and give you suggestions on how to deal.
I am so glad that you are off the meds; it will get better soon. Just don't pick up a pill and find some meetings....okay?
Kerry
Exersize is a great way to get your brain to release it's own happy chemicals. It WILL help with stress. There is nothing like a good, brisk walk to help you feel less anxious...please try it!! I swear, it will help.
I hope you try the meetings; I think that you will find that if you have an open mind, you will hear yourself there and hopefully you can find someone good to sponsor you. Someone that will listen and give you suggestions on how to deal.
I am so glad that you are off the meds; it will get better soon. Just don't pick up a pill and find some meetings....okay?
Kerry
Elvis honey
its
ali-herb@hotmail.com
once i get your email i will send you my regular one, but this is the one i use just to post online...
Ill keep my eye out for it..
Love
Ali
its
ali-herb@hotmail.com
once i get your email i will send you my regular one, but this is the one i use just to post online...
Ill keep my eye out for it..
Love
Ali
Elvis
lol sorry i think thats so cute that you asked if you have to go to meetings to have a sponsor...lol
If you mean sponsor as in the 12 step program, i would assume you have to actually GO to meetings to get one -that will be there for you anyway..f you werent going to meetings your sponsor would probably assume you werent serious...
Do you have a therapist or do you see one on a regular basis? I have done some volunteer work as a big sister....living by example and being there in a postive light for a younger assigned "sister"
How old are you honey? Do you have anyone that you can look up to, to listen to you etc...? I get the feeling you don't, and that can make the world a really lonely place..everybody needs a best friend, or a person they can count on, that they can respect, and when your very young, that can lead by example...
I'll look out for that email love...
hugs
Ali
lol sorry i think thats so cute that you asked if you have to go to meetings to have a sponsor...lol
If you mean sponsor as in the 12 step program, i would assume you have to actually GO to meetings to get one -that will be there for you anyway..f you werent going to meetings your sponsor would probably assume you werent serious...
Do you have a therapist or do you see one on a regular basis? I have done some volunteer work as a big sister....living by example and being there in a postive light for a younger assigned "sister"
How old are you honey? Do you have anyone that you can look up to, to listen to you etc...? I get the feeling you don't, and that can make the world a really lonely place..everybody needs a best friend, or a person they can count on, that they can respect, and when your very young, that can lead by example...
I'll look out for that email love...
hugs
Ali
thankyou littlebeach and ali....thankyou for all the advice! i am in my 20's and the only people i ever look up to for advice are my grandparents! i love my nan and pa so very much, they have always looked out for me!!!
we have a ph service over here called "direct line", i was thinking of ringing that as they should know of meetings and where is the closest to u! cuz as u all know i dont want to make a mistake and go to that other horrible "suicide video" watch bull crap again! obviously it was the wrong thing but they didnt tell me that when i asked "is this the meeting"?!?! so i dont want to go wrong again! hopefully it will turn out better next time! when ur there do u just ask someone after a while if u sort of look up to them "will u be my sponsor"??? and what then they become ur support person? sorry i have no idea about all this....its good to learn!
thanx again xoxoxooxxo
p.s i used to see a therapist....i went through a few, none really did any good...
we have a ph service over here called "direct line", i was thinking of ringing that as they should know of meetings and where is the closest to u! cuz as u all know i dont want to make a mistake and go to that other horrible "suicide video" watch bull crap again! obviously it was the wrong thing but they didnt tell me that when i asked "is this the meeting"?!?! so i dont want to go wrong again! hopefully it will turn out better next time! when ur there do u just ask someone after a while if u sort of look up to them "will u be my sponsor"??? and what then they become ur support person? sorry i have no idea about all this....its good to learn!
thanx again xoxoxooxxo
p.s i used to see a therapist....i went through a few, none really did any good...
Hey Elvis
Did you write down the right email now???lol
Wendy put hers up here too...shed be so wonderful to you and you even live close? thats meant to be...
Oh Elvis...you can email me anyway you know..lol
I saw at least 6-7 different therapist beofre i finally found one i felt comfortable, one that wasnt freudian, or that wasnt a misogynist or a dirty pig, ,of ya and one therapist that was more f***ed up them i was at the time...kept taking calls right in the middle of my time...fighting with her husband...lol..the others were just cold and i didnt feel i could trust them or wanted to open up to them...
Keep looking for the right one hon..you should know after the very first interview if your going to click, so try to get a free 'consultation"...
For sure honey...contact Wendy though ( Curlymane) Shes awesome..
hugs
Ali
Did you write down the right email now???lol
Wendy put hers up here too...shed be so wonderful to you and you even live close? thats meant to be...
Oh Elvis...you can email me anyway you know..lol
I saw at least 6-7 different therapist beofre i finally found one i felt comfortable, one that wasnt freudian, or that wasnt a misogynist or a dirty pig, ,of ya and one therapist that was more f***ed up them i was at the time...kept taking calls right in the middle of my time...fighting with her husband...lol..the others were just cold and i didnt feel i could trust them or wanted to open up to them...
Keep looking for the right one hon..you should know after the very first interview if your going to click, so try to get a free 'consultation"...
For sure honey...contact Wendy though ( Curlymane) Shes awesome..
hugs
Ali
