but i do not know what co-dependant is, i probably am one...i've heard it mentioned all over the place. cody?!
This term is an offshoot of co-alcoholic, denoting the overprotective partner of a chemical addict. Though definitions vary, most clinicians agree that the psychological condition (vs. disease or character defect) of codependence is characterized by compulsively sacrificing your own values, preferences, friends, and identity to avoid upsetting or risking rejection by a special adult or child. "Co" notes that the condition involves two people.
Codependents typically deny or rationalize doing this, or say "I can't help it." Usually both people are wounded survivors of low-nurturance childhoods, and don't know this or what to do about it. Because this condition effectively reduces current inner pain and amplifies it long-term, many class it as a relationship addiction. Once codependents acknowledge their harmful compulsion, they can choose to reduce it over time.
Codependents typically deny or rationalize doing this, or say "I can't help it." Usually both people are wounded survivors of low-nurturance childhoods, and don't know this or what to do about it. Because this condition effectively reduces current inner pain and amplifies it long-term, many class it as a relationship addiction. Once codependents acknowledge their harmful compulsion, they can choose to reduce it over time.
Thanks Tremor...i am definately a codie;(
Jayde
there's some really good threads on the "families" board about co-dependence. I think if you search under "cynical one" you'll find them. Or else just post a topic to Cynical one and ask him/her to bump them up for you.
Idgie
there's some really good threads on the "families" board about co-dependence. I think if you search under "cynical one" you'll find them. Or else just post a topic to Cynical one and ask him/her to bump them up for you.
Idgie
