I'm sure he does...I know I went home to Mama more than once. He's probably feeling a lot of pain and desperation. Be firm with him. Tell him that you'll help him but that he has to be honest with you and agree to getting help. You can't do this by yourself and neither can he.
good luck and let us know how it goes.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl,
I am totally lost. I will find a meeting I can go today. As far as my son, will he be able to detox by himself, or will he need a doctor. When you mean help for him do you mean meetings for him or from doctors. I am sure when I start reading on this, some light will be shed. Do you have any certain book that would be good reading for me and for him as well. Thanks again.
I am totally lost. I will find a meeting I can go today. As far as my son, will he be able to detox by himself, or will he need a doctor. When you mean help for him do you mean meetings for him or from doctors. I am sure when I start reading on this, some light will be shed. Do you have any certain book that would be good reading for me and for him as well. Thanks again.
Rae..thank you for starting this thread..very helpful to newcomers....here's my 2 cents...clean for 90 days...vicodins, oxycodone off and on for about 2-3 weeks...today is day 8 off it all..feel pretty good but mentally weird..panicky and depressed...also not a lot of energy and sweaty w/chills aft night..I flushed them this time..didn't want to hop back on the merry-go-round of hell...for all of you going through withdrawals...take it from me...been there a dozen times and it truly sucks...but the good news is that you can be free...I also suffer from chronic pain due to 2 back surgeries and Lupus...the pain pills really do nothing or the pain after the first few..just hook you in and ruin your life...8000 motrin is a great painkiller..Love to you all....hang in...Sharonn
Mamaw...he needs help from a support group of some sort. Whether he's willing to try NA or AA or counseling..anything to get him to understand what this disease is and is doing to him and now you. It is a family disease.
There's a couple of great books...I just can't remember the names of them....I'll email a friend and ask. My brain doesn't work as well as it use too.
I'm happy to hear that you're going to an alanon meeting today..you will get alot of information from them as well.
Cowgirl
There's a couple of great books...I just can't remember the names of them....I'll email a friend and ask. My brain doesn't work as well as it use too.
I'm happy to hear that you're going to an alanon meeting today..you will get alot of information from them as well.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl,
Wanted to let you know my son called this morning. He has 1,100 miles under his belt with another 2,000 to go. He mentioned going to AA with his girlfirend. Said he isn't sleeping much, last night he did get 2 hours so he was hoping to be able to drive till dark tonight. Said he isn't getting sick too often anymore, just has a bad stomach ache. Can't wait till he is here and safe. I sure enjoy reading this board, keeps me busy waiting on him to get here.
Mamaw
Wanted to let you know my son called this morning. He has 1,100 miles under his belt with another 2,000 to go. He mentioned going to AA with his girlfirend. Said he isn't sleeping much, last night he did get 2 hours so he was hoping to be able to drive till dark tonight. Said he isn't getting sick too often anymore, just has a bad stomach ache. Can't wait till he is here and safe. I sure enjoy reading this board, keeps me busy waiting on him to get here.
Mamaw
i never was welcomw at my huose, my mother and i but heads, to this day if she was alive i would camp in a campground in sub zero erather, she was one evil woman. i think she had a thing about the middle child and the not so perfect kid, but oh well , i have learned that it was just the way she was and i couldnt change her i could only change me and what a beautiful thing
terrianne
terrianne
Hey Jbr Have you tried acupuncture for the pain?
You would be suprised at the difference it makes.
I had Endometriosis a few years back and i knew that I would end up having surgery but asked for 6 months to try and get a cure on my own.
The acupuncture took all of the pain away, it was amazing.
Give it a try before commiting to the surgery, or even while you are waiting for the surgery date.
Really, it works.
Karen
You would be suprised at the difference it makes.
I had Endometriosis a few years back and i knew that I would end up having surgery but asked for 6 months to try and get a cure on my own.
The acupuncture took all of the pain away, it was amazing.
Give it a try before commiting to the surgery, or even while you are waiting for the surgery date.
Really, it works.
Karen
terrianne,
Sorry to hear you didn't get along with your mom, I am glad you moved on. My kids haven't been perfect and neither was I. I would do anything for them but this issue is something totally new for me. Not sure how to handle it. I am reading as much as possible and really enjoying reading on this site. I want to make sure that what I do is helping him and not hurting him. I just want him to know he is not alone.
Mamaw
Sorry to hear you didn't get along with your mom, I am glad you moved on. My kids haven't been perfect and neither was I. I would do anything for them but this issue is something totally new for me. Not sure how to handle it. I am reading as much as possible and really enjoying reading on this site. I want to make sure that what I do is helping him and not hurting him. I just want him to know he is not alone.
Mamaw
I am a recovering drug addict- clean 7.5 years. My Mom was dying from ALS and my little sister (M) was taking care of her at home (shes an LPN) Towards the end of my Mom's illness, my sister got into all her meds- oxycodone, ativan, morhine- then she got someone to prescribe percocet for her because she hurt her back. She has never been the same- she told of all our relatives and smashed up some of my parents things. She is ALWAYS angry and she made a mockery of my Mom;s funeral and of the last days of her life. She is so selfish and is now furious becaue (on her third trip via 911 for back pain) my other sister told the hospital and doctor that she has a history of drug abuse. WHen they wouldn't give her pills- she freaked out and verbally attacked my sis K for the third time in a week and threw her out of the house. I cant begin to tell you the pain she has put so manypeople through (many of them in their 70s and 80s). I dont want to her about her back pain and her anger and I'm tired of prople making excuses for her. My Mom has been dead 2 weeks, and now our family is in constant turmoil. But I'm sop lonely- I miss M the old M so much- is she going through withdrawal? She says she doesnt have a drug problem and she admits to smoking pot because it "keeps her away from crack". She almost od'd twice while my Mom was dying. I feel so bad for my Mom.
mmaw,
it topk me 35years to realise my mom did the best she knew how and that i learnes to exscept it, i was never ever going to change her no matter what, she believed in her heart that she was doing everything that was in her power to make our lives the way she invinsioned, ifinally came to grips that u was my own person and no matter how she tried to makwe us somthing that we took werever, i tearised, i was my own person and could do and think for me, as well as enjoy being me,i learned iy wasnt rockrt science abd i didnt have to over annalyse , over think and think yo hard about things that were very simple
terrianne
it topk me 35years to realise my mom did the best she knew how and that i learnes to exscept it, i was never ever going to change her no matter what, she believed in her heart that she was doing everything that was in her power to make our lives the way she invinsioned, ifinally came to grips that u was my own person and no matter how she tried to makwe us somthing that we took werever, i tearised, i was my own person and could do and think for me, as well as enjoy being me,i learned iy wasnt rockrt science abd i didnt have to over annalyse , over think and think yo hard about things that were very simple
terrianne
