Recently i have met this girl, who is, like everybody i seem to meet, on the gear. She injects in her groin uses both crack and heroin (all the same as i used to do)
The thing is, she is a lovely gurl an i think me an her could really be something -but the fact that she is on the gear is something that is worrying me. I have been doing it with her now for the past three days, an i dont want to do it again. I dont wanna habit again. I am on my meth an thats how i want it to stay.
I have to much to lose now. I dont want that life back.
I dont know how to go about telling her that i cant come round anymore without upsetting her. Anybody have ne ideas???
TINMAN ..
Alright Tinman? I was in the same situation a few months back. Age old story, boy meets girl, boy likes girl...girl uses gear. F***. Just be honest with her. You've used already, you will again you know you will. If she is doing it in front of you are you gonna be able to resist? no mate. You know what will happen....
Take it easy, Kev
Take it easy, Kev
Chris..aka Tman...the terms barge pole and not within ten feet spring to mind....if you continue to see her yer on yer way back to junkie central as you know only to well.She might be a nice girl but is it only the drugs ya have in commen and she sounds like a hardcore user..i.e not someone like you who is concerned with there recovery.
Remember how you told us how well you were getting on with yer drug tests ...well thats not gonna continue...is it???if you hang about with this lady...if you do develop a relationship whats gonna be the outcome in the long run...maybe you back inside or the two of you strung out...im just playing devils advocate but with hardcore use only the worst poss.scernarios crop up.....and how bout yer boy ....after seeing the pics i know he needs his Dad bigtime....are you willing to give all that up for someone who could f*** up all the good you have done.Hope not mate....sorry i couldnt sound more enchouraging but thats how i see it ....drop her mate its in yer best interests in the end.ATB......Davey
Remember how you told us how well you were getting on with yer drug tests ...well thats not gonna continue...is it???if you hang about with this lady...if you do develop a relationship whats gonna be the outcome in the long run...maybe you back inside or the two of you strung out...im just playing devils advocate but with hardcore use only the worst poss.scernarios crop up.....and how bout yer boy ....after seeing the pics i know he needs his Dad bigtime....are you willing to give all that up for someone who could f*** up all the good you have done.Hope not mate....sorry i couldnt sound more enchouraging but thats how i see it ....drop her mate its in yer best interests in the end.ATB......Davey
Alrite our ..Kev i was gonna mention yer relationship with Clare as an example ..but you beat me to it....hows things on that front anyhow???from were i stand folks are going thru the mill will there b/f ..g/f...just look at Diff and that coward of a fella shes got.Also we seem to come from similar family backgrounds..i.e abusive wife beating alco Dads....i think theres a deffo link btwn that and our drug use and thats not an excuse ...just a sad fact.Anyhow footie tomm.hope ya do terribly....take care mukka...........Davey
Davey all is well. As far as the H is concerned the only time i've noticed that she was stoned was the other night, she denied it but i know she was. Apart from that things couldn't be better.
Tinman, you have got too much to lose like Davey said. I stayed with the girl i was seeing as she was doing something about her habit and i really thought she was 100% serious about it. Now, well i just don't know. BUT,every morning i take my naltrexone so even if i wanted to (which i don't) have a smoke i couldn't.
Peace, Kev
Tinman, you have got too much to lose like Davey said. I stayed with the girl i was seeing as she was doing something about her habit and i really thought she was 100% serious about it. Now, well i just don't know. BUT,every morning i take my naltrexone so even if i wanted to (which i don't) have a smoke i couldn't.
Peace, Kev
Kev...mate sorry to hear shes not clean ...o.k she might just be having the odd smoke but its enuff to turn you away isnt it?As ive said before Kev yer strong and focused(apart from bath times lol)about yer recovery you think of you ...which to someone who hasnt experienced heroin addiction may find coarse...but its a necessary coping tool to stay clean no.1 rule stay away from addicts you get that much further away from the drugs.....fairplay to ya Kev....catchya later and we can have some footie banter tomm.ATB.......Davey
I would just like to say contrary to what Mr Riley said i still get my weekly bath.... use soap and everything ;)
Davey, it's so unattractive when she is high, not nice at all. At the end of the day i'm not her dad, it's her life. I don't want to see her go down that road we all know, but i've tried...she didn't listen. I will end up disliking her, i know i will as i don't go near any of my old mates when they are high as i don't like it, so i'm not away to sit with her ( and the rest) when she is. We're going away tom for a few days so i'll speak to her then. I enjoy being with her n that, but i don't like being around people when they're stoned...reminds me of the old me.... Peace, Kev
Davey, it's so unattractive when she is high, not nice at all. At the end of the day i'm not her dad, it's her life. I don't want to see her go down that road we all know, but i've tried...she didn't listen. I will end up disliking her, i know i will as i don't go near any of my old mates when they are high as i don't like it, so i'm not away to sit with her ( and the rest) when she is. We're going away tom for a few days so i'll speak to her then. I enjoy being with her n that, but i don't like being around people when they're stoned...reminds me of the old me.... Peace, Kev
I would just like to say contrary to Mr.Gardiner that im in no way related or connected to Mavis Riley of Coranation St.fame....im the more Celtic spelling of the surname....whats this soap stuff Kev....a few pebbles usually gets the grime off over here.Later alligator.........Davey
Tinman - Think about your little fella...things seem to be going so well for you...listen to these smart folks and run fast and far - plenty of ladies out there NOT shooting into their groins, plenty. You are asking questions that you already know the answer to.
Peace and clarity~MomNMore
Peace and clarity~MomNMore
I did not read any reply's to this. I wanted to say my experience with a situation just like this. When i met Mike "my ex" he was fresh outta jail 8 months clean. I was deep into my addiction. I got him using again "sigh". It was a mess. We screwed each other over to the fullest. I got on methadone left him, i just moved out, was homeless. He never got clean...... now he's in prison doing 3-5 years. He had been a h addict for years before we hooked up but, yes i am the one who got him using again once he got clean. It was such a emotional relationship we were so crappy to each other. It was just stupid for all involved we both walked away worse off. I totally see the situation ending like this for you.
We cared a lot about eachother we kept stealing from each other lying eventually hiding to do our dope alone. Being dope sick together was awful. Most of the worst thing things i did for H i did with him. It was a sick relationship. I do still love this guy i left him to get clean get my kids back. I'm sorry for the needless trouble the whole mess caused to a lot of people.
IF YOU WANT TO BE CLEAN IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN IF SHE'S USING. I left him because he stole my methadone dose money. You can't have a relationship with a addict.
We cared a lot about eachother we kept stealing from each other lying eventually hiding to do our dope alone. Being dope sick together was awful. Most of the worst thing things i did for H i did with him. It was a sick relationship. I do still love this guy i left him to get clean get my kids back. I'm sorry for the needless trouble the whole mess caused to a lot of people.
IF YOU WANT TO BE CLEAN IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN IF SHE'S USING. I left him because he stole my methadone dose money. You can't have a relationship with a addict.
Just glad to see our Tinney post....know he's alive.
If I was with somebody right now even that I knew was using I know I'd be using.
An addict in full addiction will get us high quicker than we'd get them clean.
Well, however they say that.
If I was with somebody right now even that I knew was using I know I'd be using.
An addict in full addiction will get us high quicker than we'd get them clean.
Well, however they say that.
Bryn you're so right as usual. I remember way back, me and my ex were on our scripts and managing to stay away from the gear and had been coping alright for quite a few weeks. Then one our using buddies rang us up and said he was off the gear, and fancied meeting up for a drink. So we went to this pub, he brought a girl with him, she'd never been into drugs. Within about half an hour we'd talked each other into scoring, he dumped the girl without a backward glance, and we all went off to get loaded. You just can't afford to be near addicts when you're trying to get clean. And once you've got clean and got some time under your belt, you never ever want to go near them again. I go out of my way to avoid my ex buddies. I cross the street to avoid talking to them, and I certainly wouldn't ever shag one of them!!!
love
Diff x
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Diff x
I love the way you word things Diff!
I was just gonna say what Mom did...there are plenty of girls that you could have a great relationship with...it's a big ol' world. And in response to how are you gonna tell her without hurting her? Look after yourself, mate. She'll get over it...but it could mess you up bad if you don't do what you know you gotta do.
Good luck. It's never easy, but you sound strong and resolved.
All the best, Maddy x
I was just gonna say what Mom did...there are plenty of girls that you could have a great relationship with...it's a big ol' world. And in response to how are you gonna tell her without hurting her? Look after yourself, mate. She'll get over it...but it could mess you up bad if you don't do what you know you gotta do.
Good luck. It's never easy, but you sound strong and resolved.
All the best, Maddy x
Relapse happens long before the drug goes into your body. Stop and think about it. You know that you will relapse if you hang with this girl. I know that I certainly couldn't be around anyone that is using.
However you are romanticizing the thoughts of getting high....let reality seep in and you will see the real reality.
You and her strung out.....sick....looking for money.....getting it in any means possible. Let the cycle begin.
Tell her the truth...just what you said here. That you really dig her and think that there is a chance you and her could really hang. Tell her that you can't see her or jeopordize your recovery. Tell her that you care enough about her that you want to see the REAL her. When she is clean.....the two of you can hang.
Keep your distance and tell her why you have to keep your distance. She will ultimately respect you for it.
Good luck....and keep fighting for your recovery. It's great that you posted about what you are thinking. We can try to talk you out of it. It's that honesty that will keep you from going back to HELL.
Hugs
However you are romanticizing the thoughts of getting high....let reality seep in and you will see the real reality.
You and her strung out.....sick....looking for money.....getting it in any means possible. Let the cycle begin.
Tell her the truth...just what you said here. That you really dig her and think that there is a chance you and her could really hang. Tell her that you can't see her or jeopordize your recovery. Tell her that you care enough about her that you want to see the REAL her. When she is clean.....the two of you can hang.
Keep your distance and tell her why you have to keep your distance. She will ultimately respect you for it.
Good luck....and keep fighting for your recovery. It's great that you posted about what you are thinking. We can try to talk you out of it. It's that honesty that will keep you from going back to HELL.
Hugs
The demon of addiction comes in many different forms--even in the form of a pretty girl--put a p**** and a beard on her and then see how much you care about hurting her feelings--does she care about you--NOPE--she cares about the dope--she may like your company, but as soon as you have no cash or no car or no-whatever you have--she will be gone-not to say shes a bad person, but shes in her addiction--you know this--sorry for the harshness--but i have yet to see something like this work out--the odds are NOT in your avor --quit the girl now beofre its too late--yo deserve better
..Theres always things that come along that test us and trigger thoughts and this is one of them for ya..the devil in disguise springs to mind..theres pleny of women out there tin if ya looking for a realationship that will offer you more in life than a bitta gear ?..Robbie..
I agree....look for a women that isn't stabbing a needle in her groin!
She is miss lovey dovey for now....as soon as the cash and or dope runs out...so does she!
Just a quick question....you said you used a couple of times in her company right. Did you pay for the dope?
That's not to say that you you are not a great person you probably are...she doesn't care about that. She is in active addiction!
Hi Robbie...no time no talk. You helped so much and were so kind to me when I first came here. So good to see you again. How are you? How is that son of yours? Getting Big I bet!
Hugs.....kee kee
She is miss lovey dovey for now....as soon as the cash and or dope runs out...so does she!
Just a quick question....you said you used a couple of times in her company right. Did you pay for the dope?
That's not to say that you you are not a great person you probably are...she doesn't care about that. She is in active addiction!
Hi Robbie...no time no talk. You helped so much and were so kind to me when I first came here. So good to see you again. How are you? How is that son of yours? Getting Big I bet!
Hugs.....kee kee
..Alrite Kee Kee..
..Long time for sure..hows things with ya ?..yeh charleys doing real well thxs..just getting along in life as kids do..i don't get no drama from him really, just the usual kid stuff but he's cool..im so so, have me good n bad days but don't we all..hope all is well n good with ya and lifes treating ya ok ?..thxs for the shout and take care..Robbie..
..Long time for sure..hows things with ya ?..yeh charleys doing real well thxs..just getting along in life as kids do..i don't get no drama from him really, just the usual kid stuff but he's cool..im so so, have me good n bad days but don't we all..hope all is well n good with ya and lifes treating ya ok ?..thxs for the shout and take care..Robbie..
Oh that is just such good news Robbie. You sound so good. I don't know if you remember...but way back when I first found this site I was going to get on methadone and you really really helped me.
I didn't go on thank god...I changed my mind after 3 days. But I will never forget how you encouraged me and comforted me and didn't judge me!
Big Hugs Robbie...and stay sweet!
I didn't go on thank god...I changed my mind after 3 days. But I will never forget how you encouraged me and comforted me and didn't judge me!
Big Hugs Robbie...and stay sweet!
Now, where the heck is Tinman? He needs to read all our brilliant posts.
Tinney where ya at, son?
Tinney where ya at, son?
