I found out today that some ifo.pertaining to the inheritance from my mom(that I blew) was supposed to be reported to a certain Govt. ageny..my mom's lawyer said that because it was a beneficiary thing..it did not apply..guess she was wrong...I was contacted today re: tax info(complicated)..bottom line..I could go to jail for fraud!! I went straight up to the office to tell them the truth and had to acount for the $$ I spent..I couldn't stop cying..I was so humiliated..had to explain my stupid, vain plastic surgery and the addiction..detox and 1000's I spent on oxy..so embarrassing..the gentleman was not real sympathetic, and told me I was supposed to report it as income..I honestly thought it was exempt..I need the medical insurance, especially now..I have too much pain to work full-time.To make matters worse, I came home and took 2 pain pills..I feel like a loser...he said the fact that I told him the truth and will get him doumentation keeps me from sentencing..just lose all my benefits...Tony is livid..he cannot afford my medical bills..I am so lost..called my Dr. and lost it..asked him what the hell he did do me during that colonoscopy that made me go into a non-stop flare.I told him I took 2 pills(abuse) and he said I might have to resign myself to the fact that I will always be an addict...one way or another.It cut like a knife.I don't want to take these for pain, and now I've gone and turned to them out of emotional pain(old behaviors) I cannot get a grip..scared....Love,S
Oh Sweety try not to beat yourself up too much.You had some crappy news & fell back into an old habit.Did you need the pills or did you just not want to deal with the tax thing?If it is because you had real pain than really forgive yourself.If you took them just to try to comfort yourself I guess you can see that it back fired & you feel worse.So now my question to you is what can you do to fix this?Please know if you need to talk well Im here ....mj
Sharonn, I thought the law was that up to $250,000 was tax exempt...hope i'm right...and so sorry that you are still suffering pain
I am in pain, but it's ONE every 4 hours..not 2 cause I messed up.If I hadn't had the surgery I would not have gotten back on the pain pill carousel..Tony is so angry at me for not telling him all this and keeps bringing up the fact taht I blew all my $$ (no kidding)...I feel bad enough..I came clean, told the truth, and now I MUST concentrate on getting well enough to work..this pain cannot last forever..I cannot afford the R-Gist now...my sisters are gloating over how I screwed my life up..no self-esteem...bottom line.I'm not going to jail..I just got scared and if I hadn't been high all those months, maybe I would have thought about legal isues..another lesson learned. Drugs ruin lives.
Sharon..why would you lose your medical benefits?
Did you take the pills for pain or because you were trying to numb out from the emotional stuff?
Either way, you do have to get a grip. Life is going to throw us hard balls once and awhile and we can't use to get through it. You're never going to have the perfect day...you have to figure out a way to deal with this crap when it comes up. Ok, you made a mistake on the money, but taking the pills isn't going to make that go away (I know you know that). Are you doing anything besides this board for your recovery?
I honestly don't know what you're feeling because I've never experienced your kind of chronic pain..and I don't know how you do it. I'm such a wuss that I don't know that I could NOT take meds for it. You're in between a rock and a hard place and only you know what you can do.
Breathe. Lots of deep breaths.
XXX
Lisa
Did you take the pills for pain or because you were trying to numb out from the emotional stuff?
Either way, you do have to get a grip. Life is going to throw us hard balls once and awhile and we can't use to get through it. You're never going to have the perfect day...you have to figure out a way to deal with this crap when it comes up. Ok, you made a mistake on the money, but taking the pills isn't going to make that go away (I know you know that). Are you doing anything besides this board for your recovery?
I honestly don't know what you're feeling because I've never experienced your kind of chronic pain..and I don't know how you do it. I'm such a wuss that I don't know that I could NOT take meds for it. You're in between a rock and a hard place and only you know what you can do.
Breathe. Lots of deep breaths.
XXX
Lisa
Sharon I agree you are having a ruff row right now & its hard to remember that life comes in waves.Up times & down times.Ok so you already took the pills,have they helped the pain at all?
I know it may not seem like it right now but things will work out.As far as Tony making you feel bad thats just not fair to you right now.Yup you know what mistakes youve made you dont need a remind.Try to stay strong & keep posting,its better than holding all that garbage in....mj
I know it may not seem like it right now but things will work out.As far as Tony making you feel bad thats just not fair to you right now.Yup you know what mistakes youve made you dont need a remind.Try to stay strong & keep posting,its better than holding all that garbage in....mj
I think that's what they mean by cleaning up the wreckage of our past.....
I just feel like I am losing control of my life..being sober made me feel good...now I have this pain in my hands and feet mostly, but at night it's my legs and sometimes my face..typical Lupus flare..but it doesn't want to stop.I need to get a grip...I should have reported the money and not taken the advice of an attorney who knows nothing..hopefully I will not be penalized too severely..maybe if I felt better I could cope...tomorrow is another day...thanks,S
OK I know I risk sounding like a dweeb but we love you Sharon & your right tomarrow is another day.Take Care....mj
Janet, nope on the 250k, or at least here in Florida you have to report any and all inheritance............Trust me, been there and done that too. Gosh, it so sucks but hey, Mr. Tax Man is gonna get his money, one way or another.
Sharonn, I don't think that you can go to jail for this one. You just have to pay the back taxes on the money, honey. The IRS will work out a payment plan for you. At least here in Florida they will. Now, pick your butt up and get back in the saddle. This is just money and insurance we are talking about. Get over it ! These things are materialistic and you can always buy some more health insurance before your old policy cancels or you can just get treated as an indigent patient, that'll work too........the hospital will write off your medical bills if you say you are indigent and if you have no job and you spent all of your inheritance. Now, if these are the facts, then I say you qualify. Take Care.
Sharonn, I don't think that you can go to jail for this one. You just have to pay the back taxes on the money, honey. The IRS will work out a payment plan for you. At least here in Florida they will. Now, pick your butt up and get back in the saddle. This is just money and insurance we are talking about. Get over it ! These things are materialistic and you can always buy some more health insurance before your old policy cancels or you can just get treated as an indigent patient, that'll work too........the hospital will write off your medical bills if you say you are indigent and if you have no job and you spent all of your inheritance. Now, if these are the facts, then I say you qualify. Take Care.
Why are you losing your health insurance?
The IRS will work with you . Do you not have an accountant?
The pills? Only you know Sharon but you cannot run away from life.
Jeff
The IRS will work with you . Do you not have an accountant?
The pills? Only you know Sharon but you cannot run away from life.
Jeff
Sweetie;
You had a day of hell!!! I would be crying, too. That attorney should have to eat his mistakes but I know they don't do S*** - I like attorneys about as much as I like some doctors. All I know is life ins. money is not tax deductible and lawsuit proceeds are not - straight out inheritence is - but you said you're not going to jail.
That's the part I would try and find comforting. I don't even want you to be going to prison and they will work with you.
Maybe even reduce if that crappy attorney will write a letter admitting that he mis-informed you regarding your inheretance - I know the IRS will get theirs but make it as easy on yourself as possible. Blamed lawyers - I want to say %$%^^%$^&%^% lawyers.
Got your message, I was on the computer for less than 5 minutes just to check to see if Max had any votes and missed you.
I will be home tonight, I only slept one hour this morning, up all night. Didn't hurt , don't know why I do that sometimes. So, I'm feeling just kind of crazy from lack of sleep right now.
My son and his g'friend will be in the den tonight - I told him to get me if you called and I was just in the BR - to open the door and make sure I'm not asleep. I'm going to try my best to hold out 'til you call.
It makes me so mad and it makes me feel bad for you - you can spend your money how you want - I know the drugs, you wouldn't spend the money on those now, but THAT IS THE PAST - look ahead - That's the old story of we didn't want to be addicts when we grew up. You wouldn't have spent the money on drugs had you not been an addioct - a disease we all have had and spent money on drugs, lots of money for the pills, for doctor shopping, not using my drug card so I could get some from another pharmacy.
Your plastic surgery, also your business. If it made you feel better - your money. I had a reduction, that's new to the board. haha - I'm sure e'one thought I had told it all but when you are 5' 2" tall, you don't even want to have what Dolly Parton has. That's why I got half of them taken off about 10 years ago, but the insurance paid for it b/c of the OA in my back. It was a total of over $40,000 - DRS, hospital, all the extra bills they send but I ended up paying only $6,000.
I did it b/c they are goign to make you look fat when you are as short as I am - doesn't matter what I weigh. I didn't even ask David, I told him b/c I was excited - I wasn't on the Lortabs when I had this done so I didn't have major surgery to get pills - they sent me 12 Lortabs home and I took 3 - I wouldn't have remembered that if I wasn't as addict. Women would ask me, what did your husband say? I said, nothing, I just told him that he needed to take the day off the day of my surgery.
The darn things are growing back but was not a really painful surgery - just uncomfortable - and I want no more surgery unless life threatening. I'll just carry them around - haha - the men are thinking I'm crude about now - I'll stop.
So just start thinking that you can think for yourself. You have made some mistakes, everyone on this board has made mistakes, and then we move on. We will make more, we may relapse, I hope and pray we don't unless it's due to severe pain.This is not the day to tell you this but tomorrow is another day. I'll say to look on the brighter side tomorrow. I would just be thrilled I wasn't going to prison, that would be enough for me to jump up and down.
Hope to finally talk with you tonight,
Love you, Take care of yourself, and give yourself a break.
Jean
You had a day of hell!!! I would be crying, too. That attorney should have to eat his mistakes but I know they don't do S*** - I like attorneys about as much as I like some doctors. All I know is life ins. money is not tax deductible and lawsuit proceeds are not - straight out inheritence is - but you said you're not going to jail.
That's the part I would try and find comforting. I don't even want you to be going to prison and they will work with you.
Maybe even reduce if that crappy attorney will write a letter admitting that he mis-informed you regarding your inheretance - I know the IRS will get theirs but make it as easy on yourself as possible. Blamed lawyers - I want to say %$%^^%$^&%^% lawyers.
Got your message, I was on the computer for less than 5 minutes just to check to see if Max had any votes and missed you.
I will be home tonight, I only slept one hour this morning, up all night. Didn't hurt , don't know why I do that sometimes. So, I'm feeling just kind of crazy from lack of sleep right now.
My son and his g'friend will be in the den tonight - I told him to get me if you called and I was just in the BR - to open the door and make sure I'm not asleep. I'm going to try my best to hold out 'til you call.
It makes me so mad and it makes me feel bad for you - you can spend your money how you want - I know the drugs, you wouldn't spend the money on those now, but THAT IS THE PAST - look ahead - That's the old story of we didn't want to be addicts when we grew up. You wouldn't have spent the money on drugs had you not been an addioct - a disease we all have had and spent money on drugs, lots of money for the pills, for doctor shopping, not using my drug card so I could get some from another pharmacy.
Your plastic surgery, also your business. If it made you feel better - your money. I had a reduction, that's new to the board. haha - I'm sure e'one thought I had told it all but when you are 5' 2" tall, you don't even want to have what Dolly Parton has. That's why I got half of them taken off about 10 years ago, but the insurance paid for it b/c of the OA in my back. It was a total of over $40,000 - DRS, hospital, all the extra bills they send but I ended up paying only $6,000.
I did it b/c they are goign to make you look fat when you are as short as I am - doesn't matter what I weigh. I didn't even ask David, I told him b/c I was excited - I wasn't on the Lortabs when I had this done so I didn't have major surgery to get pills - they sent me 12 Lortabs home and I took 3 - I wouldn't have remembered that if I wasn't as addict. Women would ask me, what did your husband say? I said, nothing, I just told him that he needed to take the day off the day of my surgery.
The darn things are growing back but was not a really painful surgery - just uncomfortable - and I want no more surgery unless life threatening. I'll just carry them around - haha - the men are thinking I'm crude about now - I'll stop.
So just start thinking that you can think for yourself. You have made some mistakes, everyone on this board has made mistakes, and then we move on. We will make more, we may relapse, I hope and pray we don't unless it's due to severe pain.This is not the day to tell you this but tomorrow is another day. I'll say to look on the brighter side tomorrow. I would just be thrilled I wasn't going to prison, that would be enough for me to jump up and down.
Hope to finally talk with you tonight,
Love you, Take care of yourself, and give yourself a break.
Jean
Jean 250,000 is a lot of money. People who are not used to handling large sums of money tend to screw up.
Blaming a lawyer is incorrect. We addicts always look to blame. Sharon hopefully learned a valuable lesson.
Sharon seek an accountant out. He/She may be able to help reduce the amount of tax you owe. You probably have writeoffs you are not aware of.
7.5 % of what you make gross I believe anything more medical is tax deductable. Like 48 cents a mile for car usage. Back in forth to doc appt clinics etc. MANY writeoffs seek an accountant.
Sharon you have no idea how many things aretax deductable.
Good Luck--Jeff
Blaming a lawyer is incorrect. We addicts always look to blame. Sharon hopefully learned a valuable lesson.
Sharon seek an accountant out. He/She may be able to help reduce the amount of tax you owe. You probably have writeoffs you are not aware of.
7.5 % of what you make gross I believe anything more medical is tax deductable. Like 48 cents a mile for car usage. Back in forth to doc appt clinics etc. MANY writeoffs seek an accountant.
Sharon you have no idea how many things aretax deductable.
Good Luck--Jeff
I agree, i have an accountant who writes everything possible off, being self-employed i also write off the cost of health insurance and all my dr and med bills...makes a big difference
Hey Janet, I love the new avitar...........
Jean, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but money awarded in a lawsuit is taxable, the key here is how the suit and award is worded, ie....punitive damages, sexual harrassment. In Florida, they tax awards just like they were wages unless your attorney has the wording down to a tee. Trust me, been there and done that one too............
Jean, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but money awarded in a lawsuit is taxable, the key here is how the suit and award is worded, ie....punitive damages, sexual harrassment. In Florida, they tax awards just like they were wages unless your attorney has the wording down to a tee. Trust me, been there and done that one too............
Guys..this wasn't a tax issue..don't wish to go into details..re: disability..I messed up..BTW pain or no pain..I felt better mentally w/o pills..all they do is make everything worse..never solve a thing..maybe I should just take the pain..at least I won't have to deal with the fear of addiction..like cowgirl said(stuck in my head).."What if you were allergic to them"..then you have no choice..a rock and a hard place all right..when you have surgery..you know the pain will end..when you have chronic pain..you don't feel the same about pain meds..I am not ready to committ to a lifelong committment to narcotics...oh...no!!!!!!! Yes, I have legitimate reasons..but mentally I still feel I should fight for my sobriety.Thanks MJ for your sweet words..it really does help...Love,S
Sharon,
The best way to handle your problems, in my book is to face them head on. Your health comes first because without it all the problems are moot. Then you get a good attorney and work out a plan, the I R S will work with you. If you cant afford one then see if there is Legal Aide where you live and if you need ins and cant afford it then there is Medicaid, dont feel too proud when it comes to your health. As far as other people and family members talking about you, dont worry because if they dont pay your bills then you dont owe them answers..I work in a Catholic hospital on Long Island and they dont turn anyone away in fact they help you get the help you need, Medicaid etc......So hang in and this to shall pass!!! All the Best.Shel
The best way to handle your problems, in my book is to face them head on. Your health comes first because without it all the problems are moot. Then you get a good attorney and work out a plan, the I R S will work with you. If you cant afford one then see if there is Legal Aide where you live and if you need ins and cant afford it then there is Medicaid, dont feel too proud when it comes to your health. As far as other people and family members talking about you, dont worry because if they dont pay your bills then you dont owe them answers..I work in a Catholic hospital on Long Island and they dont turn anyone away in fact they help you get the help you need, Medicaid etc......So hang in and this to shall pass!!! All the Best.Shel
Sharon doll, you answered your own question...you feel better without the pills.
Don't overthink this and make it harder than it has to be.
Keep it simple.
Love
Lisa
Don't overthink this and make it harder than it has to be.
Keep it simple.
Love
Lisa
Cowgirl, I can always count on you to tell the truth..thank you..there was a time I did not want to hear it..but I'm glad I do now..I will get through this flare and you are my witnesses..right now I am "taking to my bed" as they say..enough burnout for one day..tomorrow is a new day..new hope....Love,S
We get to start over every day. It's a clean slate.
Sleep well tonight Sharon. I'll be thinking about you.
Cowgirl
Sleep well tonight Sharon. I'll be thinking about you.
Cowgirl
