When I was using, No one knew but my husband.
He was addicted to xanaxa and able to get off them
by himself. He has been so supportive and my rock.
He has told me lately (when I take pills) you are addicted to
that. Now I talking about Benadrly or Sudafed. He
just know told he thinks I am addicted to mortin.
WTF !!! He just left cause he mad. He also just told
me that I am still keeping things from and lying. I promised
myself and him when I started this treatment that I would be
honest. I have kept that promise. He keep's throwing it my
face examples of things I did when I was using. I JUST DO NOT
GET IT. How could he be so supportive one min then be the total
opposite the next. I have not kept one secret from him. I am
so upset, I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK!
Marina - Pass this on to him...
I am a pharmacist and Benadryl, Motrin, and Pseudophed are not addictive medicines.
I am a pharmacist and Benadryl, Motrin, and Pseudophed are not addictive medicines.
Marina he probably just needs some time to adjust. He might feel betrayed at times from what you did in the past and maybe he's having a bad day. Give him some time, I think before you mentioned that he had pills in front of you and later he realized he was wrong. Maybe he's dealing with his own issues right now and just took it out on you. Remember men are slow learners.
Things will get better
JohnDee
Things will get better
JohnDee
I think in a way he his jealous of this board and the Dr.'s
He pretty much admitted it "they know more about you
than I do"
He pretty much admitted it "they know more about you
than I do"
Hey Marina,
I am sorry that you are going through this.....was wondering in all that has been going on has he looked into alanon.....I am going to put in the link to the site for you to show him....it is on-line. He needs to know how to deal with all this himself and jumping on you is not the way for him to cope.....It is different, he may think that everytime you take any pill you could get drawn back in to it all. I know you have been honest.....just try to stay calm, and don't let this effect your recovery.....I wasn't happy at first about the sub for the hubby because I saw it as a cop out and I told him so.....But that was so unfair of me....I see his pain but I think hey live with it.......wrong......now I know his pain his body not mine don't get involved with his recovery....he has to do it for himself and how the way he feels is right for him......
You take care...
Hugs,
Tina
BTW, there is an on-line meeting at 9 tonight, I will be there, maybe he will be willing to check it out......but omeone is usually there and will help if someone needs it!
http://groups.msn.com/Alanon/_whatsnew.msnw
I am sorry that you are going through this.....was wondering in all that has been going on has he looked into alanon.....I am going to put in the link to the site for you to show him....it is on-line. He needs to know how to deal with all this himself and jumping on you is not the way for him to cope.....It is different, he may think that everytime you take any pill you could get drawn back in to it all. I know you have been honest.....just try to stay calm, and don't let this effect your recovery.....I wasn't happy at first about the sub for the hubby because I saw it as a cop out and I told him so.....But that was so unfair of me....I see his pain but I think hey live with it.......wrong......now I know his pain his body not mine don't get involved with his recovery....he has to do it for himself and how the way he feels is right for him......
You take care...
Hugs,
Tina
BTW, there is an on-line meeting at 9 tonight, I will be there, maybe he will be willing to check it out......but omeone is usually there and will help if someone needs it!
http://groups.msn.com/Alanon/_whatsnew.msnw
Marina, your post could have been written by ME!!!
Since I got off of the pain pills, I've suffered with a runny nose and congestion and have been taking Sudafed once a day (I do take it for that morning pick-me-up, too).
Yesterday, my husband told me "You need to tell your therapist that you're taking Sudafed now; it's not normal to take it every day."
It is a non-habit forming, sinus medicine that even children can take.... I know I have an addictive personality and taking it for energy in the morning is probably a little strange to some people (most people I know say it doesn't do anything to them), but come on.... He used to take Ripped Fuel every morning and drink a cup of coffee.... It's the same thing!
I know that's the price I pay for being an addict, but sometimes I regret coming clean with him. I know he means well and has been incredibly supportive, but pretty soon I'm scared he's going to become a drug-cop and start hiding the ambien, the tylenol, etc
Since I got off of the pain pills, I've suffered with a runny nose and congestion and have been taking Sudafed once a day (I do take it for that morning pick-me-up, too).
Yesterday, my husband told me "You need to tell your therapist that you're taking Sudafed now; it's not normal to take it every day."
It is a non-habit forming, sinus medicine that even children can take.... I know I have an addictive personality and taking it for energy in the morning is probably a little strange to some people (most people I know say it doesn't do anything to them), but come on.... He used to take Ripped Fuel every morning and drink a cup of coffee.... It's the same thing!
I know that's the price I pay for being an addict, but sometimes I regret coming clean with him. I know he means well and has been incredibly supportive, but pretty soon I'm scared he's going to become a drug-cop and start hiding the ambien, the tylenol, etc
Example: My sister's boyfriend was making a drive from New Orleans to Atlanta (about 9 hrs) and he was leaving at 1 in the morning... He bought me Red Bull and asked me for advice on how to stay awake (then proceeded to ask me if I knew anyone at work with any coke...laughed when he said it, but was serious, too). I gave him 2 sinus pills and told him they were time released, so he should be fine for the 9 hrs.....
Two days later, my husband mentioned that my sister's friend even made a comment about me always taking pills for one thing or another. He said, "Yeah, he mentioned how you gave him two sinus pills to stay awake and how he thinks it's a problem that you are always taking this thing or that thing..."
I started laughing and told my husband, "Wait a second.... Did he also tell you he asked me for coke???"
(No, this guy is not an addict but he is a recreational user.... He will go months without doing anything, but has nothing against partying or doing drugs every now and then. I never saw anything wrong with that, but talk about the pot and the kettle...)
Two days later, my husband mentioned that my sister's friend even made a comment about me always taking pills for one thing or another. He said, "Yeah, he mentioned how you gave him two sinus pills to stay awake and how he thinks it's a problem that you are always taking this thing or that thing..."
I started laughing and told my husband, "Wait a second.... Did he also tell you he asked me for coke???"
(No, this guy is not an addict but he is a recreational user.... He will go months without doing anything, but has nothing against partying or doing drugs every now and then. I never saw anything wrong with that, but talk about the pot and the kettle...)
Yeah, when he got home last night he pretty much said he was completely in the wrong
and he was sorry. It could have been the beer talking too. He also said that he would
join the family board witch is good. I just wonder if he will really join, and get
the help he needs
and he was sorry. It could have been the beer talking too. He also said that he would
join the family board witch is good. I just wonder if he will really join, and get
the help he needs
Sweet Marina,even my awesome man has moments when he feels threaten by the board.Than he snaps out of it and goes back to being my physical support.Could it be that your man is scared that if you get better you won't need him as much.Men can be bigger babies than our children....mj
Molly
I never tought of it that way. That gives me somthing to
really think about.
I never tought of it that way. That gives me somthing to
really think about.
Marina you are very sweet and if I can help in anyway you should know by now I will.Everybody here is on your side.So if you need to chat I'm always around(Yup I don't have a life)hehe...mj
Morning Marina.......
I am glad things got better...I will send all my thoughts in an e-mail later.......having a tea party...lol
Hugs,
Tina
I am glad things got better...I will send all my thoughts in an e-mail later.......having a tea party...lol
Hugs,
Tina
Even though those meds are not physically addicting, they can be mentally. As addicts we do everything in extreme and taking a cold medicine every day for reasons other than a cold (most don't have a cold for more than a couple of days) is addictive behavior and very destructive to your recovery. You are continuing behaviors that will lead to using again. Using any medication to alter your mind is an addictive behavior. You're body needs time to heal and to adjust, could take up to a year. Don't throw more crap into it, it will only prolong your healing.
Cowgirl
Cowgirl
I agree with you cowgirl, but with me I am not taking them every day.
It doesn't matter sometimes even if I take Motrin for a headache he see it as abusing.
I don't think that is right. Just because I am an addict to pain pills, I ask him does that mean I should have to wear that label with everything (in moderation)
I even asked him "if I have a glass of wine on New Year's Eve, does that now make me an alcoholic?" He said no, but maybe
It doesn't matter sometimes even if I take Motrin for a headache he see it as abusing.
I don't think that is right. Just because I am an addict to pain pills, I ask him does that mean I should have to wear that label with everything (in moderation)
I even asked him "if I have a glass of wine on New Year's Eve, does that now make me an alcoholic?" He said no, but maybe
Marina... any chemical is poison to you now. Alcohol included. I have never had a problem with booze, don't like the taste of it but I know that if I started having a drink here and there, eventually it would become my replacement drug. Our minds are so programed to not "feel", that we are constantly looking for something to numb us.
My husband has a hard time with that label thing..he likes to think that I'm cured because, oh no, not my wife.... you get my meaning. If you take motrin as directed, you're safe. Just remember to let your body heal..it'll take some time and yes, you will be uncomfortable once and awhile but is it really better living through chemicals? I don't think our bodies were designed to take all of the crap we put in it and eventually the body starts to rebel and we get sick. Your boyfriend sounds like he just wants whats best for you and he's scared and ignorant, a deadly combination in men. Help him understand. He deserves that.
Cowgirl
My husband has a hard time with that label thing..he likes to think that I'm cured because, oh no, not my wife.... you get my meaning. If you take motrin as directed, you're safe. Just remember to let your body heal..it'll take some time and yes, you will be uncomfortable once and awhile but is it really better living through chemicals? I don't think our bodies were designed to take all of the crap we put in it and eventually the body starts to rebel and we get sick. Your boyfriend sounds like he just wants whats best for you and he's scared and ignorant, a deadly combination in men. Help him understand. He deserves that.
Cowgirl
cowgirl how in the world do you stay as mentally strong as you do.You really amaze me...mj
Hi MJ..how are things with you these days? How are feeling? What are you doing about recovery? Hope you had a wonderful holiday...
Love
Cowgirl
Love
Cowgirl
Well cowgirl for one I've been reading your post about your dad.My heart was so heavy for you and I think I wrote to you somewhere this morning on that.As for my recovery I know it may not seem like much but I am finally down to 9.Thats alot better than 16.If you read through youll find a post about pain issues so that can pretty much let you know where Im at.So I hope all is well for you....mj
Marina, I have a funny story that might cheer you up...
I had this a** of a roommate..he was a sober drunk, but thought aa was for idiots..
well, one day, I came home and he had thrown away all my vitamins and meds..not the narcotics, actual prescriptions, and my kids vitamins..
he said I need to get rid of ALL TABLETS..
I was so damn pissed...the last I heard, you can't get addicted to vitamin c and e....
He is no longer my roommate....hehe..
kerry
I had this a** of a roommate..he was a sober drunk, but thought aa was for idiots..
well, one day, I came home and he had thrown away all my vitamins and meds..not the narcotics, actual prescriptions, and my kids vitamins..
he said I need to get rid of ALL TABLETS..
I was so damn pissed...the last I heard, you can't get addicted to vitamin c and e....
He is no longer my roommate....hehe..
kerry
Cowgirl, you are right about what you said..... addictive behavior is addictive behavior and, as addicts, we have to be careful. I completely agree with you.
But just like someone might go to a psychiatrist to get put on anti-depressants to help with withdrawals, I take sudafed for about a week when I quit so that I can actually get over the fatigue and get on the road to recovery a lot faster (and I've always had sinus troubles, which seem to get worse when I get off the hydrocodone).
I do understand, though, that I have a problem with the way that I think about things.... I take medicine for EVERYTHING. If I have a headache, I don't try and ride it out - I take advil. If my allergies are bothering me, I take an allegra. If I can't sleep, I take an ambien. I do need to learn to cope with certain things in my life without the mentality of "I'll just take a pill", but when you're busy all day, sometimes you don't have time to feel like crap.... lol
And it's made worse when your spouse is trying to help and be supportive, but becomes suspicious about EVERYTHING. I can be in the bathroom taking tylenol and my husband will hear the pill bottle and come running in..... Or, if I'm cleaning the house good or scrubbing the floors, he'll start asking me if I took anything. He automatically assumes the worst (can't I just have OCD like every other crazy person? LOL)
But just like someone might go to a psychiatrist to get put on anti-depressants to help with withdrawals, I take sudafed for about a week when I quit so that I can actually get over the fatigue and get on the road to recovery a lot faster (and I've always had sinus troubles, which seem to get worse when I get off the hydrocodone).
I do understand, though, that I have a problem with the way that I think about things.... I take medicine for EVERYTHING. If I have a headache, I don't try and ride it out - I take advil. If my allergies are bothering me, I take an allegra. If I can't sleep, I take an ambien. I do need to learn to cope with certain things in my life without the mentality of "I'll just take a pill", but when you're busy all day, sometimes you don't have time to feel like crap.... lol
And it's made worse when your spouse is trying to help and be supportive, but becomes suspicious about EVERYTHING. I can be in the bathroom taking tylenol and my husband will hear the pill bottle and come running in..... Or, if I'm cleaning the house good or scrubbing the floors, he'll start asking me if I took anything. He automatically assumes the worst (can't I just have OCD like every other crazy person? LOL)
