Jodi,
I'm sorry to hear that you've been unwell. Please email me when you are ready. Both Dr. M and I have spoken to Dr. H and I'd like to discuss options with you.
Love,
Gina
Hey Jodi,
Sorry to hear your feeling bad and hope you feel better soon.
I know this is non of my business but I am going to throw it out there anyway!! I am just an outsider looking in since I don't talk to either of you off the board. It would be nice if you would at least ACKNOWLEDGE Gina. It looks like she is trying to help you. It's hard to help someone that doesn't want to be helped.
IF you are NOT ready to accept the help she has to offer a simple " I will e-mail you soon" or a "no thank you" would be nice.
If you look at the last page she posted to you a FEW times on the 22nd, 23rd, 25th, 26th and yesturday the 29th. Then you come on yesturday and post about being sick and you didn't say anything to her at all. That was really kind of mean and rude. Obviously you haven't e-mailed her either or she wouldn't have posted to you again today on the 30th. This is just my opinion and your a grown woman. I am just telling you a simple " I appreciate what your doing but no thanks" goes a long way.
I haven't posted to you in a very long time. I guess because I know your not ready and I don't think anything I say will make you become ready. I have seen so many people go above and beyond to reach out to you this is just one example of you not taking it.
It's okay. When you are and when you have hit bottom you will change. When you are sick of living with a controlling man and you are done with drinking, you will change. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired you will go to rehab. You will leave your husband.
I wish the best for you. You deserve to me happy. You are the only one that can make that happen.
Everyone will be here ready to hold your hand when that time comes. Hopefully it will be soon. I am truly sorry that you are depressed. I don't want to add to your depression and isolation. Seriously you need this board more than I do. So I hope what I said doesn't make you stay away or upset you. I would just like you to take the help that is being offered. I know only you can make that choice!
Rae
Sorry to hear your feeling bad and hope you feel better soon.
I know this is non of my business but I am going to throw it out there anyway!! I am just an outsider looking in since I don't talk to either of you off the board. It would be nice if you would at least ACKNOWLEDGE Gina. It looks like she is trying to help you. It's hard to help someone that doesn't want to be helped.
IF you are NOT ready to accept the help she has to offer a simple " I will e-mail you soon" or a "no thank you" would be nice.
If you look at the last page she posted to you a FEW times on the 22nd, 23rd, 25th, 26th and yesturday the 29th. Then you come on yesturday and post about being sick and you didn't say anything to her at all. That was really kind of mean and rude. Obviously you haven't e-mailed her either or she wouldn't have posted to you again today on the 30th. This is just my opinion and your a grown woman. I am just telling you a simple " I appreciate what your doing but no thanks" goes a long way.
I haven't posted to you in a very long time. I guess because I know your not ready and I don't think anything I say will make you become ready. I have seen so many people go above and beyond to reach out to you this is just one example of you not taking it.
It's okay. When you are and when you have hit bottom you will change. When you are sick of living with a controlling man and you are done with drinking, you will change. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired you will go to rehab. You will leave your husband.
I wish the best for you. You deserve to me happy. You are the only one that can make that happen.
Everyone will be here ready to hold your hand when that time comes. Hopefully it will be soon. I am truly sorry that you are depressed. I don't want to add to your depression and isolation. Seriously you need this board more than I do. So I hope what I said doesn't make you stay away or upset you. I would just like you to take the help that is being offered. I know only you can make that choice!
Rae
I'm sorry I don't have the luxury of sitting here most of the day typing long drawn-out posts and acknowledging every post to me individually. I literally have one to two minute intervals in which I can post throughout the day.
If my staying away from here has allowed everyone's efforts and energy to be put to better use, then so be it. That's the way it should be.
I've said many times how awesome everyone here has been. I don't know what else to say.
Gina, I've told you in email how I feel about you. I'm sorry for not mentioning your name in my last post. I will email you again as soon as I can. I like to write when I have some time to write everything out thoughtfully and not rush it in one or two quick sentences. I'm sorry if I've offended you in any way.
If my staying away from here has allowed everyone's efforts and energy to be put to better use, then so be it. That's the way it should be.
I've said many times how awesome everyone here has been. I don't know what else to say.
Gina, I've told you in email how I feel about you. I'm sorry for not mentioning your name in my last post. I will email you again as soon as I can. I like to write when I have some time to write everything out thoughtfully and not rush it in one or two quick sentences. I'm sorry if I've offended you in any way.
Jodi,
I'm late for Dr. M, so quickly:
You have nothing to apologize to me for. If I have a problem with you, I'll let you know it myself.
Email me when you have a mo.
Love,
Gina
I'm late for Dr. M, so quickly:
You have nothing to apologize to me for. If I have a problem with you, I'll let you know it myself.
Email me when you have a mo.
Love,
Gina
If my staying away from here has allowed everyone's efforts and energy to be put to better use, then so be it. That's the way it should be.
Jodi, that is simply not so. You are implying that effort and energy is wasted on you, and it most definately is NOT. Nobody here is one single ounce more or less deserving of support. Some need more support than others, and you are in a rough spot right now. I know your time online is very limited, but please do not think for one second that you are less deserving than anyone else. I think about you often and if I can ever help with anything, or if you need an ear to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, please do not hesitate to email me.
Hugs,
Atlas
Jodi, that is simply not so. You are implying that effort and energy is wasted on you, and it most definately is NOT. Nobody here is one single ounce more or less deserving of support. Some need more support than others, and you are in a rough spot right now. I know your time online is very limited, but please do not think for one second that you are less deserving than anyone else. I think about you often and if I can ever help with anything, or if you need an ear to talk to or a shoulder to cry on, please do not hesitate to email me.
Hugs,
Atlas
Jodi..we'll be here when you're ready...it is just that it's frustrating when you see someone in pain going through the same stufff over and over again...Feel better...Love, Sharonn
Jodi darlin, I know your situation so please know that I understand when you don't get back to us, it's just that I worry. I was gone and didn't know what had happend. If you went back to using or not. None of my business by any means, I just wanted you to know that the offer of help will never be taken back.
Rae's right that until you're ready, there's not much any of us can do. Just be there.
Love
Lisa
Rae's right that until you're ready, there's not much any of us can do. Just be there.
Love
Lisa
I have to agree; when you are done, it will happen.
When you are, just know that you have a safe place to come. Don't be afraid to post; we have all been there.
When you are, just know that you have a safe place to come. Don't be afraid to post; we have all been there.
Sometimes reading this board causes a distorted view of addiction. It seems like the majority of people come here, get clean and stay that way for awhile. I do not think this is an accurate representation of addiction is general.
I hate to see anyone suffering through the same pain over and over again, but that is addiction. It takes most people a very long time and a very low bottom before they get out.
So yes, it is frustrating to watch someone continue to suffer. But, the addict still suffering reads this board and it just makes it seem so easy. It seems like success stories are everywhere, and they are, but quitting just isn't as easy as "the board" makes it seem. What I'm trying to say is that stastically, there are a lot more people still using or who struggled for more years than I have been alive before getting clean, than there are people who just decided to quit one day and did it the first time they tried.
The important thing is to never stop trying. It doesn't matter if you have been using for 6 months or 60 years. There is still hope even when things feel hopeless.
I hate to see anyone suffering through the same pain over and over again, but that is addiction. It takes most people a very long time and a very low bottom before they get out.
So yes, it is frustrating to watch someone continue to suffer. But, the addict still suffering reads this board and it just makes it seem so easy. It seems like success stories are everywhere, and they are, but quitting just isn't as easy as "the board" makes it seem. What I'm trying to say is that stastically, there are a lot more people still using or who struggled for more years than I have been alive before getting clean, than there are people who just decided to quit one day and did it the first time they tried.
The important thing is to never stop trying. It doesn't matter if you have been using for 6 months or 60 years. There is still hope even when things feel hopeless.
Jodi,
What Atlas said. Brilliant post.
I have nothing to add, except we love you and we worry. Please check in with one of us when you can.
Don't make me start posting song lyrics at you, Jodi. LOL
Love,
Gina
What Atlas said. Brilliant post.
I have nothing to add, except we love you and we worry. Please check in with one of us when you can.
Don't make me start posting song lyrics at you, Jodi. LOL
Love,
Gina
I'm not very good at lyrics, Gina but I could find some other way to drive her crazy....I'm good at it. Jodi doll, when you're ready, we'll be here.
Jodi check in when you get a chance. I hope your not mad at me-wink*.
I would just like to see you get the help you need.
Please check in soon. Lots of people care about you and worry about you.
Rae
I would just like to see you get the help you need.
Please check in soon. Lots of people care about you and worry about you.
Rae
Jodi,
Thank you for writing. I know you don't feel you have the right to your own life. I understand that. I spent years implicitly (and explicitly) asking for permission before I would, for example, communicate with male friends. My husband is very insecure on that score. I let a lot of old friends drop away because it caused too much trouble at home otherwise. Well, you know what? Bugger that for a lark. I wasn't doing anything wrong, and neither are you.
You're a grown woman with a job, two children and a fine intellect. You don't need to get his permission to do anything. A controlling person may say he has your best interests at heart, but that's just not true. He's never going to put your needs above his own. If he were able to do that, he'd never have preyed on you in the first place.
I'll put the information about Dr. H in an email. Kerry's offered to call detox places for you. Atlas, who has to be the most generous person in the world, has offered to go the whole nine yards (12 yards? 20 yards? LOL, I should never use sports metaphor) with you. The door is open, whether you believe it or not. You don't need his permission to get on with your life. He's got his own life. He doesn't get to live yours, too.
Love,
Gina
Thank you for writing. I know you don't feel you have the right to your own life. I understand that. I spent years implicitly (and explicitly) asking for permission before I would, for example, communicate with male friends. My husband is very insecure on that score. I let a lot of old friends drop away because it caused too much trouble at home otherwise. Well, you know what? Bugger that for a lark. I wasn't doing anything wrong, and neither are you.
You're a grown woman with a job, two children and a fine intellect. You don't need to get his permission to do anything. A controlling person may say he has your best interests at heart, but that's just not true. He's never going to put your needs above his own. If he were able to do that, he'd never have preyed on you in the first place.
I'll put the information about Dr. H in an email. Kerry's offered to call detox places for you. Atlas, who has to be the most generous person in the world, has offered to go the whole nine yards (12 yards? 20 yards? LOL, I should never use sports metaphor) with you. The door is open, whether you believe it or not. You don't need his permission to get on with your life. He's got his own life. He doesn't get to live yours, too.
Love,
Gina
