On a thread that was closed you said that you were trying hard to forgive me, well, I just wanted you to know that I have forgiven you and it feels so much better than hanging on to something that doesn't matter anymore.
Good going..........thats a step forward!!
Krazi/Traci
Hope all is going to work out for you CG.
Krazi/Traci
Hope all is going to work out for you CG.
Thank you Lisa & I hope you got my email & know I meant it in the nicest way.I have you unblocked & I feel for the sake of this board which I know we both care alot about you & I if you feel the need should work our differences out off the board.
To all others...I said I was sorry for how I behaved & I meant that,This board means more to me than any of you could know & Im ashamed for letting something continue here when it should of NEVER continued at all.
molly
To all others...I said I was sorry for how I behaved & I meant that,This board means more to me than any of you could know & Im ashamed for letting something continue here when it should of NEVER continued at all.
molly
MJ,
alot of us are guilty of that on this board....we all need to learn when to shut up and let go...Lord knows I have had to learn also
hoping you have a great day
Krazi/Traci
alot of us are guilty of that on this board....we all need to learn when to shut up and let go...Lord knows I have had to learn also
hoping you have a great day
Krazi/Traci
Tracy Thank you.I feel your right.As I know that as long as we live there is ALWAYS room to grow & learn.
You & Im sure everyone else may never know how sad I feel that something so petty got blown so far out of proportion.
As for Lisa,I mean that my heart goes out to her for what she is having to deal with.This time of year is hard enough without health issues being involved.
molly
You & Im sure everyone else may never know how sad I feel that something so petty got blown so far out of proportion.
As for Lisa,I mean that my heart goes out to her for what she is having to deal with.This time of year is hard enough without health issues being involved.
molly
You're a smart girl Tracey. Nice to see someone taking responsiblity for thier actions and not just blame everyone else.
I know when I'm an idiot. Hopefully I will always apologize for it and I am sorry for being a part of all this drama and total BS.
No email yet, MJ.
I know when I'm an idiot. Hopefully I will always apologize for it and I am sorry for being a part of all this drama and total BS.
No email yet, MJ.
Why did god have to make us females sooooo emotional??? It is so easy for us to blow up and then think later...I am so guilty of that. It is one thing I am really working on, and I for one know I am doing much better... most of us, feel its our way or screw you....but when we realize we are doing more damage then good, it is time top step back and see why we feel that way. Are we really that selfish that we can't let others feel how they want to...thats when the pushing becomes shoving and the hurt begins to each other.
I am happy that today is a new day, and things ( hopefully) are put behind and everyone moves forward.
Krazi/Traci
hugs to you both
I am happy that today is a new day, and things ( hopefully) are put behind and everyone moves forward.
Krazi/Traci
hugs to you both
Thank you Tracey. And you are so right.
We are Emo's. lol
We are Emo's. lol
Lisa...as your signature says:
Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.
WE ALL have fallen victim to this.......
Lisa if you take responsibilty of what happens, deep down it really does make you feel better. Besides it take more energy to be pissy then it is to be happy.
and it makes you a healthier person..........built up anger keeps you sick, mentally and physically..I know in my case it does, my body hurts really badly when I am angry...thats why I am trying so hard with the boys to be positive, and let things roll off easier.
Krazi/Traci
Darn it Lisa,
Its TRACI w/ an I.....LMAO
Krazi/Traci
Its TRACI w/ an I.....LMAO
Krazi/Traci
I know what you mean and I have forgiven alot of people and it does feel so much better to let it go. I just have to remember that they are sick and no better or worse off than me.
I do have a quick tongue and it's usually smartass, been that way my whole life. It's probably a defense mechinism. But I'm working on it. Learning to sit on my hands and bite my tongue. Just haven't gotten anywhere close to perfecting it. It's really hard to take care of your own crap when others are trying to do it for you and they themselves are no where near being qualified. If we all took care of our own problems, we probably would have a better shot at fixing them.
I do have a quick tongue and it's usually smartass, been that way my whole life. It's probably a defense mechinism. But I'm working on it. Learning to sit on my hands and bite my tongue. Just haven't gotten anywhere close to perfecting it. It's really hard to take care of your own crap when others are trying to do it for you and they themselves are no where near being qualified. If we all took care of our own problems, we probably would have a better shot at fixing them.
Lisa,
To be very honest with you, that is one of the main reasons I have stayed away from this board. How can we help others when we really need to work on ourselves, I found the more I sat here, the less I did for me!!! I really only try and lurk once in awhile, but I have misses everyone and felt I wanted to chat.
I am not saying I don't want to help others while working on me, but how can I help someone when I am not practicing what I preach..
And another, it is sad to see all the fighting, ( it seems to never stop, someone is always bickering) I read somewhere someone said, if this is recovery ( all the fighting and anger, backstabbing) then its not what I want. it is better to keep disagreements off the board, I sure hope what has gone down has not scared someone away who really needed the help.
Remember when we point a finger at someone 3 are pointing back at us,
Krazi/Traci
To be very honest with you, that is one of the main reasons I have stayed away from this board. How can we help others when we really need to work on ourselves, I found the more I sat here, the less I did for me!!! I really only try and lurk once in awhile, but I have misses everyone and felt I wanted to chat.
I am not saying I don't want to help others while working on me, but how can I help someone when I am not practicing what I preach..
And another, it is sad to see all the fighting, ( it seems to never stop, someone is always bickering) I read somewhere someone said, if this is recovery ( all the fighting and anger, backstabbing) then its not what I want. it is better to keep disagreements off the board, I sure hope what has gone down has not scared someone away who really needed the help.
Remember when we point a finger at someone 3 are pointing back at us,
Krazi/Traci
Lisa, As I said in the thread that got locked, I am very happy to hear that you have apologized to those you hurt, but I haven't seen it, and would love to. Where is it so I can read it and then we can move on.
I think you are still throwing out some hurtful remarks here that may be better left unsaid, don't you think?
Sorry Traci with an I lol
I've gone back and read this conversation between Traci and I Carol, and I'm sorry, I don't see where I'm saying anything hurtful. I'm talking about myself. Maybe it's the way you're interperting it? I promise, there are no digs or enuendos here.
And as far as apologizing, I don't remember what thread it was on...it might of even been on a thread that was deleted. Sorry. Hopefully you can move on now.
Take care
Lisa
I've gone back and read this conversation between Traci and I Carol, and I'm sorry, I don't see where I'm saying anything hurtful. I'm talking about myself. Maybe it's the way you're interperting it? I promise, there are no digs or enuendos here.
And as far as apologizing, I don't remember what thread it was on...it might of even been on a thread that was deleted. Sorry. Hopefully you can move on now.
Take care
Lisa
No, Lisa, I searched and searched, and it is not there, that is why it can't be found. If we all are willing to apologize and move forward, why do you still have a hard time doing so? Why is so unimaginable that Lisa would actually say" I am sorry"?
I am going to be honest with you Lisa, I have a pile of emails sitting here where people are laughing at the mere thought of you apologizing. Everyone knows you don't do that, and I told them they were wrong, that you will do it today if you truly want to keep this board peaceful like you say you do.
We have all done it. You say you have forgiven us, but you have not asked us to forgive you, and we need that in order to do it.
The ball is in your court. Do you really want peace or not?
Traci,for me one of the best ways I know for helping myself is to try & help others.Selfish?Maybe but it helps me to know Ive helped someone & Ive put my heart into it.
Do I need to work on me....Heck yeah.Ive been doing that more these past couple months more than anyone would guess.BUT I do still need to try to help others.even if its just listening to someone elses heartbreak.I do that not only for them but for me.
I realize not all will like me or want my help & support but for me TRYING to help others is a healing thing for me.
Do I need to work on me....Heck yeah.Ive been doing that more these past couple months more than anyone would guess.BUT I do still need to try to help others.even if its just listening to someone elses heartbreak.I do that not only for them but for me.
I realize not all will like me or want my help & support but for me TRYING to help others is a healing thing for me.
Lisa wrote:
You're a smart girl Tracey. Nice to see someone taking responsiblity for thier actions and not just blame everyone else.
Is this what you are referring to Carol??
For Lisa and I to even be talking is a positive step forward....I think she knows after this past year what pushes my buttons and likewise me with her....
Lisa I think has learned TOUGH LOVE is not for me..kindness is what gets me....
Lisa is good at being a tough love person......but she also has to learn who it works on and who it doesn't...no harm meant here Lisa, its just how you are. My dad is so much like that, I think that is why I went the oppisite with my kids..now they run all over me..
I feel though that when things are not going the way we want in our life, we are so easily pushed to be hard on others......thats when it is good to step away from the computer and work on ourselves.........if more of us practiced that...there would be less fighting...JMO
Krazi/Traci
Hey any of you watch Rachel Ray??? I so love her..and she didn't even go to school to be a chef.she did it all on her own!!
Krazi/Traci
You're a smart girl Tracey. Nice to see someone taking responsiblity for thier actions and not just blame everyone else.
Is this what you are referring to Carol??
For Lisa and I to even be talking is a positive step forward....I think she knows after this past year what pushes my buttons and likewise me with her....
Lisa I think has learned TOUGH LOVE is not for me..kindness is what gets me....
Lisa is good at being a tough love person......but she also has to learn who it works on and who it doesn't...no harm meant here Lisa, its just how you are. My dad is so much like that, I think that is why I went the oppisite with my kids..now they run all over me..
I feel though that when things are not going the way we want in our life, we are so easily pushed to be hard on others......thats when it is good to step away from the computer and work on ourselves.........if more of us practiced that...there would be less fighting...JMO
Krazi/Traci
Hey any of you watch Rachel Ray??? I so love her..and she didn't even go to school to be a chef.she did it all on her own!!
Krazi/Traci
Carol...I'm sorry that you missed it but I have no problem saying it again.
I am deeply sorry for any remarks that have hurt you or this board. I am also sorry for my part in any of the drama on this board.
Have a great day.
I am deeply sorry for any remarks that have hurt you or this board. I am also sorry for my part in any of the drama on this board.
Have a great day.
Thank you Lisa. I forgive you.
You have a nice day, too.
MJ,
I understand what your saying, my whole life I have tried to fix/help everyone, in turn I did more damage to myself. Don't get me wrong, I still help others and want to help others, but to do so I found out the best way is to help myself first, that way I can honsetly help others. Co-dependacy is a big thing with me...thats why I am working on me first now, to be a better person for others. Have you read the book...co-dependancy No More?? GREAT BOOK!!!
My greatest reward in helping others is being a caregiver to seniors......
Krazi/Traci
My cat Rudy has been playing peek a boo w/ me behind my desk...he is such a goof. You know when I was gone that week and a half, and before that I was in Nashville for a week, he got really homesick for me...I am not kidding, my hun was here with him at night, but he is use to me being here during the day...he had pretty much stopped eating, lost a bunch of weight, and just really sick....it was sad sad sad..........since I have been back I have been stuffing him w/ all his favorite foods and treats and love.......now he is back to be himself again....I cried when I got home and saw how he was acting...boy they sure know who their master is don't they...
I understand what your saying, my whole life I have tried to fix/help everyone, in turn I did more damage to myself. Don't get me wrong, I still help others and want to help others, but to do so I found out the best way is to help myself first, that way I can honsetly help others. Co-dependacy is a big thing with me...thats why I am working on me first now, to be a better person for others. Have you read the book...co-dependancy No More?? GREAT BOOK!!!
My greatest reward in helping others is being a caregiver to seniors......
Krazi/Traci
My cat Rudy has been playing peek a boo w/ me behind my desk...he is such a goof. You know when I was gone that week and a half, and before that I was in Nashville for a week, he got really homesick for me...I am not kidding, my hun was here with him at night, but he is use to me being here during the day...he had pretty much stopped eating, lost a bunch of weight, and just really sick....it was sad sad sad..........since I have been back I have been stuffing him w/ all his favorite foods and treats and love.......now he is back to be himself again....I cried when I got home and saw how he was acting...boy they sure know who their master is don't they...
