tom and tracy thanks you both for your support you both have always been awesome to me and i have enjoyed walking the recovery road with you guys : )
laurie and jack,
thank you both as well as i have said i try very hard not to make it about an n/a thing as it was a very crucial period in helping me get through the toughest part of that 1st month and did give me the tools i can still use and incorporate in my way of recovery, but yeah jack your right that was a pretty tough blow on the whole n/a anonomity clause. you would think there would be some kind of exception.it sometimes sucks still running to those people on the street, but oh well as i said forgiveness was a huge part of my healing. i had an awesome councelor and support team from a special friend and my church. it feels good to walk tall. i know it wasnt about me personally but about a very sick person and i just happen to be in the cross fire. it happens all to often. i had 2 choices. i picked the high road for me and my kids.
terrianne
Boo
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry that you had to endure such a horrific act of violence. I commend you for your ability to overcome and move on, and do the best for yourself and your children. I can't even imagine what you must of felt. I understand why you would never want to attend a NA meeting after all that and I would feel the same. The sad truth is that, there are good and bad people in the world. Your one of the good ones! I am proud of you, and your accomplishment, not only have you taken your recovery seriously, but have overcome a terrible ordeal. You are a ray of sunshine in world consumed with self righteous, and evil people. I am proud to call you my cyber sis!
michelle
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry that you had to endure such a horrific act of violence. I commend you for your ability to overcome and move on, and do the best for yourself and your children. I can't even imagine what you must of felt. I understand why you would never want to attend a NA meeting after all that and I would feel the same. The sad truth is that, there are good and bad people in the world. Your one of the good ones! I am proud of you, and your accomplishment, not only have you taken your recovery seriously, but have overcome a terrible ordeal. You are a ray of sunshine in world consumed with self righteous, and evil people. I am proud to call you my cyber sis!
michelle
chelle,
thanks for your kind words, and your right there is good and bad people everywhere, thats what makes the world go round. i geuss i just was bound and determined to survive with dignity. i must take after you with that strength and muscles, you know that fighter in us : ) but seriously your words mean alot to me as well as your support. i feel blessed with the out pouring of support as i was very hesitant to share this aspect of my life on the board. but now i am so glad i did.
terrianne
thanks for your kind words, and your right there is good and bad people everywhere, thats what makes the world go round. i geuss i just was bound and determined to survive with dignity. i must take after you with that strength and muscles, you know that fighter in us : ) but seriously your words mean alot to me as well as your support. i feel blessed with the out pouring of support as i was very hesitant to share this aspect of my life on the board. but now i am so glad i did.
terrianne
Boo, what a horrifying thing to happen! I can't imagine how terrified you must have been. I've led a pretty sheltered life and its hard to imagine that there are people like that in this world, but I know they exist. So, the scumbag committed suicide... I'm sure that took away your sense of closure. I would have rathered see him rot away in a prison. I'm proud of you for having the courage to share this. I'm sure it wasn't easy. I wish more women would speak out against things like this. Unfortunately, many women suffer in silence. I'm glad you aren't one of them. You're a brave soul.
Hugs,
DeNae
Hugs,
DeNae
denea,
thanks, yeah it felt alot better then i thought it would sharing it here, i wasnt sure how it would be taken, but what matters is that i have overcame the whole thing, yeah i still get flashbacks but they are just mearly thoughts, they cant hurt me, it just makes me stronger and the more people i can help then i feel even better. seriously life is good for me today. everything happens for a reason. we dont know why. we just do the best we can with what we get thrown at us. again i am overwhelmed with the support from everyone.
terrianne
thanks, yeah it felt alot better then i thought it would sharing it here, i wasnt sure how it would be taken, but what matters is that i have overcame the whole thing, yeah i still get flashbacks but they are just mearly thoughts, they cant hurt me, it just makes me stronger and the more people i can help then i feel even better. seriously life is good for me today. everything happens for a reason. we dont know why. we just do the best we can with what we get thrown at us. again i am overwhelmed with the support from everyone.
terrianne
Terrianne
I am not trying to make your experience sound any less horrifying than it was, however, if you don't let it go, it will eat you alive. I was raped by a cab driver when I was 15. I still ride in cabs. I was raped on a date. I still dated. I was raped by a friend's boyfriend but she was still my friend. That crap has to be put in the past. My life would have been missing a lot of experiences if I let a few morons make me change the way I acted and judged men.. Does that make any sense? Maybe you can find a different group of people at AA? I would hate for you to miss out on a wonderful life just because of some sick psycho.
I am not trying to make your experience sound any less horrifying than it was, however, if you don't let it go, it will eat you alive. I was raped by a cab driver when I was 15. I still ride in cabs. I was raped on a date. I still dated. I was raped by a friend's boyfriend but she was still my friend. That crap has to be put in the past. My life would have been missing a lot of experiences if I let a few morons make me change the way I acted and judged men.. Does that make any sense? Maybe you can find a different group of people at AA? I would hate for you to miss out on a wonderful life just because of some sick psycho.
12 stepper,
no offence, but who said i havent let it go, i have been through counceling, i also work a program, just not the same as you, i have forgiven my attacker, i dont have problem with men, i said it was an act of crime not a personal issue, my reason for posting was to explain why i work a different program and hopefully not be judged for it. i dont feel necessary to attend meetings, my program is god and my church and my big book is my bible i use the 12 steps in my life as well as the 10 commandments and the golden rule. i am very content confident and secure. but thank you for your concern. it is appreciated as well. and i am sorry about your experience everyone handles things differently and i am happy you were able to overcome yours as well
terrianne
no offence, but who said i havent let it go, i have been through counceling, i also work a program, just not the same as you, i have forgiven my attacker, i dont have problem with men, i said it was an act of crime not a personal issue, my reason for posting was to explain why i work a different program and hopefully not be judged for it. i dont feel necessary to attend meetings, my program is god and my church and my big book is my bible i use the 12 steps in my life as well as the 10 commandments and the golden rule. i am very content confident and secure. but thank you for your concern. it is appreciated as well. and i am sorry about your experience everyone handles things differently and i am happy you were able to overcome yours as well
terrianne
WHy are you mad at N/A?
NA didnt do anything to you? It was the man that did everything that you claim happened?
I don't see how you blame or say you have no faith in NA? NA isn't even a part of the problem at all in your situation.
I was at the Peter Lougheed Hospital for my 1st for 4 MAJOR RECTAL surgeries. See there only should of been 1 but the MOFO! Colorectal surgeon, kept screwing up and blaming me and not him!
He caused all my problems, he took away 3 yrs of my life, he caused me many, many mental, physiological pain!!!
I still like the hospital and go to that hospital. But if I ever see that surgeon again I'll break his arms and smash all his teeth out just so he can feel some of the pain he put me through......
NA didnt do anything to you? It was the man that did everything that you claim happened?
I don't see how you blame or say you have no faith in NA? NA isn't even a part of the problem at all in your situation.
I was at the Peter Lougheed Hospital for my 1st for 4 MAJOR RECTAL surgeries. See there only should of been 1 but the MOFO! Colorectal surgeon, kept screwing up and blaming me and not him!
He caused all my problems, he took away 3 yrs of my life, he caused me many, many mental, physiological pain!!!
I still like the hospital and go to that hospital. But if I ever see that surgeon again I'll break his arms and smash all his teeth out just so he can feel some of the pain he put me through......
didnt say i was mad at n/a perse i was upset with the anonomity clause, i said everywhere i know it wasnt n/a, but i am sure you didnt take the time out to read the whole picture.
terrianne
terrianne
Terrianne, I would NOT go to na either. You do not know who is lurking and why. FYI, I have heard stories where NON-ADDICTS attend these meetings and make stories up. They are hunters, you are the game.
I wanna hug you, that is HORRIBLE>
I wanna hug you, that is HORRIBLE>
oh and kiwi whats your excuse for not going to n/a just curious (doubt you'll answer anyway)
terrianne
terrianne
wendy,
thanks, yeah i know it takes all kinds but we cant let us stop us from living a healthy productive functiong life of a member of society anymore. the statistics are slim, and hopefully lightning doesnt strike twice and i am so much more ducated and to everyone that is the key to empowerment in my book.
terrianne
thanks, yeah i know it takes all kinds but we cant let us stop us from living a healthy productive functiong life of a member of society anymore. the statistics are slim, and hopefully lightning doesnt strike twice and i am so much more ducated and to everyone that is the key to empowerment in my book.
terrianne
Honestly, I dont think the statistics are as slim as you think. Any con knows how to hit on people when they are down. Some people just prey on this stuff. Rather than thinking you jinxed newcomers, I think you could have saved a life.
wendy,
this is true, you are right, not very many people have the guts to even talk about it. i am not ashamed at all. i know i didnt ask for it. i didnt do anything to provoke it. i sure hope it does do something to save someone or at least make people think that this is a very real thing and does happen and it doenst make me dirty or slutty. also that it is a crime that is serious.
terrianne
this is true, you are right, not very many people have the guts to even talk about it. i am not ashamed at all. i know i didnt ask for it. i didnt do anything to provoke it. i sure hope it does do something to save someone or at least make people think that this is a very real thing and does happen and it doenst make me dirty or slutty. also that it is a crime that is serious.
terrianne
Oh Wendy..why would you say something like that..
I would not go to NA....blah blah blah
That's so unfair. Do you see the message you are sending to new people here?
Not only is it unfair it's irresponsible.
You don't think that there are sick people everywhere in this world? You can be raped in your own home. Women aren't safe anywhere they go.
What happened to Boo is horrific and not something I would wish on anyone. But it had nothing to do with NA and I'm not sure..annonymity (don't understand that part).
Cowgirl
I would not go to NA....blah blah blah
That's so unfair. Do you see the message you are sending to new people here?
Not only is it unfair it's irresponsible.
You don't think that there are sick people everywhere in this world? You can be raped in your own home. Women aren't safe anywhere they go.
What happened to Boo is horrific and not something I would wish on anyone. But it had nothing to do with NA and I'm not sure..annonymity (don't understand that part).
Cowgirl
I love you neighbor. I wish I had better words, but sometimes maybe love is just what we all need.
xxx
Amy
awe redd,
thanks neighbor and besides laughter yep love conquers all, you couldnt have said it better and a big ol fat congrats on jack!!!! just found out my lil sis is pregnant too : )
terrianne
thanks neighbor and besides laughter yep love conquers all, you couldnt have said it better and a big ol fat congrats on jack!!!! just found out my lil sis is pregnant too : )
terrianne
Cowgirl, Why did you just come on this thread to "correct" me. Im 44 years old and thank god, I still have a mother. I have never been a good student either so her it goes: I would like the newcomers to HAVE THEIR EYES OPEN. I SAID I WOULD NOT SET MYSELF UP. Im not talking about preaching to newcomers NOT TO GO. If it were me, I would go to a womans group period.
As far as irresponsible? Please read correctly.
As far as irresponsible? Please read correctly.
Terrianne, I would NOT go to na either. You do not know who is lurking and why. FYI, I have heard stories where NON-ADDICTS attend these meetings and make stories up. They are hunters, you are the game.
and
Honestly, I dont think the statistics are as slim as you think
What are the statistics, if they're not as slim as we think?
If you don't think that these statements are ill-informed and careless, I think you need to re-evaluate. How is anything you said beneficial to Terrianne or anybody else for that matter?
and
Honestly, I dont think the statistics are as slim as you think
What are the statistics, if they're not as slim as we think?
If you don't think that these statements are ill-informed and careless, I think you need to re-evaluate. How is anything you said beneficial to Terrianne or anybody else for that matter?
"What are the statistics, if they're not as slim as we think?
If you don't think that these statements are ill-informed and careless, I think you need to re-evaluate. Nothing you stated is beneficial to Terrianne or anybody else for that manner."
Flipper, take what you need and leave the rest. Not that it is any of your business, I was thanked by terrianne for my post.
If you want to talk about careless, think back to when you were reaching out and withdrawing. Would you want your bones busted and get raped? I find anyone "CARELESS" who did not read the intent of the post. Don't you have a meeting to go to?
If you don't think that these statements are ill-informed and careless, I think you need to re-evaluate. Nothing you stated is beneficial to Terrianne or anybody else for that manner."
Flipper, take what you need and leave the rest. Not that it is any of your business, I was thanked by terrianne for my post.
If you want to talk about careless, think back to when you were reaching out and withdrawing. Would you want your bones busted and get raped? I find anyone "CARELESS" who did not read the intent of the post. Don't you have a meeting to go to?
