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I just returned home not to long ago and received a phone call from my father. He told me my sister who I am the closest to has been trying to reach me. He then goes on to tell me my sisters husband of 18 years passed away this afternoon from a heart attack. They have a 13 year old son who sat with his father on the porch along with my sister waiting for the ambulance to arrive. The ambulance arrived 45 minutes later and they tried to revive him but it was to late. She lives in Virginia and the rest of our family lives in Ct. My sister is still in shock I just got off the phone with her and this post is going no where. My thoughts are all over the place. To my sister I love you and you have always been there for me and I will be here for you now.. Carl, You are on your way to a better place don't worry about Casey we along with his mother will bring him through this and make you proud. You will always be in his heart and he will always be in yours. Travis and Shawn, I love both of you be there for your mother and remember your father loved you. Shantel
I'm so sorry for your loss, Shantell. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I am sending prayers and love your way shantal. Take time to be with your family now. My thoughts are with you, and I hope you can remain strong and do what you need to do. God is with you.
shantel..............

i am so sorry.............
God bless you...........


**hugs**

thumper
Hey Shantel,

Sorry honey...life is so bizarre isn't it? I pray that you and your family get through this. Death is never easy....but neither is life! My deepest condolences...so young...and what took so long for the ambulance...time in these situations literally mean life and death!

Hugs..Kerri
Shantel,

My thoughts are with you and your family. May God be with you.

Wendy
Shantel-

I'm sorry to hear this news. My prayers are with you.
I'm really sorry, Shantel. What a terrible thing for your family.

Travel safe. Take care of yourself.

Love, Gina
Shantel-Sorry for your loss.
Thanks guys, I talked to my sister Yvonne again late last night. I don't even think she realizes what has happened yet. It's like she is in denial. I had to tell her to go to bed and get some sleep. I cried myself to sleep imagining how my 13 year old nephew is feeling or what he is thinking at this point. There are 10 of us children in our family we all along with our parents live within a few miles of each other in Ct. except for my sister in Chicago and my sister Yvonne who moved to Virginia with her husband because he transferred there with the Navy. She hated moving away from the family and after the funeral which will be held in New York where he was from she is gonna move back to Ct. with her son. They are gonna live with us for a few months until she figures out where to go from here. Casey her son is gonna need a male figure in his life and here he will have that from my husband, my father and the other men in our family. This is only the second death we have had in our family the first one being my grandmother years ago which I barely remember because I was so young. He wanted some type of military burial so my husband is looking into that today for her. We will be traveling to New York for the funeral and then to Virginia to help her tie up all the loose ends there. You know what really sucks is she had just gotten home from church with her son and he died just after that. I am a Christain but you gotta wonder sometimes why God would take a father away from his young son at such a young age. Made me stop and think about how much I take for granted everday. Everything is just rush rush rush. Rush to get the kids to school, rush to get to work ontime, rush to get the kids to their activities. I guess what I am trying to say is don't forget to take the time in your busy day to slow down. Take time with your loved ones and let them know you love them because you never know when the day will come when you won't have that chance. Shantel
Prayers for you Shantell...and your entire family, especially your sister Yvonne and her son.

I know you will be a comfort to them during this very sad time.

Sarah
What a wonderful thing it is to have such a close family to turn to. My prayers are with you all.
thank you shantell to share such wonderful advice to us in your grief.so true we rush rush rush and one thing i try is to tell my sons that i love them every day,
your sister is so blessed to have you .
you are in my thoughts and prayers today, i am very sorry
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Hey Shantel,

Just wanted to check up on you. I hope that you are coping ok. This is just so sad. Your situation has really made me stop for a moment and realize that I don't appreciate enough the people that I love.

Thank you for a beautiful inspiring post amidst your grief! I don't deal with death very well I must admit. It first came to my life when I was very young. I have lost one very close friend since then in 93.

People die..that is true. Lets take just today to show those that we love how much we love them!!
Shantell...
I am sorry to hear about your loss...You and your family are in my prayers...

((hugs))
Stacey
Shany- Thoughts a prayers with you and your family. It makes no sense.
Love,
Jane
Again I wanted to thank you all for your kind words. Just wanted to update you guys on what was going on. My brother in law wanted to be cremated and since he had been in the Navy on submarines he wanted his ashes to be spread out at sea. There will be a memorial service on Friday for him in New York then his ashes will be returned to me and my husband. My husband is in the middle of arranging for one of the submarines here when they leave on deployment to take his ashes out to sea and hold a memorial for him. My sister won't be able to be there but they will take pictures for her to have. This has been especially hard on me because you all know my father who is in his 80's has had health problems. He served 30 years in the submarine force and his only wish when he dies is to be laid to rest at the place he calls home and that is at sea. Shantel
Hey Shantel:

My thoughts are totally with you and your family right now. I know what you mean, I don't do death well either. Yoou're incredabley (sp?) lucky to have such a big, close, family. Especially most of ya'll so close by. Hang in there, my prayers are with you
Hello Shantal, Just wondering how you are doing. I hope you are ok, check in if you can.
Lixie, Thanks for asking. We are doing fine. My family has a long road ahead of us as far as making sure my nephews and sister gets through this but we have a strong and close knit family. There is no doubt in my mind everything will work out for the best. The advantage of having a large family is if one of us falls there is always someone there to catch us and help us pick up the pieces. Enough of me last time I read your post you were going through a hard time. How are things going for you? How are the children? Shantel