I didn't mean that he has been on the computer for the first time one week. I meant he has been on it A LOT for the past week. He does get on the computer, but like I said, I always look at what he was looking at. I know how to get into my computer and see what he was doing. He doesn't know how to do it, or how to cover up what he did, that is how I know he has only done this once.
He is not exactly a genius, which is why I found out. I get upset that you think he does this all the time because I know he doesn't. I am almost always at home and I know he doesn't do this. I was gone the past few days almost all day. This conversation took place on the 24th. or the 25th.
Does he have access to another computer outside the house? Friends? Work?
Bottom line he went to a site that is for non adults. He should have known this, hell just by looking at the site it is obvious it is for kids even if he didn't read the terms of service.
I pray that it all works out for you two.
Bottom line he went to a site that is for non adults. He should have known this, hell just by looking at the site it is obvious it is for kids even if he didn't read the terms of service.
I pray that it all works out for you two.
Are you sure it is for non adults? because you can kiss and do other stuff on there to the other person. I would think if it is for non adults then non adults would not be allowed to join. And if it is for non adults then it is not appropriate, because like i said you can kiss. It is like You are in a room with whoever you are talking to and you can do actions on the person you are talking to. I don't really know because I havent really checked it out, myself. I wouldn't let my teen on that site.
And no he has no other access. He is a painter (houses) and doesn't work in an office. So at work there is no computer. His friends don't have computers, he doesn't really have friends though, but the ones he does, don't have computers.
And no he has no other access. He is a painter (houses) and doesn't work in an office. So at work there is no computer. His friends don't have computers, he doesn't really have friends though, but the ones he does, don't have computers.
Go read it for yourself. Nothing sure about it, It is what it is.
It states for Teenagers and Parents. Under the terms of service.
It states for Teenagers and Parents. Under the terms of service.
I did read it and it says "IF YOU ARE UNDER THE AGE OF 18 YOU NEED PARENTS PERMISSION TO USE THIS" It isn't just for kids, it says 13 and up. But if you are under 18 then you need your parents permission to use it.
Edit: If there is anything I know about my husband it is that he would never intentionally talk to a teen like that. He wouldn't go to a chat room that was only for teens.
I feel like you guys think he is into teenagers when he isn't. He thought he was talking to a 34 year old. What he did was really wrong, but I know he wouldn't do that with a teen.
Edit: If there is anything I know about my husband it is that he would never intentionally talk to a teen like that. He wouldn't go to a chat room that was only for teens.
I feel like you guys think he is into teenagers when he isn't. He thought he was talking to a 34 year old. What he did was really wrong, but I know he wouldn't do that with a teen.
stephy...well heres the new day..............
i hope you were able to get some rest............i know if somehitng like that happened to me that i would be hurt and very disappointed in husband
and just thinking of the leagilities would be just to overwhelming.....
at that moment..........
but i just looked up that site.........wow..........i never knew about that.
it reminds me kinda of SIMS...ya know that game on play station.
well i hope that you are scaring your husband.........
you have recieved good advice...here.......
i have to go to work today...........
have a nice day and call me if you need me........................
love you
thumper
i hope you were able to get some rest............i know if somehitng like that happened to me that i would be hurt and very disappointed in husband
and just thinking of the leagilities would be just to overwhelming.....
at that moment..........
but i just looked up that site.........wow..........i never knew about that.
it reminds me kinda of SIMS...ya know that game on play station.
well i hope that you are scaring your husband.........
you have recieved good advice...here.......
i have to go to work today...........
have a nice day and call me if you need me........................
love you
thumper
I read the site too.................and it makes it pretty clear it is for all ages.............Even says if you are a minor you need a parents permission.
I didnt see anywhere that it was a child or teen site..........
Looks like more of an adult chat area to me.
Relax Steph,
Love ya girl.
I am not saying it is right, just saying I dont think her husband was hunting down a minor.
I didnt see anywhere that it was a child or teen site..........
Looks like more of an adult chat area to me.
Relax Steph,
Love ya girl.
I am not saying it is right, just saying I dont think her husband was hunting down a minor.
If I were you, I would reread the advice given by VW and Sammy....this is very serious, whether it is his first time or not...yes, girls to lie about being in their 30's when they are only 15......
VW,
As the mother of two 15yr old daughters, I understand where you are coming from, completely....I admire your work on these issues and have used your advice months ago regarding the myspace...
Thank you,
Stacey
VW,
As the mother of two 15yr old daughters, I understand where you are coming from, completely....I admire your work on these issues and have used your advice months ago regarding the myspace...
Thank you,
Stacey
Hey Stephy,
None of this is your fault, so just relax. I am sorry you are going through this rough patch in your marriage. I wish i was there for you more to talk to, but I have kept you in my thoughts.
Him being embaressed or not, you two have got to sit down and talk some of this over. it is completely unacceptable.
You know where to find me.
Love you
stac
None of this is your fault, so just relax. I am sorry you are going through this rough patch in your marriage. I wish i was there for you more to talk to, but I have kept you in my thoughts.
Him being embaressed or not, you two have got to sit down and talk some of this over. it is completely unacceptable.
You know where to find me.
Love you
stac
Well like I have said a dozen times, I think this woman was just telling me that she was 15, to seem innocent. I read what they were writing to each other and I don't think there is anyway a 15 would know some of the things that were said. This woman talked like a professional, then she left him a message saying that she needed a Sexual toy after talking to him and even put up a link to the one she wanted to use. It sounded more like a woman then a 15 year old.
I was 15 not too long ago, I know that they can lie, but most likely they would say they are 20-25.
I was 15 not too long ago, I know that they can lie, but most likely they would say they are 20-25.
Stephanie...
The bottom line, is this okay for you? Even if she was really 30 something, is what your husband done okay with you? Simple question and something that only you can answer....
For me, confronting things that hurt, when I was using I would get loaded...today, it's an indication for change and the only way through, is through..."To thy own self be true"
Take care of yourself,
Stacey
The bottom line, is this okay for you? Even if she was really 30 something, is what your husband done okay with you? Simple question and something that only you can answer....
For me, confronting things that hurt, when I was using I would get loaded...today, it's an indication for change and the only way through, is through..."To thy own self be true"
Take care of yourself,
Stacey
I think the title "Very Upset, .Don't know what to do" would say if she is ok or not with it.... don't you think? Obviously it's not...JMO
Ditto that Stace.
Of course I am not okay with it. But rubbing in my face that he could go to jail because this person MIGHT be 15 is not helping me.
Steph-
I agree completely. You came here for support, and scaring the heck out of you, is just adding insult to injury right now.
You are hurting and that is all that matters...........I am sorry this happened, and hope you and your husband can work through this.
Hugs.
I agree completely. You came here for support, and scaring the heck out of you, is just adding insult to injury right now.
You are hurting and that is all that matters...........I am sorry this happened, and hope you and your husband can work through this.
Hugs.
Thank you Java, thank you a lot. You and Thumper have shown me so much support and I great appreciate it.
Stephanie:
I am going to give you my opinion, since you asked for help.
I didn't read any post accept your initial one, and my reaction was so strong that I just came right here to tell you this:
THROW YOUR ENTIRE COMPUTER IN THE GARBAGE. While you are at it, you may want to put your televisions in the closet for a few months. Live in the here and now and in the real world. Look into one anothers eyes, hold hands...
Electronic Media, while basically a good thing, allows us all to wear certain masks very easily. It can be unhealthy as well. Just dump the whole computer and learn to be present with your family in the present.
God Bless You.
Sarah
I am going to give you my opinion, since you asked for help.
I didn't read any post accept your initial one, and my reaction was so strong that I just came right here to tell you this:
THROW YOUR ENTIRE COMPUTER IN THE GARBAGE. While you are at it, you may want to put your televisions in the closet for a few months. Live in the here and now and in the real world. Look into one anothers eyes, hold hands...
Electronic Media, while basically a good thing, allows us all to wear certain masks very easily. It can be unhealthy as well. Just dump the whole computer and learn to be present with your family in the present.
God Bless You.
Sarah
I am sorry...I thought when she posted this along with her poll she was asking for advice...I was trying to get her to think about the issue obviously it didn't go over that way...
You know, I usually stay away from these threads as I have no experience with this issue so please forgive me for interrupting this thread...sometimes, it is one of my defects to try and help somebody but I have to realize we are not all alike and should have never posted here...thank you Java and Stacey for pointing this out to me...
Stephanie, I will say a prayer for you and hope that you receive the answer you want...
God bless
You know, I usually stay away from these threads as I have no experience with this issue so please forgive me for interrupting this thread...sometimes, it is one of my defects to try and help somebody but I have to realize we are not all alike and should have never posted here...thank you Java and Stacey for pointing this out to me...
Stephanie, I will say a prayer for you and hope that you receive the answer you want...
God bless
Hi Stephanie
Wow. Im really sorry. The whole situation pretty much sucks. My opinion would be that he didnt think he was doing anything wrong since it was over the internet and figured he would never really meet her. He probably stumbeled across the site and had some thoughts running through his mind. I mean I think men think about sex every 10 seconds or something like that? Who knows. I would be hurt and pissed off too and I would make my husband regret it thats for sure. I hope everything works out for you. It was probably just like getting into a video game for him, Im sure his heart wasnt into it--- not that what he did was right... just trying to look for some hope for you here. I know my girlfriend did it in her 20's and I was with her, and we were laughing and cracking up at the whole thing. It meant nothing. This was ages ago, like when she first got a computer. good luck-- Im real sorry youre going through this. take care, Fire
Wow. Im really sorry. The whole situation pretty much sucks. My opinion would be that he didnt think he was doing anything wrong since it was over the internet and figured he would never really meet her. He probably stumbeled across the site and had some thoughts running through his mind. I mean I think men think about sex every 10 seconds or something like that? Who knows. I would be hurt and pissed off too and I would make my husband regret it thats for sure. I hope everything works out for you. It was probably just like getting into a video game for him, Im sure his heart wasnt into it--- not that what he did was right... just trying to look for some hope for you here. I know my girlfriend did it in her 20's and I was with her, and we were laughing and cracking up at the whole thing. It meant nothing. This was ages ago, like when she first got a computer. good luck-- Im real sorry youre going through this. take care, Fire
Sweet Pea I am a man who happens to love woman. But there is a limit. Shoot I am single and have tried Jdate why? Cause a bunch of my friends said what you have to lose?
So I did it 3 times maybe a 4th go round.
But Steph JMO but this is CHEATING. You have 3 Kids? and he is on the computer playing chit chat.?
During my marriage ? I was never on the computer. I was out making money so my kids could live the life I did . And I worked hard man. I came home ? My ex cooked we were far from perfect but I can only speak for my ex and I( .
StephI I left My ex and she called me every name in the book. Running out on my family as she thought i was going to go after her.
Well basically I just left. Got enough $$ and could not throw my kids out on the street. I could not change there way of life so i made the sacrifice fro my freedom.
Stephanie men who playing and conversing with other woman on the net?
I am sorry for you. Can your family help you out. Get away from this guy?
Its easy for me to say puck him and leave but let me tell you steph you are one hot looking woman.
Have a fun personality from what I read. You DO NOT DESERVE THIS.
I could not believe reading this. You do have 3 kids? This kinda blew me away. I pray you get some help from family --friends yo have the boards support.
I am truly sorry.
Stephanie
So I did it 3 times maybe a 4th go round.
But Steph JMO but this is CHEATING. You have 3 Kids? and he is on the computer playing chit chat.?
During my marriage ? I was never on the computer. I was out making money so my kids could live the life I did . And I worked hard man. I came home ? My ex cooked we were far from perfect but I can only speak for my ex and I( .
StephI I left My ex and she called me every name in the book. Running out on my family as she thought i was going to go after her.
Well basically I just left. Got enough $$ and could not throw my kids out on the street. I could not change there way of life so i made the sacrifice fro my freedom.
Stephanie men who playing and conversing with other woman on the net?
I am sorry for you. Can your family help you out. Get away from this guy?
Its easy for me to say puck him and leave but let me tell you steph you are one hot looking woman.
Have a fun personality from what I read. You DO NOT DESERVE THIS.
I could not believe reading this. You do have 3 kids? This kinda blew me away. I pray you get some help from family --friends yo have the boards support.
I am truly sorry.
Stephanie
